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How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2

How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2
This is Part 2. Part 1 is here. Often, the key to succeeding at something big is to break it into its tiniest pieces and focus on how to succeed at just one piece. When we examined procrastination, we talked about how a great achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable tasks looks like from far away. In the pixel post, we looked at a human life up close and saw that it was just an ordinary Wednesday, again and again and again—and that achieving life happiness was all about learning to be happy on a routine weekday. I think the same idea applies to marriage. From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broad summations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined. Marriage isn’t the honeymoon in Thailand—it’s day four of vacation #56 that you take together. 1) An Epic Friendship Sources

How to Beat Procrastination This is Part 2. You won’t get Part 2 if you haven’t read Part 1 yet. Here’s Part 1. PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| nounthe action of ruining your own life for no apparent reason Let me start by saying that I’ve had just about enough of the irony of battling through crippling procrastination while trying to write posts on procrastination and how to beat it. A couple notes before we begin: I’m not a professional at any of this, just a lifelong procrastinator who thinks about this topic all the time. Alright, so last week we dove into the everyday inner struggle of the procrastinator to examine the underlying psychology going on. We know about the Instant Gratification Monkey (the part of your brain that makes you procrastinate) and his dominion over the Rational Decision Maker, but what’s really happening there? Planning A big list of icky, daunting tasks and undertakings.

Why Procrastinators Procrastinate PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| noun the action of delaying or postponing something: your first tip is to avoid procrastination. Who would have thought that after decades of struggle with procrastination, the dictionary, of all places, would hold the solution. Avoid procrastination. While we’re here, let’s make sure obese people avoid overeating, depressed people avoid apathy, and someone please tell beached whales that they should avoid being out of the ocean. No, “avoid procrastination” is only good advice for fake procrastinators—those people that are like, “I totally go on Facebook a few times every day at work—I’m such a procrastinator!” The thing that neither the dictionary nor fake procrastinators understand is that for a real procrastinator, procrastination isn’t optional—it’s something they don’t know how to not do. Pretty normal, right? Notice anything different?

How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 To a frustrated single person, life can often feel like this: And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people.1 But a closer analysis reveals that if you split up “married people” into two groups based on marriage quality, “people in self-assessed poor marriages are fairly miserable, and much less happy than unmarried people, and people in self-assessed good marriages are even more happy than the literature reports”.2 In other words, here’s what’s happening in reality: Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves in a neutral, fairly hopeful position, compared to what their situation could be. All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. So how big a deal is it? Well, start by subtracting your age from 90. (Sure, people get divorced, but you don’t think you will. Intense shit.

INTP et amour Page précédente Page suivante Les INTP appréhendent leurs rapports intimes tout à fait sérieusement – comme ils appréhendent la plupart des choses dans la vie. Ils prennent leurs promesses et engagements au sérieux et sont d'habitude fidèles et loyaux. Ils sont d'habitude assez faciles à vivre et côtoyer, parce qu'ils ont des besoins quotidiens simples et ne sont pas très exigeants envers leurs partenaires à presque tous les égards. Bien qu'ils recherchent la franchise dans leurs relations, cela ne signifie pas que les INTP manquent de profondeur de sentiment ou de passion. L'amour, pour eux, a trois phases distinctes : tomber amoureux, rester amoureux et quitter la relation. Un INTP a caractérisé le fait de tomber amoureux comme un stade de perte complète de rationalité qui peut durer jusqu'à une année. Lorsque la relation arrive dans la phase « rester amoureux », les INTP commencent à évaluer leur structure et organisation. Combinaisons Satisfaction dans une relation Suite : Etre Parent

What to Expect at the First Marriage Counseling Session The decision to begin going to marriage counseling can be daunting. It may begin by a couple making a mutual choice to seek counseling, or it may be one partner asking the other one to attend. For those who have never been to couples counseling before, going to the first session can be difficult or anxiety provoking. Knowing what to expect from the first session can ease some of these fears and help couples feel prepared. Couples may choose to begin counseling when they feel that they can no longer solve problems together and the help of an objective third party can help get things back on track. What to expect during the first session can depend on the therapist. Couples come to counseling in different phases of a relationship and varying life stages. The decision to go to marriage counseling can be a difficult one, but it can also be an opportunity to demonstrate commitment to your significant other and work through barriers in a relationship.

VAKOG : Comment mieux communiquer (et détecter les mensonges) ? Bienvenue sur Penser et Agir ! Si vous êtes nouveau ici, sachez que vous pouvez recevoir Librement et Gratuitement la Lettre qui m’aurait permis d’économiser 10 ANNÉES si je l’avais reçue plus tôt ! Vous y découvrirez les 2 Types de Choix INCONSCIENTS que vous effectuez au QUOTIDIEN et qui conditionnent 95% de votre Vie ! Cliquez ici pour Télécharger votre Lettre GRATUITEMENT. Merci de votre visite, et à bientôt sur Penser et Agir La communication est au centre de toutes nos interactions. Comment mieux faire passer ses idées ? A toutes ces questions, une importante piste de réponse : le VAKOG ! Cet article se divise en deux parties : la première concerne la définition précise de ce concept, la seconde les applications pratiques qui en découlent. Ces dernières années, je me suis beaucoup intéressé à ces notions. Suivez le guide… Qu’est-ce que le VAKOG ? Vous ne Ferez plus jamais les Mêmes Choix... ...et comment les CONTRÔLER Précisément, voici la définition de chacun de ces sens : « Hey !

Special interest groups How to join A member of the College can join whichever Faculty, Section and/or Special Interest Group they choose, (to join a Faculty, Section or Special Interest Group, please contact the Membership Department) and can be a member of more than one at a time. The fact that a College member belongs to a particular Faculty, Section or Special Interest Group does not necessarily mean that they work in that field. Equally, it is not a requirement for any psychiatrist to belong to a particular Faculty or Section to work in that area of psychiatry. Members and Associates may join by completing our online application form or emailing the College Membership office. Regulation XXIB The main objects of a Special Interest Group are to facilitate the exchange of information, to promote discussion and to generate interest in a particular field of psychiatry. (Note: the name of the Central Executive Committee has been changed by consent of the Privy Council to ‘Council’. Annual Reports

How liars create the illusion of truth – Mind Hacks Repetition makes a fact seem more true, regardless of whether it is or not. Understanding this effect can help you avoid falling for propaganda, says psychologist Tom Stafford. “Repeat a lie often enough and it becomes the truth”, is a law of propaganda often attributed to the Nazi Joseph Goebbels. After a break – of minutes or even weeks – the participants do the procedure again, but this time some of the items they rate are new, and some they saw before in the first phase. So, here, captured in the lab, seems to be the source for the saying that if you repeat a lie often enough it becomes the truth. But a reliable effect in the lab isn’t necessarily an important effect on people’s real-world beliefs. One obstacle is what you already know. Recently, a team led by Lisa Fazio of Vanderbilt University set out to test how the illusion of truth effect interacts with our prior knowledge. The next question has to be, why might that be? Once we know about the effect we can guard against it.

Tavor 1,0 Tabletten - Beipackzettel / Informationen Präparat: Tavor 1,0 Tabletten Darreichungsform: Tabletten Abgabeform: verschreibungspflichtig Zuzahlungsbefreite Packungsgrößen: keine Aktive Wirkstoffe: Lorazepam Über Hilfsstoffe, Geruchs-, Geschmacks-, Konservierungs- und Farbstoffe informieren Sie sich bitte in der Gebrauchsinformation oder fragen Sie bei Ihrem Apotheker nach. Die folgenden Informationen beziehen sich auf den/die arzneilich wirksamen Inhaltsstoff(e). 1 Was ist "Tavor 1,0 Tabletten" und wofür wird es angewendet? 1.1 Welche Eigenschaften hat das Arzneimittel? "Tavor 1,0 Tabletten" enthält den Wirkstoff Lorazepam, ein Arzneimittel aus der Gruppe der sogenannten Anxiolytika (angstlösende Mittel) und Tranquilizer (sedierende Mittel). Lorazepam ist ein Benzodiazepin mit Wirkungen gegen Spannungs-, Erregungs- und Angstzustände. Lorazepam ist verschreibungspflichtig und darf nur auf ärztliche Anweisung angewendet werden. 1.2 Welche Wirkstärken und Darreichungsformen gibt es? Lorazepam zur Einnahme gibt es üblicherweise als 2.2.a Kinder

Schadenfreude - Wikipedia Return to the Convent, by Eduardo Zamacois y Zabala, 1868. Note the group of monks laughing while the lone monk struggles with the donkey. Schadenfreude (/ˈʃɑːdənfrɔɪdᵊ/; German: [ˈʃaːdn̩ˌfʁɔʏ̯də]; lit. Linguistic analysis[edit] Spelling and etymology[edit] Though normally not capitalized in English, the term schadenfreude is sometimes capitalized to mimic German-language convention, as German nouns are always capitalized. English equivalents[edit] Little-used English words synonymous with schadenfreude derive from the Greek word, epichairekakia (ἐπιχαιρεκακία, first attested in Aristotle[2]).[3][4] Nathan Bailey's 18th-century Universal Etymological English Dictionary, for example, contains an entry for epicharikaky that gives its etymology as a compound of ἐπί epi (upon), χαρά chara (joy), and κακόν kakon (evil).[5][6] A popular modern collection of rare words, however, gives its spelling as epicaricacy.[7] Related words[edit] Neologisms and variants[edit] Rabbi Harold S. See also[edit] Notes

Tests et questionnaires Au service de la la Nouvelle Terre Questionnaire sur les styles d'apprentissage Inventaire de ses symptômes de stress Le stress psychologique associé aux différents changements de la vie Identifier ses tendances à exprimer, à agir et à inhiber Faire l'inventaire de ses occasions de stress Savez-vous communiquer? Êtes-vous « workaholique » La vision L'alimentation et l'ostéoporose Quel est votre indice de masse corporelle? Questionnaire d'évaluation de l'harmonie sexuelle de votre couple Êtes-vous fidèle? Êtes-vous actif ou passif au lit ? Voici un test très excitant... haut de page Quelles sont vos motivations ? Chacun de nous a en lui des réserves d'énergie qui ne demandent qu'à s'investir dans les réalisations les plus variées. Ces forces intérieures ressemblent un peu à des ressorts prêts à se détendre. Seulement voilà : les ressorts de motivations sont différents d'une personne à l'autre. Tout le monde n'est pas motivé de la même façon par le sport, la création artistique, le service des autres, l'organisation... En matière de motivation professionnelle, c'est la même chose. Devenir un spécialiste Certains vont aimer se spécialiser dans un secteur ou un type de travail qui les passionnera. Devenir dirigeant Vouloir exercer de hautes responsabilités et être le manager de l'entreprise... Etre indépendant, avoir de l'autonomie Certains vont avoir plus que tout besoin de se sentir libres et autonomes. Trouver un poste stable et sécurisant Pour certains au contraire, il sera primordial d'avoir un travail stable qui leur permette de vivre paisiblement ainsi que leur famille.

6 Effective Ways to Become Persistent No great achievement is possible without persistent work. – Bertrand Russell A distinguishing attributes of those who succeed in life against those who don’t is persistence. Many has the capacity to set goals and plans toward success, yet only few succeeds, because only few stick to work on their goals and plans until it is accomplished. Majority stops before they even start or they quit in the middle of their journey. The most interesting thing about a postage stamp is the persistence with which it sticks to its job. – Napoleon Hill Developing persistence is a master skill to success. But if you want to create change in your life and achieve success, now is the time to develop and master persistence. 1. If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else. – Lawrence J. Before you can develop persistence and eventually achieve success, you need to first identify your wants or desires. 2. For an instance, you want to publish a book. 3. 4. 5. 6.

Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth) We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. Part 1: Meet Your Mammoth The first day I was in second grade, I came to school and noticed that there was a new, very pretty girl in the class—someone who hadn’t been there the previous two years. Her name was Alana and within an hour, she was everything to me. When you’re seven, there aren’t really any actionable steps you can take when you’re in love with someone. But for me, it became suddenly relevant a few months later, when during recess one day, one of the girls in the class started asking each of the boys, “Who do youuu want to marry?” Disaster. I was still new to being a human and didn’t realize that the only socially acceptable answer was, “No one.” The second I answered, the heinous girl ran toward other students, telling each one, “Tim said he wants to marry Alana!” The news quickly got back to Alana herself, who stayed as far away from me as possible for days after. Part 2: Taming the Mammoth No.

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