Ppl often stay in abusive relationships bc of something called 'trauma bonding' — here are the signs it's happening to you ian dooley / Unsplash People often don't even realise they are in an abusive relationship. It can be hard for others to understand why someone stays with an abusive partner. Those who have never been in an abusive relationship struggle to understand how people remain in one for so long. For survivors, this can be a really tough question to answer. This is because we are conditioned to believe abuse is always physical. According to therapist Shannon Thomas, author of "Healing from Hidden Abuse," psychological abuse is insidious, and it occurs a over time like an IV drip of poison entering your veins. It starts with an off-hand comment here, or an insult there, but often victims brush these moments off. People stay in these relationships partly because they are trying to win back the abuser's affection. It's a bit like becoming addicted to a drug. "You have this back and forth, and the body becomes addicted," Thomas said.
Christopher Donohue: How people treat other peo... What makes a hero? - Matthew Winkler The Hero Archetype in Literature, Religion, and Popular Culture: (along with a useful PowerPoint presentation teachers can download at this URL: ) Maricopa Center for Learning and Instruction (users embark on their own hero's journey): An American Masters Lesson from PBS for Teachers on George Lucas, the Power of Myth, and the Hero's Journey: And an interactive approach to the Hero's Journey: And of course, information about Joseph Campbell's works on the subject, on the Joseph Campbell Foundation site: The Hero With A Thousand Faces The Hero's Journey (semi-biographical film): Challenge the paradigm.
35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life | Dr. Carmen Harra If you believe the phrase you are what you think, then life truly stems from your thoughts. But we cannot rely purely on thoughts; we must translate thoughts into words and eventually into actions in order to manifest our intentions. This means we have to be very careful with our words, choosing to speak only those which work towards our benefit and cultivate our highest good. Affirmations help purify our thoughts and restructure the dynamic of our brains so that we truly begin to think nothing is impossible. The word affirmation comes from the Latin affirmare, originally meaning “to make steady, strengthen.” Affirmations do indeed strengthen us by helping us believe in the potential of an action we desire to manifest. The art of the spoken word is critical in crafting our futures. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) 6.) 7.) 8.) 9.) 10.) 11.) 12.) 13.) 14.) 15.) 16.) 17.) 18.) 19.) 20.) 21.) 22.) 23.) 24.) 25.) 26.) 27.) 28.) 29.) 30.) 31.) 32.) 33.) 34.) 35.) Affirming my love, Dr. For more by Dr.
The Impact of Trauma | Echo Parenting & Education Loss of safety: The world becomes a place where anything can happen. Loss of danger cues: How do you know what is dangerous when someone you trust hurts you and this is then your ‘normal?’ Loss of trust: This is especially true if the abuser is a family member or a close family friend. Shame: Huge, overwhelming, debilitating shame. Loss of intimacy: For survivors of sexual abuse, sexual relationships can either become something to avoid or are entered into for approval (since the child learns that sex is a way to get the attention they crave) and the person may be labeled ‘promiscuous.’ Dissociation: Often, to cope with what is happening to the body during the abuse, the child will dissociate (disconnect the consciousness from what is happening). Loss of physical connection to body: Survivors of sexual and physical abuse often have a hard time being in their body.
FourBuckets : Fourbuckets creative workspace... Working backward to solve problems - Maurice Ashley See Maurice Ashley's blog here. He's the international chess grandmaster, and his motto is, "Your passion is your window to the world." In chess, retrograde analysis is a computational method used to solve game positions for optimal play by working backward from known outcomes (e.g. checkmate), such as the construction of endgame tablebases. Here is a list of requirements (the whole handbook, actually) for a chess grandmaster.
Optimism Quotes (1547 quotes) “Promise Yourself To be so strong that nothingcan disturb your peace of mind.To talk health, happiness, and prosperityto every person you meet. To make all your friends feelthat there is something in themTo look at the sunny side of everythingand make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best,and to expect only the best.To be just as enthusiastic about the success of othersas you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the pastand press on to the greater achievements of the future.To wear a cheerful countenance at all timesand give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourselfthat you have no time to criticize others.To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.