The 'Busy' Trap Anxiety: We worry. A gallery of contributors count the ways. If you live in America in the 21st century you’ve probably had to listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are. It’s become the default response when you ask anyone how they’re doing: “Busy!” “So busy.” It’s not as if any of us wants to live like this; it’s something we collectively force one another to do. Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Brecht Vandenbroucke Even children are busy now, scheduled down to the half-hour with classes and extracurricular activities. The present hysteria is not a necessary or inevitable condition of life; it’s something we’ve chosen, if only by our acquiescence to it. Our frantic days are really just a hedge against emptiness. I am not busy. Here I am largely unmolested by obligations.
The Power of Introverts: A Manifesto for Quiet Brilliance Do you enjoy having time to yourself, but always feel a little guilty about it? Then Susan Cain’s “Quiet : The Power of Introverts” is for you. It’s part book, part manifesto. Cook: This may be a stupid question, but how do you define an introvert? Cain: Not a stupid question at all! It’s also important to understand that introversion is different from shyness. Cook: You argue that our culture has an extroversion bias. Cain: In our society, the ideal self is bold, gregarious, and comfortable in the spotlight. In my book, I travel the country – from a Tony Robbins seminar to Harvard Business School to Rick Warren’s powerful Saddleback Church – shining a light on the bias against introversion. Cook: How does this cultural inclination affect introverts? Cain: Many introverts feel there’s something wrong with them, and try to pass as extroverts. According to the latest research, one third to one half of us are introverts – that’s one out of every two or three people you know. Cain: Yes.
How to Chat up an Introvert A woman told me that she only likes introverted men, and asked how she could meet them. Good question. Where can one find introverts, and when you do, what's the best way approach them? After all, the introvert reading quietly in Starbucks may or may not be receptive to even friendly intrusion. I've been giving this some thought. Wandering around bookstores. In public places, body language can help. For heaven's sake, don't make a big fuss about it. Furtive glances at each other can only take you so far. Try to get past chit-chat to at least semi-substantive conversation quickly. Eye contact is usually a good sign that you've penetrated an introvert's wall of indifference. No great mystery here. Personally, I like doing stuff (and this goes for making new friends as well as dating). Your thoughts? My book, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World , is available for pre-order on Amazon .
What Every Diaper Bag Needs pg 1 Person-centred therapy with a client experiencing social anxiety difficulties: A hermeneutic single case efficacy design - Counselling and Psychotherapy Research - Volume 11 Published online: 22 Feb 2011 Author affiliations a Counselling Unit , University of Strathclyde , Glasgow, UK Author biographies Susan Stephen (formerly Cornforth) is a person-centred counsellor and supervisor working in private practice in Ayrshire. Robert Elliott is professor of counselling in the Counselling Unit at the University of Strathclyde, Glasgow, Scotland. Rachel Macleod is a counselling psychologist working in secondary care in the NHS.
The introvert’s guide to dating Though there are a few fans of the “cold call” approach to dating — the idea that we’re supposed to encounter a total stranger in a bar or at a party and sell ourselves between bursts of deafening music — introverts detest the idea. Why? Look at what defines an introvert The brains of introverts become very active in response to what’s going on around them. Here’s the good news: Romantic cold calling is more suited to cinema than real life, and the path to finding love can take a wonderfully introverted course. Here’s a road map Warm up. And the next time that witty party repartee on TV makes you doubt yourself, remember that at least half of the people out there are introverts, and they (along with a fair number of extroverts) are also tired of playing the game. More dating tips 4 Signs your Prince Charming is a fake Help!
What Every Diaper Bag Needs pg 2 Gay Teen Worried He Might Be Christian LOUISVILLE, KY—At first glance, high school senior Lucas Faber, 18, seems like any ordinary gay teen. He's a member of his school's swing choir, enjoys shopping at the mall, and has sex with other males his age. But lately, a growing worry has begun to plague this young gay man. "I don't know what's happening to me," Faber admitted to reporters Monday. Added Faber, "I feel so confused." The openly gay teen, who came out to his parents at age 14 and has had a steady boyfriend for the past seven months, said he first began to suspect he might be different last year, when he started feeling an odd stirring within himself every time he passed a church. "It's like I don't even know who I am anymore," the frightened teenager said. Faber's sock drawer is home to a number of illicit magazines he has secretly accepted from street preachers. According to Faber, his first experience with evangelical Christianity was not all that different from other gays his age.
Caring for Your Introvert - Jonathan Rauch From Atlantic Unbound: Interviews: "Introverts of the World, Unite!" (February 14, 2006) A conversation with Jonathan Rauch, the author who—thanks to an astonishingly popular essay in the March 2003 Atlantic—may have unwittingly touched off an Introverts' Rights revolution. Follow-up: The Introversy Continues Jonathan Rauch comments on reader feedback about introvert dating—and poses a new question Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. I know. Oh, for years I denied it. What is introversion? Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. How many people are introverts?
contemplation.com As soon as I arrived, I knew why I had come. In Vientiane, the capital, kids were fishing along the main street -- an unpaved red-dirt path -- and a call across town involved ringing an operator, waiting for her to call back and then tugging gently at the wire while speaking in a whisper. At 1 P.M. on the Friday I arrived, the center of downtown -- Laos's Times Square -- consisted of me, a drowsy rickshaw driver and a fountain with no water. When I stepped into my hotel, however -- a simple midprice place along the Mekong -- I was greeted by the Ghost of Laos Future. A room beside the lobby blinked with flashing screens accommodating E-mail needs, and Top Cat was agitating for some pizza on the Cartoon Network near my bed. "I'm sorry, sir," said the cashier when I took my leave of Laos, congratulating him on how (relatively) quiet and unspoiled his country was. Indeed they will, and another way to flee the all-surrounding buzz will be lost to us.
Anxiety: Forms of Anxiety Anxiety is a complex emotion, and its signs and symptoms may be manifested in different ways. Following are brief descriptions of the forms of anxiety that may occur in children and teenagers. Detailed descriptions, signs and symptoms, causes, treatment and related information can be found by linking to each disorder. {*style:<ul>*}{*style:<li>*}{*style:<b>*}Separation Anxiety Disorder{*style:</b>*} — Children with separation anxiety disorder (SAD) have intense anxiety about being away from home or caregivers that affects their ability to function socially and in school.