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How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2

How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2
This is Part 2. Part 1 is here. Often, the key to succeeding at something big is to break it into its tiniest pieces and focus on how to succeed at just one piece. When we examined procrastination, we talked about how a great achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable tasks looks like from far away. In the pixel post, we looked at a human life up close and saw that it was just an ordinary Wednesday, again and again and again—and that achieving life happiness was all about learning to be happy on a routine weekday. I think the same idea applies to marriage. From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broad summations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined. Marriage isn’t the honeymoon in Thailand—it’s day four of vacation #56 that you take together. 1) An Epic Friendship Sources Related:  sevWedding V&J

How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 To a frustrated single person, life can often feel like this: And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people.1 But a closer analysis reveals that if you split up “married people” into two groups based on marriage quality, “people in self-assessed poor marriages are fairly miserable, and much less happy than unmarried people, and people in self-assessed good marriages are even more happy than the literature reports”.2 In other words, here’s what’s happening in reality: Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves in a neutral, fairly hopeful position, compared to what their situation could be. All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. So how big a deal is it? Well, start by subtracting your age from 90. (Sure, people get divorced, but you don’t think you will. Intense shit.

How to Beat Procrastination This is Part 2. You won’t get Part 2 if you haven’t read Part 1 yet. Here’s Part 1. PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| nounthe action of ruining your own life for no apparent reason Let me start by saying that I’ve had just about enough of the irony of battling through crippling procrastination while trying to write posts on procrastination and how to beat it. A couple notes before we begin: I’m not a professional at any of this, just a lifelong procrastinator who thinks about this topic all the time. Alright, so last week we dove into the everyday inner struggle of the procrastinator to examine the underlying psychology going on. We know about the Instant Gratification Monkey (the part of your brain that makes you procrastinate) and his dominion over the Rational Decision Maker, but what’s really happening there? Planning A big list of icky, daunting tasks and undertakings.

Why Procrastinators Procrastinate PDF: We made a fancy PDF of this post for printing and offline viewing. Buy it here. (Or see a preview.) pro-cras-ti-na-tion |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən, prō-| noun the action of delaying or postponing something: your first tip is to avoid procrastination. Who would have thought that after decades of struggle with procrastination, the dictionary, of all places, would hold the solution. Avoid procrastination. While we’re here, let’s make sure obese people avoid overeating, depressed people avoid apathy, and someone please tell beached whales that they should avoid being out of the ocean. No, “avoid procrastination” is only good advice for fake procrastinators—those people that are like, “I totally go on Facebook a few times every day at work—I’m such a procrastinator!” The thing that neither the dictionary nor fake procrastinators understand is that for a real procrastinator, procrastination isn’t optional—it’s something they don’t know how to not do. Pretty normal, right? Notice anything different?

untitled kā veiksmīgi izveidot ieradumus? | Mani Turcijas mirkļi Meklējot internetā rakstus par izdegšanas sindromu (par to vēlāk, man vēl jāizlaiž caur sevi), uzgāju kādu Psychology Today rakstu par ieradumu maiņu. Interesanta perspektīva/idejas, kuras nu izmēģinu uz sevi. Mans mērķis ir regulāras un daudzveidīgas sporta aktivitātes ikdienā. Ko gan par to saka Gregory Ciotti? 1. Viņš apgalvo, ka, ja darbība ir vienkārši paveicama, ir lielāka varbūtība, ka jūs to darīsiet regulāri. Viņš min piemēru, ka mīl skriet no rītiem, bet nemīl aukstumu. 2. Ieteikums vecs kā pasaule, vai ne? Pavisam praktisks piemērs no autora – lai lielais mērķis kalpo kā X mūsu plāna kartē. 3. Šī ideja apgalvo, ka uzdevumu X ir vieglāk izpildīt regulāri, ja tam vienmēr seko uzdevums Y. 4. Autors apgalvo, ka saskaņā ar pētījumiem, cilvēkam stiprāka par vēlmi uzvarēt, ir vēlme nezaudēt. Triks šeit ir tāds, ka, kad reiz esam pārtraukuši un pievīluši sevi, atmetam ar roku `aj, neskrēju divas dienas, trešā neskriešana jau vairs neko nemainīs, varu gulēt un lūrēt seriālus`.

INTP et amour Page précédente Page suivante Les INTP appréhendent leurs rapports intimes tout à fait sérieusement – comme ils appréhendent la plupart des choses dans la vie. Ils prennent leurs promesses et engagements au sérieux et sont d'habitude fidèles et loyaux. Ils sont d'habitude assez faciles à vivre et côtoyer, parce qu'ils ont des besoins quotidiens simples et ne sont pas très exigeants envers leurs partenaires à presque tous les égards. Bien qu'ils recherchent la franchise dans leurs relations, cela ne signifie pas que les INTP manquent de profondeur de sentiment ou de passion. L'amour, pour eux, a trois phases distinctes : tomber amoureux, rester amoureux et quitter la relation. Un INTP a caractérisé le fait de tomber amoureux comme un stade de perte complète de rationalité qui peut durer jusqu'à une année. Lorsque la relation arrive dans la phase « rester amoureux », les INTP commencent à évaluer leur structure et organisation. Combinaisons Satisfaction dans une relation Suite : Etre Parent

What to Expect at the First Marriage Counseling Session The decision to begin going to marriage counseling can be daunting. It may begin by a couple making a mutual choice to seek counseling, or it may be one partner asking the other one to attend. For those who have never been to couples counseling before, going to the first session can be difficult or anxiety provoking. Knowing what to expect from the first session can ease some of these fears and help couples feel prepared. Couples may choose to begin counseling when they feel that they can no longer solve problems together and the help of an objective third party can help get things back on track. What to expect during the first session can depend on the therapist. Couples come to counseling in different phases of a relationship and varying life stages. The decision to go to marriage counseling can be a difficult one, but it can also be an opportunity to demonstrate commitment to your significant other and work through barriers in a relationship.

untitled The 25 Books Every Traveler Needs To Read — Zachary Kyra-Derksen Quote from The Snow Leopard: “The sun is roaring, it fills to bursting each crystal of snow. I flush with feeling, moved beyond my comprehension, and once again, the warm tears freeze upon my face. These rocks and mountains, all this matter, the snow itself, the air, the earth is ringing. The Snow Leopard chronicles the 1973 journey undertaken by Peter Matthiessen and field biologist George Schaller into Nepal’s remote mountains where they study Himalayan blue sheep, and seek out the elusive snow leopard.

VAKOG : Comment mieux communiquer (et détecter les mensonges) ? Bienvenue sur Penser et Agir ! Si vous êtes nouveau ici, sachez que vous pouvez recevoir Librement et Gratuitement la Lettre qui m’aurait permis d’économiser 10 ANNÉES si je l’avais reçue plus tôt ! Vous y découvrirez les 2 Types de Choix INCONSCIENTS que vous effectuez au QUOTIDIEN et qui conditionnent 95% de votre Vie ! Cliquez ici pour Télécharger votre Lettre GRATUITEMENT. Merci de votre visite, et à bientôt sur Penser et Agir La communication est au centre de toutes nos interactions. Comment mieux faire passer ses idées ? A toutes ces questions, une importante piste de réponse : le VAKOG ! Cet article se divise en deux parties : la première concerne la définition précise de ce concept, la seconde les applications pratiques qui en découlent. Ces dernières années, je me suis beaucoup intéressé à ces notions. Suivez le guide… Qu’est-ce que le VAKOG ? Vous ne Ferez plus jamais les Mêmes Choix... ...et comment les CONTRÔLER Précisément, voici la définition de chacun de ces sens : « Hey !

Special interest groups How to join A member of the College can join whichever Faculty, Section and/or Special Interest Group they choose, (to join a Faculty, Section or Special Interest Group, please contact the Membership Department) and can be a member of more than one at a time. The fact that a College member belongs to a particular Faculty, Section or Special Interest Group does not necessarily mean that they work in that field. Equally, it is not a requirement for any psychiatrist to belong to a particular Faculty or Section to work in that area of psychiatry. Members and Associates may join by completing our online application form or emailing the College Membership office. Regulation XXIB The main objects of a Special Interest Group are to facilitate the exchange of information, to promote discussion and to generate interest in a particular field of psychiatry. (Note: the name of the Central Executive Committee has been changed by consent of the Privy Council to ‘Council’. Annual Reports

Best Non-traditional Sydney Wedding Locations - Broadsheet Getting hitched? Having a party? Sydney is home to some surprising locations for special occasions. If you’re looking for some left-field options for throwing a party, or you’re dreaming of a wedding that no one will forget in a hurry, we’ve found some unusual locations around the city. Some of these venues don’t openly advertise their availability for weddings, so keep the secret safe until yours is booked. Carriageworks With the romance of an old-fashioned train station, Carriageworks offers a number of options for those to be wed. The venue offers catering packages by Fresh Catering (a good option because there are no kitchen facilities on site). carriageworks.com.au/venues The Turbine Shop at Cockatoo Island Only two weddings have ever taken place at the Turbine Shop on Cockatoo Island. A smaller (and less pricey) heritage-listed venue on Cockatoo Island is the Navel Store, which holds 130 people. cockatooisland.gov.au/venue-hire/turbine-shop sydney.edu.au/sca/about-us/venue-hire

Paradise Lost: The Hippie Refugee Camp Let me tell you about a place called Taylor Camp, a tropical ocean-front utopia without rules, politics or bills to pay. Anti-establishment all the way, clothing was optional and decisions were made according to the “vibes”. It was the ultimate hippie fantasy. Taylor Camp began in the Spring of 1969, with thirteen hippies seeking refuge from the ongoing campus riots in America and police brutality. Having fled their homes, they headed for Kauai in Hawaii, then a very remote and unspoilt land with just a single traffic light on the island. “We were involved in the anti-war movement and Berkeley was ready to explode. Poor, homeless and uninterested in living any kind of standard lifestyle, it wasn’t long before the tribe of hippies landed themselves and their children in jail for vagrancy. These photographs were taken by Taylor Camp resident, John Wehrheim. There was no electricity or amenities of any kind and Howard pretty much left them to it. “We were naked. “Remember the mango pies?

How liars create the illusion of truth – Mind Hacks Repetition makes a fact seem more true, regardless of whether it is or not. Understanding this effect can help you avoid falling for propaganda, says psychologist Tom Stafford. “Repeat a lie often enough and it becomes the truth”, is a law of propaganda often attributed to the Nazi Joseph Goebbels. After a break – of minutes or even weeks – the participants do the procedure again, but this time some of the items they rate are new, and some they saw before in the first phase. So, here, captured in the lab, seems to be the source for the saying that if you repeat a lie often enough it becomes the truth. But a reliable effect in the lab isn’t necessarily an important effect on people’s real-world beliefs. One obstacle is what you already know. Recently, a team led by Lisa Fazio of Vanderbilt University set out to test how the illusion of truth effect interacts with our prior knowledge. The next question has to be, why might that be? Once we know about the effect we can guard against it.

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