How To Improve Self-Esteem: A New Secret From Research It seems we all want to know how to improve self-esteem these days. Life can be hard. And who is usually hardest on you? Yourself. So the answer is to boost your self-esteem, right? But it’s had some negative effects on the world too — like an epidemic of narcissism. Via Self-Compassion: This emphasis on high self-esteem at all costs has also led to a worrying trend toward increasing narcissism. Oh, and there’s one other teensy weensy little problem with trying to boost self-esteem to deal with that critical voice… It doesn’t work. Self-Esteem Ain’t The Answer This focus on improving self-esteem got to the point where the State of California started a task force and gave it $250,000 a year to raise children’s self-esteem. They expected this to boost grades and reduce bullying, crime, teen pregnancy and drug abuse. Guess what? Reports on the efficacy of California’s self-esteem initiative, for instance, suggest that it was a total failure. What?!? Uh-oh. Forget Self-Esteem. Don’t Worry. Sum Up
New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller. To check it out, click here. You get all kinds of happiness advice on the internet from people who don’t know what they’re talking about. Don’t trust them. Actually, don’t trust me either. Trust neuroscientists. UCLA neuroscience researcher Alex Korb has some insights that can create an upward spiral of happiness in your life. 1) The Most Important Question To Ask When You Feel Down Sometimes it doesn’t feel like your brain wants you to be happy. Believe it or not, guilt and shame activate the brain’s reward center. Via The Upward Spiral: Despite their differences, pride, shame, and guilt all activate similar neural circuits, including the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex, amygdala, insula, and the nucleus accumbens. And you worry a lot too. But guilt, shame and worry are horrible long-term solutions. What am I grateful for? Know what Prozac does? Boom. Sum Up
The Case For Encouraging Short-Term Job Commitment In a little over a decade, millennials are projected to make up roughly 75% of the global workforce. But for Nancy Lublin, who runs Do Something, a nonprofit organization that inspires young people to take social action, the future is already here. So how can managers inspire a sense of long-term commitment in a generation that prioritizes flexibility and autonomy? The other option is to commit to two years, achieve one great thing, and then either take on another defined mission at Do Something, or go to a different organization. In his new book, The Alliance, LinkedIn cofounder Reid Hoffman presents a similar approach—something he and his co-authors Ben Casnocha and Chris Yeh have dubbed the "tour of duty." The "tour of duty" encourages employers and employees to make a significant investment in each other. Through a process of candid discourse, both parties identify their aspirations, values, and intended outcomes. Why Millennials? High turnover in this age group makes sense.
How To Deal With A Narcissist: 5 Secrets Backed By Research You must be tired of them. They’re everywhere. Narcissists. And if you think there are more of them than ever, you’re right. Research shows we are experiencing a narcissism epidemic. In data from 37,000 college students, narcissistic personality traits rose just as fast as obesity from the 1980s to the present, with the shift especially pronounced for women. Even music is getting more narcissistic. (And as for selfies…well, do I really need to link to any research about narcissism and selfies? Now, we all have a little narcissism in us and these days we have a lot more than we need around us. Let’s learn more about what narcissism is, how to deal with narcissists—and even a bit about what to do if you feel you’re becoming one yourself. You have entered the selfie-free zone. What’s the Deal With Narcissism? As Jean Twenge and W. Narcissists believe they really are that awesome—and you’re not. How can you tell if someone is a narcissist? From The Narcissism Epidemic: Awesome first date? Why?
Gratitude Activities for the Classroom Thanksgiving is the perfect holiday to help students cultivate an “attitude of gratitude.” And what’s more, research shows that it’s really good for both them and their teachers! Among other benefits, gratitude helps kids feel better about school and makes educators feel less emotionally exhausted. Need some ideas on how to bring gratitude into the classroom? Classroom Gratitude Book. Many thanks to Head-of-School Steve de Beer and all the teachers at Friends’ School in Boulder, Colorado, and social-emotional learning expert Kim Schonert-Reichl at the University of British Columbia for sharing their ideas with me!
What Makes an Entrepreneur? Four Letters: JFDI This is part of my Startup Advice series. I had a picture in the office of my first company with the logo above and the capital letters JFDI. (In case it’s not obvious it’s a play on the Nike slogan, “Just Do It.”) Entrepreneurs make fast decisions and move forward knowing that at best 70% of their decisions are going to be right. I spent nearly a decade building software for large companies and then advising companies on the same. The technology team disagrees on direction and wants resolutions. I learned quickly that I needed to just do things. Yes, I know it’s my job as the CEO to be the coach for people and that’s fine. Sometimes you need to break some eggs to get things done so if that’s what it takes I wanted my team to go for it and I wanted to symbolize that it was OK with me. So I took on the motto JFDI to symbolize this. Another side of JFDI is finding ways to get stuff done that seem impossible. A couple of quick stories / examples: 1. “Why?” I said that was my point. 2.
How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller. To check it out, click here. Meeting new people can be awkward. Research shows relationships are vital to happiness and networking is the key to getting jobs and building a fulfilling career. But what’s the best way to build rapport and create trust? Robin Dreeke can. Robin was head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program and has studied interpersonal relations for over 27 years. Robin is the author of the excellent book, It’s Not All About “Me”: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone. I gave him a call to get some answers. You’re going to learn: The #1 secret to clicking with people.How to put strangers at ease.The thing you do that turns people off the most.How to use body language like a pro.Some great verbal jiu-jitsu to use on people who try to manipulate you. And a lot more. 1) The Most Important Thing To Do With Anyone You Meet
Airline Hygiene Exposed Introduction Germs are everywhere. That’s what we were told in school, but how does this connect with our everyday experiences? There is perhaps no better setting to demonstrate this than where people from around the world come together as they travel between cities, states, and countries. The general consensus from this study: Airports and airplanes are dirtier than your home (NSF, 2011). Take a look at all of the results from the study to learn the other locations and surfaces you should steer clear from. Results To summarize, here is a ranking of the dirtiest places and surfaces on airplanes and at airports: Tray table - 2,155 CFU/sq. in. Discussion Bathrooms were some of the cleaner surfaces tested, which may be contrary to conventional thought. Airline staff are under more pressure in recent years to quickly deboard arriving flights and board departing flights to maximize profit for their carriers. Methodology References Ball, M. et al. (2010). Fair Use Introduction Germs are everywhere.
5 Desirable Traits of Great Employees There is much debate among employers as to whether or not college qualifies people for useful employment. With the high cost of obtaining a degree, universities are anxious to prove their value in preparing graduates for the roles they'll play in the working world. Now 200 colleges have committed to offer a voluntary test called a Collegiate Learning Assessment (CLA+) in Spring 2014. You can see a sample test question here. The pros and cons of this approach are still up in the air, but it raises plenty of questions: Will good test-takers be able to demonstrate consistent behavior? Can one game the system? Ultimately a solid interview process and thorough onboarding program will make for the best employees in the long term. 1. Employees can be smart, likeable and talented but, if you can't trust them to do what they say they'll do, you and everyone else will constantly waste time and energy checking up on their work. Want to read more from me? 2. Want to read more from Eric? 3. 4. 5.
Power of Empathy: 3 Ways Empathy Can Improve Your Life Does it ever feel like people are all self-absorbed jerks? Like they’re not listening? Only in it for themselves? You’re not crazy. Via Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It: A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed a dramatic decline in empathy levels among young Americans between 1980 and today, with the steepest drop being in the last ten years. It’s easy to believe that people are just selfish. But new research says there’s more to us than that. Neuroscientists have identified a ten-section “empathy circuit” in our brains which, if damaged, can curtail our ability to understand what others are feeling. Yes, there are zero-empathy psychopaths out there but they are a very, very small part of the population. (To learn which professions have the most psychopaths, click here.) We all need empathy. How Empathy Brings Happiness (And Oscars) Want to be happier? And the power of empathy is wired pretty deeply into us. Want to know who your real friends are? What Empathy Is 1.
Commentary: “Enabling” Positive Financial Decisions Until recently, parents looking for strategies on how to support a young person in early recovery had very few credible alternatives. About the best a parent could hope for was cautionary but very non-specific advice about what NOT to do – like, “don’t enable”? But recently, a practical translation of a well-established behavioral research finding promises some new options for what a parent COULD do to support sustained recovery in their young person. The story actually begins with basic behavioral research with animals, but later extended to human adults, children and yes, even adolescents. For example, when it comes to shaping and changing behaviors, positive rewards have MANY advantages over virtually any negative consequence or punishment. The relative benefits of rewards may be seen as bad news by some parents. It will not surprise most parents that despite the strength of the research findings – rewarding teens for positive behaviors is not always so simple to do. A.
Five signs of a WOW professional | Bayt Spread the word: Does it truly matter to be a WOW professional? I mean, isn’t it enough to be really, really good at what one does? So what does it take to be a WOW professional? 1. “The more I live, the more I learn. 2. ‘Work hard, stay humble’ is how the age-old adage goes. 3. “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” 4. “Respect is a two-way street, if you want to get it you’ve got to give it.” 5. To WOW professionals, true success is beyond awards, accolades and rewards. Do you aspire to be a WOW professional? Tags: Career Advice