Ppl often stay in abusive relationships bc of something called 'trauma bonding' — here are the signs it's happening to you ian dooley / Unsplash People often don't even realise they are in an abusive relationship. It can be hard for others to understand why someone stays with an abusive partner. Those who have never been in an abusive relationship struggle to understand how people remain in one for so long. For survivors, this can be a really tough question to answer. This is because we are conditioned to believe abuse is always physical. According to therapist Shannon Thomas, author of "Healing from Hidden Abuse," psychological abuse is insidious, and it occurs a over time like an IV drip of poison entering your veins. It starts with an off-hand comment here, or an insult there, but often victims brush these moments off. People stay in these relationships partly because they are trying to win back the abuser's affection. It's a bit like becoming addicted to a drug. "You have this back and forth, and the body becomes addicted," Thomas said.
Christopher Donohue: How people treat other peo... What makes a hero? - Matthew Winkler The Hero Archetype in Literature, Religion, and Popular Culture: (along with a useful PowerPoint presentation teachers can download at this URL: ) Maricopa Center for Learning and Instruction (users embark on their own hero's journey): An American Masters Lesson from PBS for Teachers on George Lucas, the Power of Myth, and the Hero's Journey: And an interactive approach to the Hero's Journey: And of course, information about Joseph Campbell's works on the subject, on the Joseph Campbell Foundation site: The Hero With A Thousand Faces The Hero's Journey (semi-biographical film): Challenge the paradigm.
35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life | Dr. Carmen Harra If you believe the phrase you are what you think, then life truly stems from your thoughts. But we cannot rely purely on thoughts; we must translate thoughts into words and eventually into actions in order to manifest our intentions. This means we have to be very careful with our words, choosing to speak only those which work towards our benefit and cultivate our highest good. Affirmations help purify our thoughts and restructure the dynamic of our brains so that we truly begin to think nothing is impossible. The word affirmation comes from the Latin affirmare, originally meaning “to make steady, strengthen.” Affirmations do indeed strengthen us by helping us believe in the potential of an action we desire to manifest. The art of the spoken word is critical in crafting our futures. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) 5.) 6.) 7.) 8.) 9.) 10.) 11.) 12.) 13.) 14.) 15.) 16.) 17.) 18.) 19.) 20.) 21.) 22.) 23.) 24.) 25.) 26.) 27.) 28.) 29.) 30.) 31.) 32.) 33.) 34.) 35.) Affirming my love, Dr. For more by Dr.
The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Drama Triangle Skip to content The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Victim Triangle By Lynne Forrest By Lynne Forrest Whether we know it, or not, most of us react to life as victims. Victim-hood can be defined by the three positions beautifully outlined in a diagram developed by a well respected psychiatrist, and teacher of Transactional Analysis, named Stephen Karpman. I’ve sometimes referred to the victim triangle as a “shame generator” because through it we unconsciously re-enact painful life themes that create shame. I believe that every dysfunctional interaction, in relationship with other or self, takes place on the victim triangle. The three roles on the victim triangle are Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim. Each person has a primary or most familiar role – what I call their “starting gate” position. Starting gate Rescuers (SGR) see themselves as “helpers” and “caretakers.” Starting Gate Persecutors (SGP), on the other hand, identify themselves primarily as victims. Rescuer Persecutor Victim
FourBuckets : Fourbuckets creative workspace... Working backward to solve problems - Maurice Ashley See Maurice Ashley's blog here. He's the international chess grandmaster, and his motto is, "Your passion is your window to the world." In chess, retrograde analysis is a computational method used to solve game positions for optimal play by working backward from known outcomes (e.g. checkmate), such as the construction of endgame tablebases. Here is a list of requirements (the whole handbook, actually) for a chess grandmaster.
Optimism Quotes (1547 quotes) “Promise Yourself To be so strong that nothingcan disturb your peace of mind.To talk health, happiness, and prosperityto every person you meet. To make all your friends feelthat there is something in themTo look at the sunny side of everythingand make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best,and to expect only the best.To be just as enthusiastic about the success of othersas you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the pastand press on to the greater achievements of the future.To wear a cheerful countenance at all timesand give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourselfthat you have no time to criticize others.To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.