8 Important Reasons To Let Go Of People Who No Longer Play An Important Part In Your Life There comes a point in every person's life when he or she parts ways with someone: ex, friend and anyone in between. Upon first meeting this person, there's a sweet beginning, but once you come to really know each other and grow comfortable, you suddenly realize that the relationship no longer brings any particular value to your life and is perhaps, even detrimental. Sometimes, we hold on to people purely based on how long we have known them. Time can tie people together, but if you feel as though there's nothing substantial keeping you connected, time is not a strong enough reason to hold on to something that's simply no longer worth holding onto. We grow complacent with people once we're comfortable with them. Fear is another reason why we can't move on. Sometimes, things are better left as mere memories. If anything, there's now too much pressure and expectation in the air to recreate what you both once had. 1. People simply grow a part, which is perfectly normal. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.
Love the Grows: Questions You Should Ask Before Marriage In my marriage class in my first semester of college, our teacher gave us a handout (or should I say packet) with these questions. At first I was like "Holy shnikeys! This is way too many questions! I am NOT going to go over all of these with my fiance!" But we did. At first it started with asking the interesting questions, but then we asked them all, wondering if maybe the answer would be different than we expected. From answering these questions we talked about how we plan on raising and disciplining our kids, who will manage the bills, what our parents should and shouldn't know about, what we believe our flaws are. Here's some of the questions I think are really important to have an understanding on in your marriage. I don't necessarily believe the answers to these questions will make or break your marriage, but I do believe that opening up the lines of communication and honestly talking about the important things these questions bring up IS important. What turns you off sexually?
The Top 10 Psychology Studies of 2010 The end of 2010 fast approaches, and I'm thrilled to have been asked by the editors of Psychology Today to write about the Top 10 psychology studies of the year. I've focused on studies that I personally feel stand out, not only as examples of great science, but even more importantly, as examples of how the science of psychology can improve our lives. Each study has a clear "take home" message, offering the reader an insight or a simple strategy they can use to reach their goals , strengthen their relationships, make better decisions, or become happier. If you extract the wisdom from these ten studies and apply them in your own life, 2011 just might be a very good year. 1) How to Break Bad Habits If you are trying to stop smoking , swearing, or chewing your nails, you have probably tried the strategy of distracting yourself - taking your mind off whatever it is you are trying not to do - to break the habit. J. 2) How to Make Everything Seem Easier J. 3) How To Manage Your Time Better M. J.
How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes) 468k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count. Play along and you’ll see. I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. In this desert is a cube. Your first task is to describe the cube. There are no right answers here, only your answers. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. We’re nearly there now. Final question. If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. Ready? The cube is yourself. The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so. The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are. The ladder represents your friends. Are your friends leaning on the cube? The flowers represent children. Comments
Stumblers Who Like 8 Things Everybody Ought to Know About Concentrating - StumbleUpon “Music helps me concentrate,” Mike said to me glancing briefly over his shoulder. Mike was in his room writing a paper for his U.S. History class. On his desk next to his computer sat crunched Red Bulls, empty Gatorade bottles, some extra pocket change and scattered pieces of paper. Mike made a shift about every thirty seconds between all of the above. Do you know a person like this? The Science Behind Concentration In the above account, Mike’s obviously stuck in a routine that many of us may have found ourselves in, yet in the moment we feel it’s almost an impossible routine to get out of. When we constantly multitask to get things done, we’re not multitasking, we’re rapidly shifting our attention. Phase 1: Blood Rush Alert When Mike decides to start writing his History essay, blood rushes to his anterior prefrontal cortex. Phase 2: Find and Execute Phase 3: Disengagement While in this state, Mike then hears an email notification. The process repeats itself sequentially. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
45 Questions To Guarantee You’ll Never Have A Boring Date Again I have a secret game that I play in every conversation I have. Until now, no one knew about it… but I’m about to dish the deets. ;) I try to get every person I interact with to say, Wow. That’s a great question… at least once in our conversation. To win at this game, I have to stay super present and plugged in to who I’m chatting with so I can artfully select a question that pushes them to lean into an area of their brain they don’t normally hang out in. It’s fascinating watching them dig deeper into who they are. Why do I play this silly game? Because I believe it’s our responsibility to discover something awesome every person we meet. I thought it would be fun (and hopefully valuable) to give you a sneak peak at some of my favorites to ask (especially on first dates or with partners). My hope is that you too can tuck this list in your back pocket and together we can rid this planet of all the effortless and boring questions people ask each other these days. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.
10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon Reading Time: 6 minutes You know how you can hear something a hundred times in a hundred different ways before it finally gets through to you? The ten truths listed below fall firmly into that category – life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, but for whatever reason, haven’t fully grasped. This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all… We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. LIVE your life TODAY! Your life is yours alone. Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.
100 Getting to Know You Questions Working with a group of new people and need some conversation starters? Break the ice and get to know people better by selecting several of these get-to-know-you questions. Who is your hero? Party Time! 26. Plan you family meal, office potluck, team party and more. 51. Group Fundraising has never been easier! 76. 90. If you really want to get to know someone, questions (not all at once, of course!) Janis Meredith writes Jbmthinks, a blog on sports parenting and youth sports. Posted by Janis Meredith Posted by Punit Gupta on Thu Feb 19, 2015 2:06 AM EST Great Posted by Anna Nelson on Sun Jan 4, 2015 4:51 PM EST HAHA thanks i needed this for a activity!!!!! Posted by Graham Rogers on Tue Dec 30, 2014 4:12 PM EST What about: If you were on a deserted island what 3 things would you take? Posted by Juggling For A Cure on Tue Dec 30, 2014 7:10 AM EST Thanks for introducing me to myself. :) Posted by Blind King on Sun Dec 28, 2014 4:26 PM EST Thank you for this Haha, brilliant! Thank you for this!
Psych2go Stop The Heartbreak Cycle: 7 Dos and Don’ts For Handling a Break-Up “When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~Unknown I’ve learned to be thankful for my first heartbreak. Of course, at the time of the crime I struggled to see anything positive in it. It was literally as if someone stabbed my heart; there was a problem that caused my body to stop working properly. In fact, I still think of him occasionally; it’s so hard to turn off. Like during any trauma your body faces, it tries to repair itself so it can be whole again. I became emotionally promiscuous. Normally my standards are that I date just one person at a time and don’t get intimate with anyone until I’m in a relationship. But now that my heart was hurt, all those rules were thrown out the window. I dated guys just to date someone. I wanted to display the image that I was fine, happy, healthy, and so over the perpetrator. Pretty soon he asked me to be his girlfriend. But I never did. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.