What Makes a Highly Sensitive Person? My mom called me her “flapper” when I was a baby. Whenever I got excited, I would flap my arms, like I was young chick taking off for flight … in front of a hawk. I still do that, to some extent, but I manage to keep the arm movements to a minimum extension. I am easily excitable, a “highly sensitive person,” as defined by Elaine Aron in her bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person. If you answer yes to most of these questions on her website, you’re probably in the club, which holds 15 to 20 percent of human beings: Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby? This is not a terrible curse. We highly sensitive people have gifts and aptitudes unavailable to the person who is oblivious to the fly that just landed on his eggs and that girl who doesn’t wonder if there is some symbolic meaning in the leaf that has just fallen from the oak tree in front of her. Sensory detail. “Why do you find Whole Foods overwhelming?”
15 Tips for the Highly Sensitive Parent - Megan Tietz :: SortaCrunchy "My nerves are just shot!" If I had a quarter for every time I heard my mother say this when I was growing up, I'd be pretty darn close to funding college educations for all four of my children. There were various versions of this phrase - including "you kids are getting on my last nerve!" and "turn that down! And when I became a parent, I discovered exactly why. There are so many days when I just want to crawl under my covers in a dark room and hold my fingers in my ears for a little while, just long enough to let my nerves recover from the constant stimulation of being home with kids. In the past, I've written about being an ENFP and how that means my first cognitive function - or, the way I primarily take in information around me - is extraverted intuition which basically means I am constantly taking in all the information around me, considering all the possibilities, all the time. I took the short self-test created by Dr. 1. 2. 3. photo by Aubrey 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Oh, whining! 10. 11.
30 traits of an Empath (How to know if you're an Empath) By: Christel Broederlow What is an empath? Being an empath is when you are affected by other people’s energies, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Your life is unconsciously influenced by others’ desires, wishes, thoughts, and moods. Empaths are often quiet achievers. However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. Empaths are more inclined to pick up another’s feelings and project it back without realizing its origin in the first place. Without a doubt, this emotional withholding can be detrimental to one’s health, for the longer one’s thoughts and/or emotions aren’t released, the more power they build. Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. You will find empaths working with people, animals or nature with a true passion and dedication to help them. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.
The Best Time To Book A Plane Ticket, According To New Study Finally, there’s a scientific answer to that magic number of days before a flight when tickets are at their cheapest. The answer? Are you ready? Fifty-four days before takeoff is, on average, when domestic airline tickets are at their absolute lowest price. At least that’s what the data from 2013 tells us. The folks at CheapAir spent the last year analyzing over four million airline trips. Air travelers tend to believe they’ll find the lowest of low prices when they book “at the last minute.” The researchers found that, on average, a ticket was at its highest price on the day before the flight. This pretty much solidifies the rule that you should NEVER book your ticket within two weeks of a flight… a mistake that 36 percent of CheapAir users made when planning their trips. If you’re going somewhere incredibly popular at an incredibly popular time -- like spring break in Florida, for example -- you should book well before the “prime booking window” begins. Happy booking, travelers!
Comfort Zone - May 2007 - A Meditation for HSPs on Criticism, the Killer As a therapist and an HSP, I am often coming up with things that make me say, "Oh, that is really the basic problem we all have (HSPs and non)." I'm writing a book about one of those, the distortions we make about love and power, in particular seeing things through a lens of power when love is what is there. Another That's It is the role of shame in all of our lives--how we humans will do almost ANYTHING to avoid that feeling of "I'm a bad person." My latest That's It is related to shame, and has been bubbling in the back of my mind for a long time. It is about the HSP's intense reaction to criticism. Everyone feels it. The reaction to criticism is probably tripled in HSPs. In this article, however, I want to assume the criticism is at least partly true. The Problem is Everywhere We all want to be open to criticism and improve ourselves. What are some other examples when we have to bear valid criticism besides psychotherapy? He exploded: "Me dominating you? Oops. Getting "All Defensive"
13 Signs That You're an Empath | Highly Sensitive Refuge An empath is someone who is highly aware of the emotions of those around them, to the point of feeling those emotions themselves. Empaths see the world differently than other people; they’re keenly aware of others, their pain points, and what they need emotionally. But it’s not just emotions. According to Dr. Judith Orloff, author of The Empath’s Survival Guide, empaths can feel physical pain, too — and can often sense someone’s intentions or where they’re coming from. Many highly sensitive people (HSPs) are also empaths — but there may be a difference between empaths and HSPs. So how do you know if you are one? 13 Signs of an Empath 1. This is the classic, number one trait of an empath. How exactly this works is a subject of some debate. Those same active mirror neurons, however, mean that you basically live through the feeling as if it were your own. 2. It’s not just in one-on-one conversation where you sense the emotions of others. 3. 4. Empath expert Dr. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12.
9 TED Talks That Will Change Your Life - Design Good Dare greatly. Get your game on. Find your genius. Oh, TED: You always know just what we need to hear. June 25, 2014 1. This 2010 talk at TEDxHouston started it all for researcher/storyteller Brene Brown, who’s now a bestselling author. 2. Jill Bolte, a brain scientist, woke up one day and discovered that her own brain was broken. 3. Even if poetry is not your thing, spoken word poet Sarah Kay will blow you away with performances of her work. 4. What if you could increase your lifespan by playing games? 5. After the success of her memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Gilbert realized that to avoid anguish (and gin in the mornings), she needed to separate what she was writing from her anxiety about how others might react to it. 6. Four years ago, Logan LaPlante’s parents pulled the then-13-year-old out of traditional schooling. 7. If you have ever felt overwhelmed in big social gatherings and just wanted to retreat, Cain’s talk will make you realize you’re not alone. 8. 9.
14 Ways to Reduce Bounce and Increase Engagement on your eCommerce Site Visitors land on your site, hang around for a few precious seconds and then bounce without visiting another page. Sounds like a familiar problem? The average bounce rate of the eCommerce industry is 34%. 1) Pay Attention to the Size of Search Bar One reason for high bounce is that visitors are not able to find what they are looking for. If you can’t devote so much prime real estate to your search bar, you can try making it dynamic like AllRecipes.com. 2) Have a strong Site-Search solution Having an ideal-length search box will not be enough if it doesn’t show up the right results. Amazon auto-completes all the queries 3) Speed is King A website that loads at a lethargic pace is what one calls a bounce paradise. Find out your site speed by using this free tool 4) Split Test the Timing of Your Modal Box Imagine you have just entered an apparel store. Now think of online shopping and modal boxes. Schwan’s modal box opens the moment you log onto the site 6) Eliminate Distractions Credits 1inShare
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