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The Secret To Dealing With Passive-Aggressive People

The Secret To Dealing With Passive-Aggressive People
Ah, passive aggression. The best way to handle conflict. Not. There’s a reason why passive-aggressive behavior gets such a bad rap. Not only is it supremely frustrating for both parties involved, but it’s also incredibly unproductive to the passive-aggressive person — because his or her needs aren’t actually ever acknowledged or addressed. And for the target of the passive aggression, experiencing this kind of behavior can “make you feel like a crazy person,” explains Scott Wetzler, Ph.D., vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center and author of Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man. At its heart, the behavior “really is a sugar-coated hostility,” Wetzler tells HuffPost. Passive-aggressive behavior, while expressed in many different ways, has the same roots: There is an underlying fear and avoidance of direct conflict, yet a feeling of powerlessness and helplessness. So how can you best deal with a passive-aggressive person? 1. 2. Related:  BTS Conflicts

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The basics of conflict management - by Ian Buchanan Ian Buchanan's image for: "Conflict Management" Caption: Location: Image by: It's inevitable that every manager or supervisor will find themselves embroiled in a conflict situation sooner or later; they are after all managing the spectrum of human emotions. Any conflict that requires management action has gone well beyond a tiff between colleagues and has become detrimental to the operation. The most important thing a manager has to do at the outset is get to the nub of the problem. While the issue may be between two factions, other people may well have observed its escalation, so a good manager needs to gather as much objective information as possible from anyone who is affected by the conflict. Conflict between strong willed people sometimes can't be worked out. A wise manager will use all the options available to find a sensible solution, or at least one that demonstrates effectiveness in the eyes of the rest of the staff.

5 Tips To Help You Deal With Toxic People Sometimes it's easy to feel like toxic people are everywhere. When I say "toxic" I'm referring to those people who always seem enmeshed in drama and negativity. They can come across as needy, manipulative, controlling, or judgmental. It's painful to feel like you're surrounded by that negative energy, and what's worse is that you always feel at-risk for getting sucked into it. The truth is that people are not actually toxic. What is toxic is your reaction to them. When someone feels toxic, our discomfort is caused by the fact that they begin to seem more powerful than we do. So the way to not feel like this has nothing to do with the other person, it's all about retaining a sense of self. 1. At your core is your Truth, meaning the way that you look at the world that reflects what's in your heart. There are two parts to strengthening your truth: First, get very clear on what it is. 2. For example, I didn’t grow up with my dad. 3. 4. 5. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com

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How to Get Your School Announcements to as Many People as Possible I was recently introducing some teachers to blogging when one of them said, "but they don't even read our newsletter." She was right, most of the parents and students probably are not reading the newsletter that the school sends out. My suggestion was to create a blog. I made the suggestion knowing full well that many parents wouldn't visit it directly on a consistent basis. I suggested maintaining a blog because from it you can launch a variety of outreach strategies to connect with parents and students. My basic strategy for reaching parents and students is outlined below. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Creating a system for getting your message out to parents and students will take you a little time to develop. I'll be covering this topic in much more depth along with many others in my July offering of Blogs & Social Media for Teachers & School Leaders.

How to Cope With Hostile People How to Cope With Hostile People by Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D. What can be more difficult in your relationships than coping with people who are angry, confrontational, obnoxious, intimidating, aggressive, manipulative, and/or hostile? You know what you feel like after an encounter with a difficult person—provoked, angry, helpless, powerless, frustrated, perhaps even vulnerable. Difficult people are difficult for one very good reason. So what’s the answer? First off, let’s see if understanding what lies beneath their bluster and hostility helps you any. Having been the victim of their venom and anger, I know it must be hard for you to see a bully as a frightened and insecure person, but that’s exactly what he or she is. Understanding what motivates a difficult person to be difficult is one thing, but what to do about a difficult person when they cross your path is something else. 1.) 2.) 3.) Bridge Builder’s Checklist 1.) Steve How to Cope With Hostile People by Dr. So what’s the answer?

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Conflict Strategies for Nice People Do you value friendly relations with your colleagues? Are you proud of being a nice person who would never pick a fight? Unfortunately, you might be just as responsible for group dysfunction as your more combative team members. That’s because it’s a problem when you shy away from open, healthy conflict about the issues. Teams need conflict to function effectively. Still, I meet people every day who admit that they aren’t comfortable with conflict. Sure, pulling your punches might help you maintain your self-image as a nice person, but you do so at the cost of getting your alternative perspective on the table; at the cost of challenging faulty assumptions; and at the cost of highlighting hidden risks. To overcome these problems, we need a new definition of nice. The secret of having healthy conflict and maintaining your self-image as a nice person is all in the mindset and the delivery. Here are a few tips on improving your delivery: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

Copyright Traps Conflict Resolution - Resolving conflict rationally and effectively - Leadership training from MindTools Conflict is an inevitable part of work. We've all seen situations where people with different goals and needs have clashed, and we've all witnessed the often intense personal animosity that can result. As you'll learn in this article and video, the fact that conflict exists, however, is not necessarily a bad thing. Click here to view a transcript of this video. There are other benefits that you might not expect, such as: Increased understanding. But conflict can also be damaging. If you want to keep your team members working effectively, despite coming into conflict with one another, you need to stop this downward spiral as soon as you can. The Interest-Based Relational Approach When conflict arises, it's easy for people to get entrenched in their positions and for tempers to flare, voices to rise, and body language to become defensive or aggressive. Roger Fisher and William Ury developed the IBR approach and published it in their 1981 book, "Getting to Yes." Get the Free Newsletter!

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