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If you want to follow your dreams, you have to say no to all the alternatives

If you want to follow your dreams, you have to say no to all the alternatives
131k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Our brains behave like a beachball filled with bees. Hundreds of conflicting impulses, pushing us in different directions. People never want to do one thing. And so usually, that ball is going nowhere. This is how most people live their lives. Let’s fix that. The curse of the ‘great idea’ Imagine if 20 years ago you were a genius who had the idea of starting up Google, and Amazon, and Facebook. It’s not enough to have great ideas. This is why a committee of smart people is called an “idiot”. How people achieve the impossible Imagine an insanely ambitious goal for yourself. If you absolutely had to do that – if your life and the lives of everybody you cared about depended upon it – how would you? You’d simply drop everything else. Monomaniacal focus on a single goal is perhaps the ultimate success stratagem. Most people aren’t failing because of their potential. How to tame the swarm You will always want to attempt more than you can achieve. Related:  Life tips

25 Psychological Life Hacks that Will Help You Gain the Advantage in Social Situations Social situations are among the most important in our lives. Yet, there is a huge chance that you are oblivious to the plethora of unwritten social rules that structure everybody’s behaviour. Failing to comply to these cultural imprints can cause irreversible damage. Just following them blindly will not get you ahead. Hacking them, however, will give you the best results possible. 1) Assume comfort in any interaction. Our brain is an incredibly complicated instrument. In most of our social interactions, we find it difficult to feel comfortable among strangers because our brain tries to protect us from exposure. This however isn’t helping us when trying to be social and meet new people, is it? This is why assuming comfort is so powerful. 2) Pay attention to people’s feet when you are approaching them. Interrupting people when they are in the middle of an important conversation is one of the most annoying things to do. If they turn both torso and feet, it means you are welcome. Admit it.

Reinventing Themselves, Without a Net Photo Workstation By HANNAH SELIGSON My husband, who is 34, recently quit his federal government job, where he worked on climate-change issues for four years. The news that he is between jobs has not always gone down well with family members and friends. These days, many people in their 20s and 30s are eager to push themselves into entirely different careers, whether because the economy is telling them to do so, their ambitions are signaling that it’s time for a change, or they’ve been laid off. To cope with living in an interstitial state, young people are cobbling together freelance or contract work, or accepting help from their parents. Jamie Yang, 34, decided that it would be O.K. to quit. According to the Labor Department, adults born in the early 1980s held an average of 6.2 jobs from ages 18 to 26. Sometimes, it takes one of these career interludes to figure out the right path. That seems to be true for my husband, to some degree. Workstation By HANNAH SELIGSON

Top 10 Tips To Radically Improve Your Social Skills PositivityBlog.com “The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. “Who was Dale Carnegie?” He wrote a little book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. Carnegie then continued to write more books and to create courses on how to interact with people, on how to make friends and on how to gain influence. Here are 10 of my favourite tips from Dale Carnegie. 1. “If you want to be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic.” Emotions work backwards too. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” This is so key. The body language and the voice tonality is a bit like the rest of the iceberg, the great mass below the tip of the words we use. “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” Now these things may not be easy to avoid all together. You will also be broadcasting and receiving negative emotions. 6.

9 Things That Motivate Employees More Than Money The ability to motivate employees is one of the greatest skills an entrepreneur can possess. Two years ago, I realized I didn’t have this skill. So I hired a CEO who did. Josh had 12 years in the corporate world, which included running a major department at Comcast. I knew he was seasoned, but I was still skeptical at first. We were going through some tough growing pains, and I thought that a lack of cash would make it extremely difficult to improve the company morale. I was wrong. With his help and the help of the great team leaders he put in place, Josh not only rebuilt the culture, but also created a passionate, hard-working team that is as committed to growing and improving the company as I am. Here are nine things I learned from him: Be generous with praise.

5 причин, почему умным людям сложнее найти работу — Обучение профессионалов Если себя людям, то рискуете искать работу дольше денег меньше, чем человек без замашек интеллект. Этому есть Основатель консалтинговой компании RiskKnowledge Морис Юинг много лет поражается тому, как его друзья долгих месяцев, остаются без работы или вынужденно соглашаются занятость. Несмотря опыт, личные качества образование, случаются исключительно долгие перерывы между работами, когда Однажды ему попалась статья что на «умных людей», чьи когнитивные способности выше средних, действует еще более умная сила, которая была названа «слепое предубеждение». Когда Морис думал, как это открытие может помочь бедственному положению его самых умных друзей работы, ему неожиданно пришла интересная идея. если эти предрассудки умных друзей отражены для потенциальных работодателей? Он пристально изучил что обнаружил: 1. умных людей нет профиля, который так, что они ищут работу 2. 3. Часто работа идет людям, что это именно та должность, она может преуспеть, говорят: «я 4. 5.

18 remarkable tricks to make your food last longer Saving money on your food shop doesn't stop at the supermarket. Allow your hard earned pennies to go even further by reading up on these simple yet effective tips that'll extend the life of your grub for longer. That way, your keeping money in your pocket AND saving trips to the supermarket. What's not to love? Sign up to studentbeans.com for free brownies, popcorn and flapjacks - and that's just the start... 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Once something goes rotten in your fridge or cupboard, bin it. 8. 9. 10. Swirl berries in a mixture of one part vinegar to 10 parts water. 11. 12. Take advantage of reductions at the supermarket by sticking them in the freezer. 13. 14.Reduce unpopped kernels by cooking popcorn in a bowl topped with a plate. 15. 16. 17. 18. Best before dates are about quality, not safety.

DIY Natural Room Scents Don't miss my follow-up post to this one withNATURAL ROOM SCENTS FOR DIY GIFTS & CENTERPIECESCLICK HERE This post was featured in the April 2013 issue of Woman's Day magazine. Here's the thing. I'm married to a man who hates artificial scents of any kind. That goes for air fresheners, candles, perfume, soaps and anything else that is scented. We buy unscented everything. Turns out that King-Man may just be ahead of his time. But, the air in my house gets stale sometimes. There is a simple, all natural, truly lovely solution. Keeping the supply list simple. How to Make Natural Room Scents Fragrant items for naturally scenting your home: citrus -- I've tried other fruits. view whole spices on Amazon: cinnamon sticks, anise stars, allspice, cloves, vanilla beans Five Natural Room Scent RecipesThese are all scents that my nose likes. General procedure: Combine the ingredients in a 2 cup (pint) jar or container, or in a pan on the stove top. view on Amazon: ♦pint jars ♦plastic lids for jars 1.

25 little things you can do to make your partner love you even more 1. Write a short letter to them listing the reasons you love them and post it to them at work. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. Image via Julian Mason 81 Fun Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend Advertisements As you embark on your relationship and cover the days together its only natural that you’ll be more curious about your partner. You’ll find out certain things about him during your daily conversations but there are many serious and fun ones that you’ll be eager to ask him directly. Sometimes you’ll feel like asking questions just to have a fun conversation or to get to know more about your partner’s personality and thought process. Similar posts that you may also like: 1. Random Questions to Ask your Boyfriend, 2. 1. 2. 3. Advertisement 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. 41. 42. 43. 44. 45. 46. 47. 48. 49. 50. 51. 52. 53. 54. 55. 56. 57. 58. 59. 60. 61. 62. 63. 64. 65. 66. 67. 68. 69. 70. 71. 72. 73. 74. 75. 76. 77. 78. 79. 80. 81. Take your pick and question your boy…but don’t make it look like an interview!

101 Ways To Live Your Life To The Fullest “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. How do you feel about your life today? If your answer to any of the above is a no, maybe or not sure, that means you’re not living your life to the fullest. This is a list of 101 timeless principles I use to live my best life, and I hope they’ll help you to do so too. Here are 101 ways to live your life to the fullest:

20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You post written by: Marc Chernoff Email Be with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. This past Sunday, while we were enjoying an afternoon barbeque at our friend Sara’s house, her 16-year-old foster child, Cody, received a visit from his biological mother – a woman who has been in and out of prison and rehab her whole life. Cody’s mother was extremely rough around the edges and almost immediately started bringing up hurtful memories from the past, and then told him, “I wish I could go back in time and raise you again, to change who you are and give you a better upbringing.” Cody’s response impressed me on so many levels. So whenever you’re dealing with a difficult or hostile person, remember how Cody handled himself. It’s time to… Stop letting people drag you into needless arguments. – Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who have proven that they are committed to misunderstanding you. The floor is yours… What would you add to the list?

9 Things You Should NOT Have to Give Up to Be Happy Email “All happiness depends on courage and work.” ―Honoré de Balzac “This morning my best friend, Karl, confided in me that he’s having trouble playing a depressed character in our school’s end of the semester play. ‘Call me one of the lucky ones,’ he said. ‘But I just have no emotional tie to the role, and I know it’s hurting the quality of the character I’m trying to portray.’ Those are the opening lines to an email I received this morning from a reader named Darin. Darrin’s words hit home with me, not only because I once let a high school bully get the best of me, but because I know all of us, in all walks of life, have taken a wrong turn in the pursuit of happiness a time or two. So my hope is that this post helps serve as a reminder: Although sacrifices must be made, you should not have to give up… Final Reminder: Have you checked out our book? 1. Do your best to be as good as you can be, and if that’s not enough for someone, it surely will be for someone else. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.

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