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13 Ways Successful People Improve Themselves - I was surprised when I realized that the same steps that I'd used to get into medical school are the same steps I'm now taking to improve my health. Whether you're trying to better your health, career, or yourself—there are some recurring secrets and habits that successful people use, and I thought it would be helpful to list them here. 1. They use small habits to get big results. I love this quote by Seth Godin: "Your audacious life goals are fabulous. The "shift in daily habits" is the hard part. Before Jerry Seinfeld got so famous, he used a daily ritual of writing a little bit of material every day to refine his material. 2. Writing down the reason you want to make a change in your life creates accountability. 3. A well-established body of research tells us that willpower is a finite resource.

So when it comes to changing your dietary habits, for example, rely less on willpower—instead change your path so you're not tempted by sugary treats multiple times a day. 4. 5. 6. 8. 9. 10. How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To. When do we really learn good conversation skills? Well, we don’t. We’re just kind of expected to pick them up… And we wonder why people aren’t better communicators. How can you be that person people love to talk to? I’ve posted a lot of research and expert interviews on the subject so let’s round up the info and make it actionable. In this post you’ll learn: How to make a good first impression.How to be a great listener.What the best subjects to discuss are.How to prevent awkward silences.How to politely end a conversation. And a lot more. How To Make A Good First Impression First impressions really are a big deal and talking to new people can be daunting, no doubt.

It’s simple, really. Social optimists, of course, are in the happy position of expecting to be accepted and finding that, generally speaking, they are. Don’t take the cliche advice and “just be yourself.” Smiles are powerful and make you more attractive. FBI behavior expert Robin Dreeke recommends speaking slowly. Wrong question. What Successful People Do On The Weekend. 30 Self-Help Books That Permanently Changed My Life. This story originally appeared on I was the kid in high school who agonized over whether I had interacted with the popular girls the "right" way as we passed in the hallway between classes. Every moment a potential minefield or humiliation. To seem stupid. To look like a loser. There was this fakey hug-kiss thing that started when I was a freshman that was so hard for me to not feel like a dork when I mimicked.

It was all so stressful. I felt wrong, wrong, wrong. I don't know how much was nature and how much was nurture, but I know I was a very sensitive, hyper-aware kid who felt things very intensely. Then, everything in my life and perspective dramatically changed — when I got divorced at the age of 30. The dark wrongness now permeated everywhere in my life, and somewhere along the way I think I realized: If everything is wrong, then maybe nothing is. This is when I first wholeheartedly gave the whole stupid embarrassing oeuvre of self-help a chance. Related P.S. 1. 2. 3. 4. 13 things mentally strong people don’t do. Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.

Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.2. Source: LifeHack. Public Speaking Tips. In my mind, there are two kinds of attention: neck down, and neck up. Neck-up attention is when the listener has to make an effort to pay attention.

Neck-down attention is when the listener is riveted to the speaker: she can't help but pay attention. Please note that, in our language of English, attention is paid because attention is a valuable currency. When listeners pay attention, they are rewarding you with arguably the most valuable currency in the world. Here are 10 techniques that are guaranteed to earn you more attention without losing any of your professional credibility. 1.

Start with a bang, not a whimper. "We stand today at a place of battle, one that 40 years ago saw and felt the worst of war. " Each of these opening lines makes us lean in, lend an ear, and wonder where the speaker will take us. 2. Now that you've gotten listeners' attention with your magnetic opening, make the story about them. 3. Show a prop. 4. Not just in terms of pace, but in terms of development. 5. 6. 7 Insane Ways Music Affects The Body (According to Science) The world is chock full of ear hurt that some people willingly refer to as music. The Jonas Brothers, Lady Gaga, Conway Twitty; they all produce high quality records and 8-tracks for our enjoyment whether we like it or not. But music--even terrible music--has a stunning amount of power over our bodies. For instance science says music can...

Slapping neuroscience right across the face, music is able to take stroke, lesion or other brain-damaged patients who have lost the partial ability to see or speak and return it to them. As long as she's dancing to Kenny Rogers... Patients with left-side brain damage who can no longer speak can find they are able to sing words, often without trouble or training. How Does it Work? Melodic intonation therapy, or singing until you can talk, takes advantage of the fact that language functions are located in the left brain, but music lives over on the right side of the brain.

Dopamine is your brain's natural crack Boost Your Immune System. 7 Reasons Why You Will Never Do Anything Amazing With Your Life — Life Learning. 1 :: Because You Have Not Failed Enough Because you are comfortable in your mediocrity; because you choose not to try. Because it is easier to talk about learning that new (programming?) Language as opposed to actually learning it. Because you think everything is too hard or too complicated so you will just “sit this one out”, or maybe you’ll, “do-it-tomorrow”!

Because you hate your job but won’t get a new one; because it is easy to reject rejection. Because while you’re sitting around failing to try, I am out there trying to fail, challenging myself, learning new things and failing as fast as possible. Because as I fail, I learn, and then adjust my course to make sure my path is always forward. 2 :: Because You Care What Others Think About You Because you have to fit in. Because you believe that being different is only cool if you’re different in the same way that other people are different. Because you are afraid to embrace your true self for fear of how the world will see you.

9 Steps To New Year's Resolutions That Last Longer Than New Year's Day. Hard Things You Need To Do To Be Successful. You have to make the call you’re afraid to make. You have to get up earlier than you want to get up. You have to give more than you get in return right away. You have to care more about others than they care about you. You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore. You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter. You have to lead when no one else is following you yet. You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is. You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have. You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off. You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”. You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot. You have to try and fail and try again. You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath. You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you. The things that no one else is doing. Top 10 Motivational Books of All Time. In previous posts, I've identified the most influential business books of all time and the best sales books of all time. In this post, I list the books that drive readers to change their lives, improve their lot, and build better careers. Beware of the final (No. 1) book! 10. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People While he gets a bit preachy sometimes, Stephen Covey's road map for living doesn't just help you develop better habits.

It also convinces you that acquiring them will make you a better person. Best quote: "Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny. " 9. Prior to Dale Carnegie's classic, mixing business relationships with personal relationships was considered a bit underhanded, like nepotism. 8. Napoleon Hill interviewed "40 millionaires" to discover the common thought processes and behaviors that had led to their success. Best quote: "All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination. 7. 10 videos to inspire you and make you think: 10 videos to inspire you and make you think: How to find your passion. How to network: 5 methods by top experts. They say networking is vital but nobody explains how to network How to network is the real question. But first, in case you’re a doubter, some quick proof that networking is essential: Research shows networking is essential to staying employed, salary growth and job satisfaction.It makes you more likely to get a job.

Via Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference: In his classic 1974 study Getting a Job, Granovetter…found that 56 percent of those he talked to found their job through a personal connection. More likely to be successful in a job. Via The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work: MIT researchers…found that the more socially connected the IBM employees were, the better they performed. And more likely to be creative on the job. Via Imagine: How Creativity Works: So why aren’t there any good resources on the nitty gritty of how to network? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5) Just be a friend Tags: Interview - The top Wharton Business School professor teaches you the right way to approach give and take.

How do you find the best mentor for you? Mentors have been essential for me. No matter how many books you read or how much time you spend researching on the web, mentors are still a crucial part of learning in any arena. So how do you find a great one? Daniel Coyle goes through the research in his excellent book The Little Book of Talent: 52 Tips for Improving Your Skills and pulls together five points: 1) Avoid Someone Who Reminds You of a Courteous Waiter …one who focuses his efforts on keeping you comfortable and happy, on making things go smoothly, with a minimum of effort… This is a good person to have as your waiter in a restaurant, but a terrible person to have as your teacher, coach, or mentor. 2) Seek Someone Who Scares You a Little Look for someone who: Watches you closely: He is interested in figuring you out— what you want, where you’re coming from, what motivates you.

Is honest, sometimes unnervingly so: He will tell you the truth about your performance in clear language. 3) Seek Someone Who Gives Short, Clear Directions. How To Make Your Life Better By Sending Five Simple Emails. 4 Easy Ways You Can Resolve Some Of Life’s Toughest Questions. What good work habits do nearly all geniuses have in common? 12 tactics to become more charismatic and influential. What is it that makes leaders stand out – what makes people want to leave cushy corporate jobs for their startup ideas, vote for them, give them money for their wild ideas, in a word: follow them? According to professor John Antonakis, a professor of organisational behaviour at the University of Lausanne, the answer is simple: they’re charismatic. He even developed a “charisma” model to predict who people will vote for: And, he says, you can learn charisma.

Antonakis and his colleagues developed both a training to become more charismatic, and a test to see whether the training worked. ”We tested whether we could teach individuals to behave more charismatically, and whether changes in charisma affected leader outcomes.” Results from the studies indicated that the training had significant effects on ratings of leader charisma.” The first 9 of them are verbal tactics. Use (1) metaphors, similes, analogies Tell (2) stories and anecdotes So, don’t go overboard when using this. (3) Use contrasts. How even the most timid can teach themselves instant charisma.

By Louise Atkinson Published: 21:30 GMT, 29 July 2012 | Updated: 07:11 GMT, 30 July 2012 Princess Diana had it, Helen Mirren has it and Davina McCall has it in spades. Some people effortlessly ooze a natural air of confidence and composure that puts everyone at ease — people hang on their every word and they never seem short of friends, lovers or money. You might assume that with charisma you either have it or you don’t, but experts now say anyone can learn it, and the effect can be life-changing. In a fascinating new book The Charisma Myth, behavioural scientist Olivia Fox Cabane claims even the most timid and self-effacing can master the art and science of personal magnetism, thanks to techniques drawn from behavioural psychology, neuroscience and meditation.

Natural charisma: Princess Diana, left, was able to put people at ease, while Dame Helen Mirren, right, ooze a natural air of confidence Puff out your chest Listen, listen, listen Great conversationalists exude charisma. How To Make Your Life Better By Sending Five Simple Emails. Improve Your Life: What 10 Things Should You Do Every Day To Improve Your Life? 10 things that scientific research shows can help improve your life. 1) Get out in nature You probably seriously underestimate how important this is. (Actually, there’s research that says you do.) Being in nature reduces stress, makes you more creative, improves your memory and may even make you a better person. 2) Exercise We all know how important this is, but few people do it consistently. 3) Spend time with friends and family Harvard happiness expert Daniel Gilbert identified this as one of the biggest sources of happiness in our lives. 4) Express gratitude It will make you happier.

It will improve your relationships. It can make you a better person. It can make life better for everyone around you. 5) Meditate Meditation can increase happiness, meaning in life, social support and attention span while reducing anger, anxiety, depression and fatigue. 6) Get enough sleep You can’t cheat yourself on sleep and not have it affect you.

Naps are great too. 7) Challenge yourself 8) Laugh 9) Touch someone. 6 hostage negotiation techniques that will get you what you want. How does hostage negotiation get people to change their minds? The Behavioral Change Stairway Model was developed by the FBI’s hostage negotiation unit, and it shows the 5 steps to getting someone else to see your point of view and change what they’re doing. It’s not something that only works with barricaded criminals wielding assault rifles — it applies to most any form of disagreement. There are five steps: Active Listening: Listen to their side and make them aware you’re listening.Empathy: You get an understanding of where they’re coming from and how they feel.Rapport: Empathy is what you feel.

The problem is, you’re probably screwing it up. What you’re doing wrong In all likelihood you usually skip the first three steps. And that never works. Saying “Here’s why I’m right and you’re wrong” might be effective if people were fundamentally rational. But they’re not. From my interview with former head of FBI international hostage negotiation, Chris Voss: The other steps all follow from it. 1. 2. 4 Easy Ways You Can Resolve Some Of Life’s Toughest Questions. Robin Sharma - 35 Tips for life. How I Beat Procrastination. Making of: Septiembre 2010 Bianca Balti. Harper's Bazaar Spain.