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Photo: Vanessa Paxton I find myself blurting out I don’t know as an instant answer to questions I don’t have immediate answers for. Lately, I’ve been noting how these simple words made me feel, and I’m starting to take notice that on some level, these casual words are effecting my emotions and self-esteem. Saying I don’t know , I’m sorry , I can’t and “ I don’t want to but have to” are slowly changing my mindset. Through my observations, I’ve noticed how common it is to use these popular phrases without giving them a second thought.
Power of Language - I’m Sorry, I Don’t Know, I Can’t
How to detect bullshit
Everyone lies: it’s just a question of how, when and why. From the relationship saving “yes, you do look thin in those pants” to the improbable “your table will be ready in 5 minutes”, manipulating the truth is part of the human condition. Accept it now. I’m positive that given our irrational nature and difficultly accepting tough truths, we’re collectively better off with some of our deceptions. They buffer us from each other (and from ourselves), avoid unnecessary conflicts, and keep the wonderful confusion of our psychologies tucked away from those who don’t care. White lies are the spackle of civilization, tucked into the dirty corners and crevices our necessary, but pretentiously inflexible idealisms create.
How to become a master connector
Having a strong personal brand is important for your career. It's how you differentiate yourself and stand out from the crowd. One good way to build your personal brand is blogging . Your blog is a platform where you can share your ideas to the world and build your reputation. But, to look professional, you need your own domain name (e.g. yourname .com) rather than using a free blog (e.g. yourname .blogspot.com).
Being socialable is a very easy thing to do, and it shouldn’t be something you’re either good at or not. You can learn to become a more social person – if you want to. Generally extroverts will have less trouble getting out and talking to new people, but that’s to be expected.
How to be good at socializing
We’ve talked about making yourself more approachable and initiating conversation . Now, hopefully, you’ve gone and got yourselves into some conversations you wish you hadn’t. There are 3 reasons you might stay in a conversation that you want to leave: You’re too polite – Many of us feel like it’s rude to leave someone alone after talking to them for a few minutes. It isn’t. People have things to do, and talking is just talking.
How to exit a conversation