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How to Be Alone

How to Be Alone
I once knew a man who hated to be alone. It panicked him to the point where he sought to fill all of his waking hours with people. On the streets, at the bus stop, in restaurants, if he was unaccompanied he would soon find someone to talk to. I don’t judge him for his needs but as an introvert — someone who who requires being alone to re-energize — his constant seeking of the company of others made me feel claustrophobic. But clearly my friend wasn’t alone. In fact, the Experience Project has a group called “I Hate to Be Alone.” Anyway, I digress. I recently found a little gem of a video on YouTube called How to Be Alone by filmaker Andrea Dorfman and poet/singer/songwriter Tanya Davis. I have to say, however, after extolling the virtues of solitude, that I’ve never HAD to be alone much in my life and the few I times I did (like when I changed schools in grade 12 and had no friends for three months) seemed cruel. Recent Kerry Slavens Articles:

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