To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This I Googled Dr. Aron’s questions; there are 36. We spent the next two hours passing my iPhone across the table, alternately posing each question. They began innocuously: “Would you like to be famous? But they quickly became probing. In response to the prompt, “Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common,” he looked at me and said, “I think we’re both interested in each other.” I grinned and gulped my beer as he listed two more commonalities I then promptly forgot. The questions reminded me of the infamous boiling frog experiment in which the frog doesn’t feel the water getting hotter until it’s too late. I liked learning about myself through my answers, but I liked learning things about him even more. I sat alone at our table, aware of my surroundings for the first time in an hour, and wondered if anyone had been listening to our conversation. We all have a narrative of ourselves that we offer up to strangers and acquaintances, but Dr. Much of Dr. “Here?”
The Capilano Suspension Bridge experiment - All Men are Liars - Executive Style - <!--#echo var='SITE_F' --> Blogs In 1974, psychologists Donald Dutton and Arthur Aron conducted a study commonly known as the Capilano Suspension Bridge experiment. In it, 85 males between 18 and 35 were interviewed after they'd walked across one of two bridges over the Capilano River in North Vancouver, Canada. The study said: "The 'experimental' bridge was the Capilano Canyon Suspension Bridge, a five-foot-wide, 450-foot-long bridge constructed of wooden boards attached to wire cables that ran from one side to the other of the Capilano Canyon" and had "a tendency to tilt, sway and wobble" as well as "very low handrails of wire cable ... creating the impression that one is about to fall over the side" - a very long drop to the ground. "The 'control' bridge was a solid wood bridge further upriver. "Then I'll give them a list of 20 or so words that describe their experience," Willis said, "then I'll try and pick them up." Willis then hit on all of the women, on camera, with equally amusing results. Why?
How to Be a Good Kisser – 10 Tips From Scientific Research What Does Science Say About How To Be A Good Kisser? Regular readers might be saying “What the hell is this, Cosmo Magazine?” In all fairness, how to be a good kisser is something no one really gets instruction in. Yet, it can be a huge part of one’s personal life and the sources we do get info from are, well, far from scientific. Let’s tackle it. Have No Illusions: Kissing Is Important Research shows kissing frequency correlates with relationship satisfaction. Via The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us: Overall, the researchers showed that the amount a couple kissed was proportional to their stated level of relationship satisfaction. 59% of men and 66% of women have ended a relationship because someone was a bad kisser. The first kiss is a necessary risk in every budding sexual relationship; a recent psychology study found that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women reported breaking things off with a prospective partner because of it. And that’s actually true. Why Do We Kiss?
The Bookstore Date by Tara Bookstore Date “Choose Your Own Adventure” on this memorable date night! I love, love, love to read!! So much so, that a particular book was my inspiration for one of my previous dates, the “Choose Your Own Adventure” Date. My husband, on the other hand, would rather do anything else instead of reading! Most of the dates I have posted so far have been pretty crazy….meaning, you would have to have an *extrovert* type of personality to do them. We started off by eating at a super-friendly-to-the-budget eatery. Afterwards, I handed him this: You can download this invite & both task cards HERE! Yeah…he wasn’t too thrilled at first! Once we were there, we found a cozy little spot and I presented him with the FIRST of two “Task Cards”. #1 – Visit the COOKING section & chose a recipe that you would like to make for your spouse. #2 – Visit the MAGAZINE section & find a quiz in a magazine that you and your spouse could do together. Now, you can do this two different ways! Now…confession time!
The Science Of Love Valentines Day is coming up! We wanted to post all of our favorite articles and videos on romance, love, sex and dating for your enjoyment. What’s Your Love Language? Do you know the 5 love languages? How to Make People Want You What is the psychology of attraction? 13 Great First Date Questions Whether you are going on your 1st or 10th date you need to have some great conversation starters. The 3 Stages of Love What are the stages of love? The Single Best Pick-Up Line Ever Research has found one pick up line that works more than most…it might surprise you. The Body Language of Attraction What does someone do when they are attracted to you? How to Turn People On Learn how to turn people on mentally and physically. Male Body Language Here is an overview of male body language and of course… Female Body Language Don’t forget to review the science of female body language! Body Language of Love and Dating: Want a complete tutorial of the body language of love and dating?
Your Amygdala Doesn't Want You to Find Love. - A Weapon of Mass Seduction That's right, there is a part of your body that is dead set against your finding love and happiness. Scary, isn't it? As I mentioned on Twitter and Facebook a week or so ago, I recently picked up Seth Godin's newest book, Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?. But what I did find might be even more important. Halfway through the book is a chapter entitled The Resistance. In the working world, the contributions of our lizard brain manifest themselves in a desire to play it safe, to hide at our desks, to do whatever it takes not to attract the attention of our superiors (the amygdala hates attention, as attention is a threat to safety). So I'm sure you can imagine how the amygdala reacts when we begin to do something that will upset our status quo as much as, oh, falling in love. Obviously the amygdala is afraid of taking a risk, because it is afraid of failure. But here's the kicker: The amygdala is just as afraid of success. Guess what.
How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You So the title is “How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You” but this actually works for men or women. Stare into their eyes. Yup, that’s it. It dramatically increases the chances of love: In two studies, subjects induced to exchange mutual unbroken gaze for 2 min with a stranger of the opposite sex reported increased feelings of passionate love for each other. Source: “Looking and loving: The effects of mutual gaze on feelings of romantic love” from Journal of research in personality, Vol. 23, No. 2. Hat tip: Oliver Burkeman’s Help! For more info on How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You check out my post on the science behind the How To Be James Bond. Join 45K+ readers. Related posts: What are the four things that kill relationships? Does one orgasm equal two cheeseburgers? The 11 things that make someone fall in love with you Tags:
Choose Your Own Adventure Date : The Dating Divas by Tara This date was inspired by the “Choose Your Own Adventure” books I used to read in Elementary School. I was a pretty outgoing kiddo….but I was also SUCH a bookworm! Seriously! Even now…when I pick up a book, the whole world disappears….and my husband has to say my name at least four times before he can get me to respond! First the INVITE!! My husband, Jamie, LOVED it! We invited four couples over to our house & once everyone was assembled – we {the wives}handed the guys FIVE envelopes. Each girl made up a poem/riddle/clue (in advance) for a place they knew their husband would love to eat. After the guys figured out all of the clues…they couldn’t decide which place they wanted to go to – they liked them ALL! We then divided up into two groups….for the two cars that would take us there. I tried to take pictures of the others doing their tasks. (A HUGE thanks to the other girls AND my CUTE sisters for coming up with a lot of the tasks! (Nathan, Dustin, Jamie, & Ezra)
Is your partner your #1 fan? One of the most important goals you can strive for in business is to understand, anticipate and consistently fulfill the deepest needs of your clients. Because the more value you are able to add to your customer, the more success you will have. We call this creating a “raving fan customer,” and it’s one of Tony’s 7 Forces of Business Mastery. But did you know this principle can also be used to better your relationship? By focusing on creating a raving fan culture at home, you can put yourself into the positive, loving and relationship-focused mindset that is necessary to build a strong, committed, secure partnership. 1. It’s easy to get lazy in a relationship, to grow complacent and merely meet the minimum requirements of being a “good partner.” 2. Recognizing and meeting your partners’ emotional needs fosters a sense of intimacy, trust and a feeling of true love. 3. Being in a serious relationship with someone doesn’t mean you get to stop dating them. 4. Next Article
The Amygdala & Emotions The amygdala triggers your emotions faster than your conscious awareness. The unique “speed dial circuits” of the two almond sized nuclei within your brain are the first to react to emotionally significant events. These organs protect you from harm by interpreting subconscious hints of danger to trigger lightning fast responses. The amazing pattern recognition competence of these organs provides clear evidence of the theme of this website that the mind does not compute, but senses patterns. The amygdalae react to negative events in many ways, including activation of your sympathetic nervous system. HistoryDuring the early beginnings of life, nature developed the amygdalae as a defense response mechanism for animals. Over aeons, the nervous system had also assembled regions, which could sense many patterns in the environment, including odor, sound, color, taste and touch. Painful experiences in life were always accompanied by patterns of internal and external sensory inputs. Back To Top
Las terrazas más Hot del DF | Hotbook A pesar de que la Ciudad de México está en constante crecimiento y que la cantidad de edificios que nos rodean incrementa día a día, muchos conceptos han decidido luchar contra este encierro adoptar un espacio para una terraza. La maravilla de estos espacios yace en que el aire que fluctúa entre las mesas y los rayos de sol, cortesía de la casa, hacen de sus restaurantes algo más ameno. Ya sea por una comida o algún drink con las vistas más interesantes de la ciudad, a continuación les dejamos una serie de terrazas para disfrutar del sol de medio día o de un atardecer en la Ciudad de México. Fotografía cortesía de HOTBOOK Terraza Gloutonnerie En el corazón de Polanco, La Gloutonnerie es una propuesta culinaria francesa con recetas clásicas de su cocina, claro, reinterpretadas bajo la firma del Chef Anuar Estrada. D. gloutonnerie.mx condesadf.com Terraza Condesa DF Parte de la maravilla de terraza del Condesa DF es su vista en picada sobre el Parque España. D. www.condesadf.com www.vogue.mx D.
Psychology of Love: 10 Studies Every Lover Should Know Psychology of love: Brain map of love, the role of kissing, how couples come to look similar, what kills a relationship and more… “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry From the initial moment of attraction to growing old together, here are 10 psychology studies that all lovers should know. 1. Falling in love takes one-fifth of a second It takes a fifth-of-a-second for the euphoria-inducing chemicals to start acting on the brain when you are looking at that special someone. Brain imaging studies of love suggest that 12 different areas of the brain are involved. When looking or thinking about a loved one, these areas release a cocktail of neurotransmitters across the brain, including oxytocin, dopamine, vasopressin and adrenaline. The brain gets a similar ‘hit’ from love as it does from a small dose of cocaine. 2. The regions activated were those involved in emotion, motivation and higher level thoughts.
How love grows in your body “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds,” wrote William Shakespeare in his 116th Sonnet. “O no! it is an ever-fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken.” Nothing could be further from the truth, says the new science of romantic love. Love is, first and foremost, an emotion—but one that is, more than most emotions, rooted in our bodies. Far from an “an ever-fixed mark,” love is a process subject to biological forces beyond our conscious control. Lust is born: The hypothalamus As this brain scan image suggests, romantic and maternal love affect many of the same parts of the brain—with a few crucial differences. Pursuit begins: Androgens When sexual pursuit begins, the brain releases a class of hormone called androgens, including testosterone — which, yes, also happens in women when they see something they want. Can’t get enough: Orgasms Orgasm consumes as many as 30 parts of the brain, including those involved in touch, fantasy, memory, and reward.