Make the most of your 20s: Meg Jay at TED2013 In her 20s, Meg Jay saw her first psychotherapy client, Alex, who was there to talk about her guy problems. Jay didn’t take the sessions all too seriously at first. But then her supervisor gave her a wakeup call. While Jay said, “Sure she’s dating down and sleeping with a knucklehead. For Jay, it was an a-ha moment. There are 50 million 20-somethings in the US — that’s 15% of population. “Claiming your 20s is one of simplest things you can do for work, happiness, love, maybe even for the world,” says Jay. Jay worries that messages in the media about the changing timetable of adulthood, and the 20s being an “extended adolescence,” are trivializing this important decade. Jay also takes issue with the phrase “you can’t pick your family, but can pick your friends.” “Too many 30-somethings and 40-somethings look at themselves and say about their 20s, ‘What was I doing? So what can 20-somethings do? Meg Jay’s talk is now available for viewing.
Why do we cry? The three types of tears - Alex Gendler Check out these microscopic images of tears. So beautiful! The lacrimal apparatus works to produce tears that are needed to wet the front of the eye and flush debris from the ocular surface. Many animals yelp or cry out when they're in pain. But as far as scientists can tell, we humans seem to be the only species that shed tears for emotional reasons. A supporter of the Spanish team cries while watching the World Cup final soccer match, which Spain won 1-0. Women do it 64 times a year, men just 17. Choose Courage When confronted with news of a stranger’s unimaginable pain – a suicide, an overdose, a protest for justice and basic dignity – we have two choices: We can choose to respond from fear or we can choose courage. We can choose to believe that we are somehow insulated from the realities of these traumas and that our willpower or our strength of character makes us better than these displays of desperation and woundedness. When we seek shelter in the better than – safer than – different than thinking, we are actually choosing fear and that requires us to self-protect and arm ourselves with judgment and self-righteousness. Our only other option is to choose courage. Rather than deny our vulnerability, we lean into both the beauty and agony of our shared humanity. The courageous choice also does not mean abandoning accountability – it simply means holding ourselves accountable first. Our choices have consequences: They make the world a more dangerous place or they cultivate peace.
TEDx « Fluent in 3 months plus Last year I spoke at TEDx, an independently organized TED event, about my strategy of Speaking From Day 1. This video introduces some of the concepts I explain in more detail in my international best selling book, Fluent in 3 Months. I expand on these ideas even more here on Fi3m PLUS (free for book owners) and in my new Fi3m PREMIUM package, which includes the very best guides and videos I have to offer. If you are interested in getting a five-day crash-course in language hacking, ending with a two-chapter preview of the Language Hacking Guide for free, as well as monthly hacks, site updates, handy links, and language learning tips, just click below to join! Can’t see the signup box? Join by clicking here instead!
Why women still get killed for love Courtesy of Sharmeen Obaid Films Film has a way of revealing the soul of each person you see onscreen, giving a human face to issues that might otherwise only be expressed as a headline or a statistic. In my career, I’ve focused on bringing the neglected narratives and hushed voices of marginalized communities to the forefront — the plight of children in war torn areas in Pakistan’s Taliban Generation; stories of the transgender community in Transgenders: Pakistan’s Open Secret; Iraqi refugees in Jordan and Syria in Iraq: The Lost Generation; and harrowing stories of women undergoing illegal abortions in the Philippines in City of Guilt. My documentary Saving Face, which in 2012 won an Academy Award for Best Documentary Short Subject, tackled the issue of acid attacks on women in Pakistan. Every year in Pakistan, hundreds of women are killed in the name of honor. When a father kills his daughter, his wife can forgive him, and when a brother kills his sister, his parents can forgive him.
Plato’s Allegory of the Cave - Alex Gendler Want to read the Allegory of the Cave in its complete format? Go to this site and get started. To better understand the allegory’s larger context, try reading the rest of The Republic by Plato and these classic lectures. Then, check out this modern scientific interpretation of what it tells us about human knowledge. Want to see two different visual representations of this allegory? Watch this version of Plato’s allegory in clay animation or this one narrated by Orson Wells! You may also want to read a summary of the Theory of Forms and how it relates to language. Interested in comparing Plato’s Allegory of the Cave to a real-life issue such as alcohol and addiction?
Le cerveau, créateur de temps Une équipe de chercheurs américains vient de publier une étude sur la perception du temps. D’où il s’avère que l’amygdale trouble considérablement notre horloge interne… Récit au subjectif. Le cerveau, créateur de temps: Virginie Van Wassenhove at TEDxParisSalon Chacun se souvient du film Les choses de la vie de Claude Sautet, dans lequel un accident de voiture se produisait et où, durant le temps de cet accident, le héros du film revivait en quelques secondes sa vie tout entière. Chacun se souvient également de cette roue qui tournait, tournait, tournait… De fait, les gens racontent souvent ce sentiment, subjectif, d’une distorsion du temps, sentiment qui survient au moment d’un événement traumatisant, comme si le temps justement se ralentissait, en quelque sorte. Première expérimentation: on a demandé à ces volontaires de mesurer, avec un chronomètre précis, la chute des autres. Or, plus le souvenir est riche, plus on garde en mémoire un événement.
Is Grit the New It? Developing Your Passion and Practicing Perseverance - Home » Resilience » Is Grit the New It? Developing Your Passion and Practicing Perseverance “Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. Our fires are damped, our drafts are checked. We are making use of only a small part of our possible mental resources. . .men the world over possess amounts of resource, which only exceptional individuals push to their extremes of use.” – William James If you’re in the field of psychology or just interested in it, you probably came across the term “Grit”. Angela grew up being told that she was no genius, but years later was awarded the MacArthur Fellowship also known as the “genius grant”. Through her journey, she discovered that what we eventually accomplish in life may depend more on our passion, resilience and commitment to our goals than on our innate talents. The 2 Ultimate Questions: The What and How of our Abilities What are the types of human abilities? Enter Grit If you’re like most people you said yes, I know I did. Take Away
10 love stories that’ll grab you by the heart, from Storycorps Inside a StoryCorps recording booth, everyday people can sit down to interview someone who matters to them. Almost all of these interviews touch on the great themes of human existence — and there’s no question that the greatest of these themes is love. It’s been eleven years since I founded Storycorps, and I am still regularly astonished by the beautiful love stories that spin out of our recording booth week after week. From topless bar to biology lab: Susan and Philip McClinton. Dave Isay is the founder of StoryCorps, and the winner of the 2015 TED Prize.
How memories form and how we lose them - Catharine Young Memory: It isn’t just something, it's everything. And although scientists have pursued and puzzled over it for centuries, a definitive explanation of the actual memory process still eludes us--partly because our brain is so incredibly complex (it is made up of approximately 90 billion cells after all!). Let’s take a look at the basic neuroanatomy elements, which makes memory possible. In order for new memory formation to occur, information needs to undergo certain processes. Memory can go through several different stages before it stored long-term. Want to test your short-term memory? While many of our short-term memories are quickly forgotten, making a conscious effort to retain this information allows it to continue on the next stage--long-term memory. What parts of the brain are involved in these different types of memories? While memory fascinates our culture, the loss of it causes even greater fascination (and anxiety), in part, because we ALL experience it.