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How to Be Alone

How to Be Alone
I once knew a man who hated to be alone. It panicked him to the point where he sought to fill all of his waking hours with people. On the streets, at the bus stop, in restaurants, if he was unaccompanied he would soon find someone to talk to. I don’t judge him for his needs but as an introvert — someone who who requires being alone to re-energize — his constant seeking of the company of others made me feel claustrophobic. But clearly my friend wasn’t alone. In fact, the Experience Project has a group called “I Hate to Be Alone.” Anyway, I digress. I recently found a little gem of a video on YouTube called How to Be Alone by filmaker Andrea Dorfman and poet/singer/songwriter Tanya Davis. I have to say, however, after extolling the virtues of solitude, that I’ve never HAD to be alone much in my life and the few I times I did (like when I changed schools in grade 12 and had no friends for three months) seemed cruel. Recent Kerry Slavens Articles: Related:  Life, Love, and Happiness

Kensho 42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better? If you do, then we have something in common. I’m very passionate about personal growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university. SEE ALSO: How to Better Yourself One Day at a Time After 1.5 years of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement. As a passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to self-improve. Read a book every day. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this article or anything about personal growth. Image © kevindooley

Handbook for Life: 52 Tips for Happiness and Productivity | zen habits By Leo Babauta This is something I’ve been wanting to write for some time — a Handbook for Life. Now, is there any handbook that can be a guide to every single person? Of course not. This is just a list of tips that I think will help many people in life — some of them common-sense tips that we often forget about. It’ll also become apparent from the links in this handbook that I’ve written about this stuff before. How to use this handbook This handbook is not meant to be a step-by-step guide, nor should you adopt all the tips below. Pick and choose the tips that will be most useful to you. 52 Tips for Happiness and Productivity Try rising early.

Letting Go of Attachment, from A to Zen | zen habits “Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~Dalai Lama Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Lori Deschene of Tiny Buddha. If there’s one thing we all have in common it’s that we want to feel happy; and on the other side of that coin, we want to avoid hurting. We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfill you without the power to destroy you. It’s no simple undertaking to let go of attachment—not a one-time decision, like pulling off a band-aid. The best approach is to start simple, at the beginning, and work your way to Zen. Experiencing Without Attachment Call yourself out.

The Art of Giving Up - DYSKE.COM One winter night, one of the few Japanese friends I had in my early 20s was playing a guitar at his company Christmas party. He was an architect and was about 10 years older than I was. Before he decided to study architecture, he was making a living as a guitarist in Japan. This was not the first time I heard him play, but I was still stunned by how good he was. After his performance, I told him that it was a shame that he was no longer pursuing his musical career. He then shared with me his recent realization that life is a process of giving up. Now, I not only understand it, but also believe it myself. “Giving up,” in this sense, isn’t the same as quitting. The big question is: Why do we develop attachments at all? This leads me to believe that there is an evolutionary reason for our tendencies to develop attachments. Zen Buddhism is a process of detachment. ©2006 Dyske Suematsu, All Rights Reserved.

Three Techniques for Quieting Your Mind Three Techniques for Quieting Your Mind Courtesy of Andrea A mere week ago, I was telling a client that I thought it was impossible to completely stop ourselves from thinking. I subsequently received some guidance that actually had me prove myself completely wrong! In the past week, my mind has quieted down remarkably during meditation, to the point of true quiet and emptiness. Naturally, I then get really excited about my states of emptiness, leading to attachment … and new thoughts! Here are three of my newly discovered techniques for creating a quiet, peaceful, empty mind: 1. This technique came up in one of my coaching sessions. Our breathing cycle and the flow of our thoughts are closely linked. As we focus on those tiny pauses between our in- and out-breaths, we find that our mind quiets down at those points in our breathing. Without holding or interrupting your breath, begin extending those brief silences in your thoughts. 2. 3. Blessings, Andrea

The Age of Revolution: 10 Lessons for Leaders of the Change Generation “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”John Quincy AdamsTweet 1) Follow Your Internal Compass and Empower Others to Do The Same Deep down everyone knows the direction they should go in, however, fear and uncertainty can often paralyze the strongest ambition. You must learn to listen and trust your internal compass if you are to ever discover your own potential. By living a life that is authentic to whom you are or wish to be, you will indirectly empower everyone you come in contact with to discover their own strength. 2) If You Don’t Know Your Purpose, Discover it Through Personal Experience Every great leader must have a purpose and the only way to discover this purpose is through experience. 3) Evolve from the Conditioned Fight or Flight Response The human race has evolved over thousands of years due to a conditioned response that has guaranteed its survival. A leader can never let others rob them of their visions or dreams.

42 Ways to Make Life Simpler Image by notsogoodphotography (license). “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”Confucius “The aspects of things that are most important for us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity.”Ludwig Wittgenstein I love simplifying my life. It makes me more effective and life less stressful. So today I’d like to share 42 ways to make your life simpler. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. 41. 42. If you found this article helpful, then please share it with someone else by using the buttons below.

Six Steps to Meditation This meditation lasts 15 to 20 minutes. It is a meditation of SIX steps. Each step will take roughly two and half to about three minutes. I will first explain to you all the steps and then you can start. The FIRST is the step of rhythmic breathing. Breathe in slowly, easily, evenly, and deeply and then breathe out slowly, easily, evenly, and deeply. The SECOND is the step of detached observation. Then we come to the THIRD step. Then we come to the FOURTH step. The FIFTH is meditation on your immortality. And now we come to the FINAL, the last, the SIXTH step. And now if you are ready, we shall begin with the meditation. The FIRST step, the step of rhythmic breathing. Now we come to the SECOND step; it is the step of detached observation. We move to the THIRD step. We now come to the FOURTH step: It is the step of realizing the oneness with all that is; all human beings, all creatures, all birds, all animals, fish and foul, insects, even mosquitoes, all trees and shrubs and plants.

101 Ways to Be F*ckin EPIC :: Diesel Strength & Conditioning | Innovative Strength Training for Athletes comments 1. If you want to build muscle, lift heavy 2. If you want to lose fat, tighten up on your nutrition. Stop thinking that circuits and conditioning will take care of it 3. Hit more mobility work, yeah, I’m talking about everyday 4. 8. 10. 13. 21. 27. 32. 36. 40. 44. 49. 58. 1-6 (power), 6-8 (strength), 8-12 (muscle), 12+ (conditioning, endurance) – generally 59. 68. 74. 81. 87. 94. 100.

The Things We Already Know We know the answers to many of the questions we ask ourselves, whether we admit it or not. We deny the answers for many reasons. They make us uncomfortable. They require action. Most of us know that: If you want to get more writing done, you should write more. The only way to write a book is to write the book. If you want to know anything, question everything. If you want to feel better, do the things that will make you feel better. If you want to stand out, don’t do what everyone else is doing. If you want to be stronger, then do things that will make you strong. If you want to be patient, practice patience. If you want people to get to know you better, you need to make sure that you’re worth knowing. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want to press a heavier kettlebell, put down the baby one. If you want to watch less TV, turn off the TV. If you want to lose weight, it’s best not to live in America, but it’s also possible to eat fewer hot dogs and move more. Josh ShareThis

50 Life Secrets and Tips Pt. 2 Investigate what is known about deathWhat do you know about death? You certainly have beliefs around it, but what do you know about the science of death, or of those who have died and been brought back to life? Death is not as big of a mystery as it is made out to be. Do your research before you fear or misconstrue this most universal human experience.Notice the small, beautiful thingsAs cliche as this sounds, there is so much beauty in the world yet we rarely appreciate it. Find the supplements suitable for your lifestyleOur diets and habits are nothing like those which are bodies were built for. Wouldn’t it be awesome if you could boldly display 50 life secrets and tips on your wall to serve as a beautiful, daily reminder of how to live a Higher Existence?

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