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The New Rules of Relationships

The New Rules of Relationships
Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved, and function best when they are. Yet people have much trouble maintaining relationships. It's clear from the many letters I get to my advice column that lots of folks, men and women, have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I write about these things, and care about the environments children grow in, I feel obligated to say something. From many sources and many experts over the years, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. This is by no means an exhaustive list. • Choose a partner wisely and well. • Know your partner's beliefs about relationships. • Don't confuse sex with love. • Know your needs and speak up for them clearly. • Respect, respect, respect. • View yourselves as a team, which means you are two unique individuals bringing different perspectives and strengths. • Know how to manage differences; it's the key to success in a relationship. • Solve problems as they arise. • Sex is good.

50 Life Secrets and Tips Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions.Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events. Try new things. Read “Zen and the Art of Happiness” by Chris Prentiss.This book will give you the knowledge and instruction to be happy at all times regardless of the circumstances.

An Ebola Vaccine Is Not the Answer Instead, we need a treatment and better quarantine measures. Reuters In a widely shared Onion article from a few days ago, scientists "announced" that an Ebola vaccine was still 50 white people away. That's not entirely true, of course. But malaria kills a child every minute. Ebola's on there, I promise. That's why the job of funding vaccines for diseases like Ebola usually falls to governments. But even if a vaccine works, it would be a stretch to say we could confidently use it to prevent another Ebola outbreak, like we did with smallpox or (largely) with polio: Ebola is too unpredictable. "We don't know where the next outbreak is going to be," Kartik Chandran, an associate professor of microbiology and immunology at Albert Einstein College of Medicine, told me. There are several strains of Ebola. Vaccines don't work that well in fast-moving epidemics. But most vaccines take a few weeks to provide immunity, and even then, they don't always control the disease's spread.

7 Questions That Can Strengthen Your Relationship bikeriderlondon/Shutterstock One of the biggest mistakes we can make in a relationship is not asking enough of the right questions. By asking the right questions, you can discover what your partner needs and wants from you and your time together. Here are a few to try: “What can I help you with right now?” If you find yourself with some time on your hands, why not offer those minutes to your mate as a loving gesture. When we get caught up in daily activities, even couples with excellent communication skills can forget to ask a partner what he or she needs or wants.

25 Life Changing Lessons to Learn from Buddha | The Mind Unleashed “If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change.” ~ Buddha There are so many beautiful, powerful and life changing lessons I have learned from studying Buddhism and from reading many of Buddha’s quotes. And today I want to share 25 of these beautiful lessons with you. Here are 25 Life Changing Lessons from Buddha: 1. “Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” 2. “A man is not called wise because he talks and talks again; but if he is peaceful, loving and fearless then he is in truth called wise.” “A dog is not considered a good dog because he is a good barker. 3. “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” 4. “The way is not in the sky. 5. “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11.

Why You Can Change the World, No Matter Who You Are! | Your Best Self “Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” I want to honest with you. Don’t get me wrong, I completely believe we all have vast potential, and that our purpose in this life is to become the best-version-of-ourselves. But I am afraid that the message of “unlimited potential” doesn’t always resonate with people. The idea of reaching for our potential can be a little overwhelming and even scary to think about. It can also be a little off-putting and frankly discouraging to compare our current reality to the powerful possibilities for our life. That is why I want to open up and let my guard down. I don’t you to read these messages and feel down and out. I want to share my insecurities along with my dreams to help you see that even an “ordinary Joe” such as myself believes in greater possibilities! Who am I to change the world? Why you can change the world!

5 Signs Your Relationship Is Going To Last Is your relationship in trouble? Having worked with thousands of couples during the last 46 years, I've seen over and over what creates relationship success or failure. Here are some choices that can make a huge difference: 1. You take responsibility for your feelings rather than expecting your partner to make you happy. The major issue in relationships is whether you take responsibility for your feelings of worth, safety, lovability and happiness, or whether you make your partner responsible for these feelings. If you believe that your partner is responsible for making you happy, safe and worthy, what do you do when he or she doesn't do what you want? Do you: Get angry, attack and blame, withdraw or find other ways to punish your partner? Does any of this help your relationship? The major way you can begin to heal your relationship is to learn how to love yourself — how to take loving care of your own feelings. 2. Do you treat yourself with kindness? 3. 4. 5.

9 Mind-Bending Epiphanies That Turned My World Upside-Down By: David Over the years I’ve learned dozens of little tricks and insights for making life more fulfilling. They’ve added up to a significant improvement in the ease and quality of my day-to-day life. But the major breakthroughs have come from a handful of insights that completely rocked my world and redefined reality forever. The world now seems to be a completely different one than the one I lived in about ten years ago, when I started looking into the mechanics of quality of life. Maybe you’ve had some of the same insights. 1. The first time I heard somebody say that, I didn’t like the sound of it one bit. 2. Of course! 3. I now consider this truth to be Happiness 101, but it’s amazing how tempting it still is to grasp at control of every circumstance to try to make sure I get exactly what I want. 4. Human beings have a habit of compulsive thinking that is so pervasive that we lose sight of the fact that we are nearly always thinking. 5. Yikes. 6. 7. 8. 9.

New Study Take a Closer Look at an ADHD Medication Adults and children with ADHD frequently report that they just can't seem to do the things that keep their lives running smoothly. Whether it's doing homework every day, remembering to pay bills, or keeping up-to-date with work projects, people with ADHD have more trouble completing tasks than average. Unsympathetic friends, family, and even clinicians occasionally advise people with ADHD to “just force yourself.” A new study demonstrating how ADHD drug Vyvanse (lisdexamfetamine dimesylate) works in the brain, though, suggests that people with ADHD suffer a pleasure deficit that makes it challenging – if not impossible – to force themselves to complete tasks. A New Vyvanse Study Vyvanse is one of several psychostimulants used to treat ADHD. A new study presented at a meeting for the American Society of Clinical Psychopharmacology set out to uncover the brain effects of Vyvanse. The new study built upon this theory to examine the brains of 20 adults with ADHD. ADHD and Reward References: