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How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes)

How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes)
468k shares Share on Facebook Share on Twitter I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count. Play along and you’ll see. I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. Your first task is to describe the cube. There are no right answers here, only your answers. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. We’re nearly there now. Final question. If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. Ready? The cube is yourself. The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so. The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are. The ladder represents your friends. Are your friends leaning on the cube? The horse represents your dream partner. But I’ll tell you what.

45 Questions To Guarantee You’ll Never Have A Boring Date Again I have a secret game that I play in every conversation I have. Until now, no one knew about it… but I’m about to dish the deets. ;) I try to get every person I interact with to say, Wow. That’s a great question… at least once in our conversation. To win at this game, I have to stay super present and plugged in to who I’m chatting with so I can artfully select a question that pushes them to lean into an area of their brain they don’t normally hang out in. It’s fascinating watching them dig deeper into who they are. Why do I play this silly game? Because I believe it’s our responsibility to discover something awesome every person we meet. I thought it would be fun (and hopefully valuable) to give you a sneak peak at some of my favorites to ask (especially on first dates or with partners). My hope is that you too can tuck this list in your back pocket and together we can rid this planet of all the effortless and boring questions people ask each other these days. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

100 Getting to Know You Questions Working with a group of new people and need some conversation starters? Break the ice and get to know people better by selecting several of these get-to-know-you questions. Who is your hero? If you could live anywhere, where would it be? What is your biggest fear? What is your favorite family vacation? Party Time! 26. Plan you family meal, office potluck, team party and more. 51. Group Fundraising has never been easier! 76. 90. If you really want to get to know someone, questions (not all at once, of course!) Janis Meredith writes Jbmthinks, a blog on sports parenting and youth sports. Posted by Janis Meredith Posted by Punit Gupta on Thu Feb 19, 2015 2:06 AM EST Great Posted by Anna Nelson on Sun Jan 4, 2015 4:51 PM EST HAHA thanks i needed this for a activity!!!!! Posted by Graham Rogers on Tue Dec 30, 2014 4:12 PM EST What about: If you were on a deserted island what 3 things would you take? Posted by Juggling For A Cure on Tue Dec 30, 2014 7:10 AM EST Thanks for introducing me to myself. :)

7 Strange Questions That Help You Find Your Life Purpose One day, when my brother was 18, he waltzed into the living room and proudly announced to my mother and me that one day he was going to be a senator. My mom probably gave him the “That’s nice, dear,” treatment while I’m sure I was distracted by a bowl of Cheerios or something. But for fifteen years, this purpose informed all of my brother’s life decisions: what he studied in school, where he chose to live, who he connected with and even what he did with many of his vacations and weekends. And now, after almost half a lifetime of work later, he’s the chairman of a major political party in his city and the youngest judge in the state. Don’t get me wrong. Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. Part of the problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. Here’s the truth. So when people say, “What should I do with my life?” This is an infinitely better question to ask. Ah, yes. Embrace embarrassment.

Love the Grows: Questions You Should Ask Before Marriage In my marriage class in my first semester of college, our teacher gave us a handout (or should I say packet) with these questions. At first I was like "Holy shnikeys! This is way too many questions! But we did. At first it started with asking the interesting questions, but then we asked them all, wondering if maybe the answer would be different than we expected. From answering these questions we talked about how we plan on raising and disciplining our kids, who will manage the bills, what our parents should and shouldn't know about, what we believe our flaws are. Here's some of the questions I think are really important to have an understanding on in your marriage. I don't necessarily believe the answers to these questions will make or break your marriage, but I do believe that opening up the lines of communication and honestly talking about the important things these questions bring up IS important. CLICK HERE FOR A PRINTABLE VERSION OF THESE QUESTIONS Sex/Romance/Love The Past Trust

Venus In Love, Mars In Heat posted March 18, 2008 08:53 PM I came across this Mars/Venus synastry article and found the interps to be pretty accurate. Thought some of you who are also "synastrically" inclined (think I just invented a new word) would like it as well. 8th **************************************** Here's a rundown of how feminine Venus and masculine Mars work together as a team to help us get (Mars) what we want (Venus) in matters of love and sex (keep in mind that most people have Venus and Mars in different signs, so mix-and-match "teammates" is highly likely). Disclaimer: There are others astrological indicators of love and sex styles, but this entry is only discussing Venus and Mars. Note: In a woman's chart, her Venus sign represents her love style, while her Mars sign represents the type of man that makes her feel ... lusty. Team Aries Team Taurus Team Gemini Team Cancer Team Leo Team Virgo Team Libra Team Scorpio Team Sagittarius Team Capricorn Team Aquarius

50 Life Secrets and Tips Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions.Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Read “Zen and the Art of Happiness” by Chris Prentiss.This book will give you the knowledge and instruction to be happy at all times regardless of the circumstances.

15 Honest Questions The Person You Marry Should Be Able To Answer Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the more I thought about it, the more I learned to appreciate what marriage could be. Marriage gets a bad rap because most people are really bad at it. I used to believe people couldn’t possibly promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years when neither their partners nor they will be the same people they are now. Simone Becchetti Regardless, we still want that promise because it gives us courage to give ourselves to another without reservations. You may not be able to keep that promise, but you can keep the promise to do your best to be an amazing life partner. 1. People seem to feel this is a question that doesn’t especially need answering. Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it’s okay. 2. “Because I love you” is not a good answer. Your partner should be able to tell you what life experiences he or she hopes to share with you. 3. 4. 5. 6.

Stop The Heartbreak Cycle: 7 Dos and Don’ts For Handling a Break-Up “When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~Unknown I’ve learned to be thankful for my first heartbreak. Of course, at the time of the crime I struggled to see anything positive in it. It was literally as if someone stabbed my heart; there was a problem that caused my body to stop working properly. In fact, I still think of him occasionally; it’s so hard to turn off. Like during any trauma your body faces, it tries to repair itself so it can be whole again. I became emotionally promiscuous. Normally my standards are that I date just one person at a time and don’t get intimate with anyone until I’m in a relationship. But now that my heart was hurt, all those rules were thrown out the window. I dated guys just to date someone. I wanted to display the image that I was fine, happy, healthy, and so over the perpetrator. Pretty soon he asked me to be his girlfriend. But I never did. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

18 Things 18-Year-Olds Should Start Doing 1. Talk less. Yes, we want our voices to be heard to show people how we can be young and sensible, but the more we talk the more we eliminate the chance of being listened to. Remember that the words from the silent ones are more valuable than those of the noisy, which is why we should learn to talk only when necessary. 2. Life is too short to allow yourself to get stuck in tradition. 3. If you’re a magnet to sleepless nights, then sleep in the afternoon, or in the morning, or in between classes in the library. 4. In the earlier years of our teenage life, we rarely help somebody without asking for something back. 5. It doesn’t have to be long; it just has to be interesting. 6. Put creamer in your ritual black coffee, or try honey instead of sugar. 7. You’re never too old to do things you’ve never done before. 8. Find friends who sincerely enjoy hanging out with you, not people who don’t even call and tell you they’re back home to visit. 9. 10. 11. It’s inevitable. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17.