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The Art of Conversation: Timeless, Timely Do's and Don'ts from 1866

The Art of Conversation: Timeless, Timely Do's and Don'ts from 1866
By Maria Popova Manners today are often seen as a quaint subject that belongs in Lord Chesterfield’s outlandish advice on the art of pleasing or Esquire‘s dated guide to dating. But in a culture where we regularly do online what we’d never do in person and behave offline in ways our grandparents wouldn’t have dared dream of even in their most defiant fantasies, there’s something to be said for the lost art of, if not “manners,” politeness and simple respect in communication. Though originally published in 1866, Martine’s Hand-book of Etiquette, and Guide to True Politeness (public library; public domain; free Kindle download) by Arthur Martine contains a treasure trove of timeless — and increasingly timely — pointers on the necessary art of living up to our social-animal destiny. Martine contextualizes his mission: Politeness has been defined as an “artificial good-nature;” but it would be better said that good-nature is natural politeness. But he offers an important disclaimer:

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