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5 Tips For Being An Ally

5 Tips For Being An Ally

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Motherhood Series 2: Intersectionality I have already spoken (I feel like adding ‘at great length’) about the most common gender stereotypes associated to parenthood and motherhood. In a patriarchal society (that is to say, pretty much anywhere in the world), these stereotypes classify women as natural-born nurturers, beings who by essence are designed to take care of children and others at large, while men are positioned as providers, who need to fend off the outside world in order to materially and financially support their family. These sets of representations firmly place women and the roles they endorse within the domestic sphere whereas men are essentially defined as public creatures, leaving both sexes pigeon-holed in a rigid web of rules that prevent them from fully realising themselves. However, while patriarchy harms both men and women, it is paramount to highlight that the patriarchal system benefits men by putting resources, power and privileges in their hands, leaving women oppressed and dominated. Like this:

When Whites Get a Free Pass Photo NEW HAVEN — THE recent reunion show for the 40th anniversary of “Saturday Night Live” re-aired a portion of Eddie Murphy’s 1984 classic “White Like Me” skit, in which he disguised himself to appear Caucasian and quickly learned that “when white people are alone, they give things to each other for free.” The joke still has relevance. A field experiment about who gets free bus rides in Brisbane, a city on the eastern coast of Australia, shows that even today, whites get special privileges, particularly when other people aren’t around to notice. As they describe in two working papers, Redzo Mujcic and Paul Frijters, economists at the University of Queensland, trained and assigned 29 young adult testers (from both genders and different ethnic groups) to board public buses in Brisbane and insert an empty fare card into the bus scanner. With more than 1,500 observations, the study uncovered substantial, statistically significant race discrimination.

Tone argument "Just because you sound polite, doesn't mean your words aren't hurtful. Just because you sound acerbic, doesn't mean your words aren't kind." -- Comrade Squinky A tone argument is an argument used in discussions, sometimes by Concern trolls and sometimes as a Derailment, in which it is suggested that feminists would be more successful if only they expressed themselves in a more pleasant tone. This is also sometimes described as catching more flies with honey than with vinegar, a particular variant of the tone argument. The tone argument is a form of derailment, or a red herring, because the tone of a statement is independent of the content of the statement in question, and calling attention to it distracts from the issue at hand. Drawing attention to the tone rather than content of a statement can allow other parties to avoid engaging with sound arguments presented in that statement, thus undermining the original party's attempt to communicate and effectively shutting them down.

When Jews Dominated Professional Basketball by Lisa Wade, PhD, Nov 25, 2013, at 07:00 pm Kids growing up in dense, urban environments often turn to basketball as their sport of choice. This is partly because it fits, in a physical sense. All things being equal, a basketball court takes up a lot less room than a football or soccer field. A Call for Cisgender Action — Better Humans — Medium Creating gender-inclusive spaces and moments in everyday life The gradual push for marriage equality in the U.S. has created a lot of buzz around queer culture, specifically around gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities. These communities have gained mainstream visibility within straight and cisgender culture. You can get a Human Rights Campaign Visa card from Bank of America. 10 Middle Eastern writers you should know Syrian writer and journalist Samar Yazbek in Paris, Sept. 26, 2014. (photo by JOEL SAGET/AFP/Getty Images) Author: Sophie Chamas Posted March 24, 2015 Sensational stories recycled and propagated by mainstream Western media and Hollywood films have painted a one-dimensional portrait of the Middle Eastern woman as a submissive victim of oppressive patriarchy and religion.

White Privilege: “Flesh-Colored” - Sociological Images Two new submissions inspired me to revive this post from 2008. Part of the privilege of being white is having a society that considers you the norm and is, therefore, organized around you. A really nice example of this is “flesh” color. What is flesh color? Ben O. sent us this 1952 ad for bandaids (from Vintage Ads) You Might Not Be a "Male Feminist." You Could Just Be an Asshole. Earlier this week, BuzzFeed's Grace Spelman became the latest woman to demonstrate the risks of being online while female by tweeting screenshots of the belligerent exchanges she had with Ben Schoen, the former host of the Harry Potter podcast MuggleCast. When Spelman politely rebuffed Schoen's advances, he lashed out at her via a series of abusive messages and emails. For his part, Schoen strongly denied he was harassing Spelman. In a statement to the Daily Dot, Schoen not only refused to apologize for his actions but claimed he couldn't possibly be sexist, as he has "done more for the cause of advancing women's rights than any of the people who are criticizing me."

An Idiot's Guide to Free Speech I think you forgot another important one: no site is obliged to publish your comments. That is, deleting offensive comments from blogs/ websites is not censorship. Blogs are privately owned and the owners are allowed to dictate the rules on the kind of comments they allow. Flagged I'm just going to reply to bump this up to the top of the conversation. Not because I've had people write me scathing emails or comments about how I'm violating their first amendment rights by moderating comments here. A Response to ‘Women Against Feminism.’ Imagine this: The year is 2014. You are a white Western woman. You wake up in the morning in a comfortably sized house or flat.

Whites Who Oppose Racism: Here’s How To Stop Doing It Wrong In the tradition of my first very similarly-titled blog post on how to be a better anti-misogyny ally, I am simply going to copy/paste the privilege-conscious disclaimer portion of that entry here. Some other sections of this blog post are also copy/pasted portions of that same blog post, because a lot of what I had to say there applies here as well. I’ve been working really hard for years now, to understand privilege and oppression, and how it plays into my own day-to-day life.

We Are Not Trayvon Martin I have seen multiple people make statements or posts on my FB page questioning why the Martin/Zimmerman case has had such high level of focus in the media and other criminal cases involving a white victim and black perpetrator have not garnered the same attention. And most of the “reverse examples” used have been in crimes where there was breaking and entering involved so not really an apt comparison, I don’t think. It seems to me that the only people really questioning this are white. Feminism shouldn’t make men comfortable Emma Watson’s speech on gender equality at the UN got a lot of attention, and that’s great. The more that hop the feminism train and use their platforms to spread the message, the merrier. But there’s a tiny little thing I’d like to disagree with her about.