What Makes a Highly Sensitive Person? My mom called me her “flapper” when I was a baby. Whenever I got excited, I would flap my arms, like I was young chick taking off for flight … in front of a hawk. I still do that, to some extent, but I manage to keep the arm movements to a minimum extension. I am easily excitable, a “highly sensitive person,” as defined by Elaine Aron in her bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person. If you answer yes to most of these questions on her website, you’re probably in the club, which holds 15 to 20 percent of human beings: Are you easily overwhelmed by such things as bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens nearby? This is not a terrible curse. We highly sensitive people have gifts and aptitudes unavailable to the person who is oblivious to the fly that just landed on his eggs and that girl who doesn’t wonder if there is some symbolic meaning in the leaf that has just fallen from the oak tree in front of her. Sensory detail. “Why do you find Whole Foods overwhelming?”
How to Combat Every Kind of Stress You know the feeling—tense muscles, a knot in your stomach, maybe a headache. No matter how hard you try, being calm and collected isn’t in the cards. Stress happens to all of us, and a recent American Psychological Association poll revealed that we’re feeling it more now than ever. Women in particular seem to be bearing the brunt: More than 80 percent reported having prolonged stress about money and the economy, and 70 percent say they’re worried about health problems affecting them and their families. “Women have more on their plates when it comes to the work-life balance, which takes considerable emotional resources,” says Alice Domar, PhD, executive director of The Domar Center for Mind/Body Health and coauthor of Live a Little! The key distinction: Good stress feels exciting and energizing; the bad type feels scary and paralyzing. Short-Term Stress What's Going On Your body’s stress response—called fight-or-flight—kicks into gear. What You Can Do Breathe. Lighten up. Long-Term Stress
J’ai déménagé de Venise à San Francisco : 5 commandements utiles à tous | De Venise à San Francisco Image extraite de l’émission « Les déménageurs de l’extrême » Partir, c’est mourir un peu, disait Edmond Haraucourt dans son si beau poème « Rondel de l’Adieu »... Ouais, ben Edmond, il n’a pas dû quitter la Haute-Marne pour un autre continent, parce que partir, c’est surtout jeter beaucoup. Choisir un déménageur international Pour choisir votre déménageur, un conseil : faites jouer la concurrence. Consultez trois entreprises de déménagement pour comparer les devis. 35 000 foyers français ont quitté la France en 2011. Surtout quand le déménagement en question est de Venise – sur une île donc – vers San Francisco, sur un continent, loin. Très loin donc très cher, le déménagement. Si cher que l’on ne pourra pas tout emmener. Des prix ? Et là, on ne peut faire autrement que de regarder sa maison : est-ce que ce que je possède vaut 1 000 euros le mètre cube ? Tu appliques la règle des trois ans Tu dégages tout ce que tu n’as pas touché depuis trois ans. Donc tu donnes ce qui est potable.
15 Tips for the Highly Sensitive Parent - Megan Tietz :: SortaCrunchy "My nerves are just shot!" If I had a quarter for every time I heard my mother say this when I was growing up, I'd be pretty darn close to funding college educations for all four of my children. There were various versions of this phrase - including "you kids are getting on my last nerve!" and "turn that down! And when I became a parent, I discovered exactly why. There are so many days when I just want to crawl under my covers in a dark room and hold my fingers in my ears for a little while, just long enough to let my nerves recover from the constant stimulation of being home with kids. In the past, I've written about being an ENFP and how that means my first cognitive function - or, the way I primarily take in information around me - is extraverted intuition which basically means I am constantly taking in all the information around me, considering all the possibilities, all the time. I took the short self-test created by Dr. 1. 2. 3. photo by Aubrey 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Oh, whining! 10. 11.
Comfort Zone - May 2007 - A Meditation for HSPs on Criticism, the Killer As a therapist and an HSP, I am often coming up with things that make me say, "Oh, that is really the basic problem we all have (HSPs and non)." I'm writing a book about one of those, the distortions we make about love and power, in particular seeing things through a lens of power when love is what is there. Another That's It is the role of shame in all of our lives--how we humans will do almost ANYTHING to avoid that feeling of "I'm a bad person." My latest That's It is related to shame, and has been bubbling in the back of my mind for a long time. It is about the HSP's intense reaction to criticism. Everyone feels it. The reaction to criticism is probably tripled in HSPs. In this article, however, I want to assume the criticism is at least partly true. The Problem is Everywhere We all want to be open to criticism and improve ourselves. What are some other examples when we have to bear valid criticism besides psychotherapy? He exploded: "Me dominating you? Oops. Getting "All Defensive"
Christmas Decorating Ideas, New sses for old Christmas Cards. Ideas on how to re-use greeting and christmas cards, Christmas Card crafts I hope everyone had a wonderful Labor Day weekend. It was beautiful here in PA. Absolutely gorgeous and I wanted to be outside as much as possible to enjoy the weather, so I didn’t get around to any work or blogging. Now that Labor Day has officially come and gone and the Summer of 2010 is officially over, I can get into full fall mode YEAH!!!!!!! without anyone giving me a hard time, like I am trying to rush the season. I am looking forward to oranges, browns, reds and all the lovely warm fall colors and putting some fall touches throughout the house. The project I created for today’s post is for beyond Fall —– It used recycled Christmas cards to make a Christmas tree garland that takes some time to make so I wanted to post it now to give you ample time to gather all the materials and create your own. I started this one in October 2008. I also wanted to remind you that if and when you complete your holiday projects you can link them here, at my On-Going Holiday Link- up Party. 1. 2.
The Dirty, Stinking Truth About Real-Life Hoarders (GRAPHIC, NSFW) A&E's "Hoarders" has forever changed the crime scene cleanup business. Whenever Laura Spaulding gets a call for a job, prospective clients usually describe the dilapidated, urine-soaked, garbage-festooned premisses they need cleaned as "bad," but "not as bad as the show." The truth is, it's always worse. "When you're leaving s--t in a bag in the kitchen, yeah, it's worse than the show," said Spaulding, the president of Spaulding Decon based out of Tampa, where the perpetual heat and humidity makes the stink all the worse. "Hoarding is right up there with the worst things we have to clean up. It's morbid work, but somebody's gotta do it. One day while investigating a homicide, somebody at the scene asked her if she was going to clean up the mess. Food, however, is the last thing you'll want to think about when you see the photos she shared with HuffPost Crime.
13 Signs That You're an Empath | Highly Sensitive Refuge An empath is someone who is highly aware of the emotions of those around them, to the point of feeling those emotions themselves. Empaths see the world differently than other people; they’re keenly aware of others, their pain points, and what they need emotionally. But it’s not just emotions. According to Dr. Judith Orloff, author of The Empath’s Survival Guide, empaths can feel physical pain, too — and can often sense someone’s intentions or where they’re coming from. Many highly sensitive people (HSPs) are also empaths — but there may be a difference between empaths and HSPs. So how do you know if you are one? 13 Signs of an Empath 1. This is the classic, number one trait of an empath. How exactly this works is a subject of some debate. Those same active mirror neurons, however, mean that you basically live through the feeling as if it were your own. 2. It’s not just in one-on-one conversation where you sense the emotions of others. 3. 4. Empath expert Dr. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12.
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