The New Rules of Relationships
Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved, and function best when they are. Yet people have much trouble maintaining relationships. It's clear from the many letters I get to my advice column that lots of folks, men and women, have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I write about these things, and care about the environments children grow in, I feel obligated to say something. From many sources and many experts over the years, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. This is by no means an exhaustive list. • Choose a partner wisely and well. • Know your partner's beliefs about relationships. • Don't confuse sex with love. • Know your needs and speak up for them clearly. • Respect, respect, respect. • View yourselves as a team, which means you are two unique individuals bringing different perspectives and strengths. • Know how to manage differences; it's the key to success in a relationship. • Solve problems as they arise. • Sex is good.