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Six Habits of Highly Empathic People

Six Habits of Highly Empathic People
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com/Andy Dean Photography This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. If you think you’re hearing the word “empathy” everywhere, you’re right. It’s now on the lips of scientists and business leaders, education experts and political activists. But there is a vital question that few people ask: How can I expand my own empathic potential? Empathy is not just a way to extend the boundaries of your moral universe. But what is empathy? The big buzz about empathy stems from a revolutionary shift in the science of how we understand human nature. Over the last decade, neuroscientists have identified a 10-section “empathy circuit” in our brains which, if damaged, can curtail our ability to understand what other people are feeling. But empathy doesn’t stop developing in childhood. Habit 1: Cultivate Curiosity about Strangers Highly empathic people (HEPs) have an insatiable curiosity about strangers.

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Energy Vampires: Who They Are & How To Ditch Them I don’t know about you, but 2012 was a year of many changes for me – home, career, relationships, personal goals, diet, and even ideals. And the success of overcoming these barriers would not have been possible without others. I consider myself enormously fortunate to have people in my life who shared my enthusiasm and gave me heartfelt support. But there were also people who did not. I recall moments when my encounters and conversations made me feel unworthy, stupid, unloved, offended, fearful, and even sick. Let’s call them “energy vampires” – the people who only “take” from you. Empathic people are natural targets for sociopaths - protect yourself © Fotolia Olly The empathy trap: therapists and counselors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients' recovery - but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call "apaths". The first UK article on this cruel sport shows how to identify and thus avoid it. People targeted by a sociopath often respond with self-deprecating comments like "I was stupid", "what was I thinking" of "I should've listened to my gut instinct". But being involved with a sociopath is like being brainwashed. The sociopath's superficial charm is usually the means by which s/he conditions people.

How to Deal With People Who Drain You They're all around us: People who suck all the positive energy out of us to fuel their relentless hunger for negativity, leaving us drained, exhausted, and unhappy. Whatever you call them—energy vampires, energy suckers, or just unhappy, negative people—they can wreak havoc on your life if you don't have effective strategies to deal with them. Energy vampires are often personality-disordered people who tend to be: There is no reason to allow their problems to become yours.

Six Habits of Highly Empathic People If you think you’re hearing the word “empathy” everywhere, you’re right. It’s now on the lips of scientists and business leaders, education experts and political activists. But there is a vital question that few people ask: How can I expand my own empathic potential? Empathy is not just a way to extend the boundaries of your moral universe. According to new research, it’s a habit we can cultivate to improve the quality of our own lives. 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal There’s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe we read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be. But when it comes down to actually handling the nitty-gritty of relationships, we’re given no pointers… or worse, we’re given advice columns in women’s magazines. Yes, it’s trial-and-error from the get-go.

The empathy deficit Young Americans today live in a world of endless connections and up-to-the-minute information on one another, constantly updating friends, loved ones, and total strangers — “Quiz tomorrow...gotta study!” — about the minutiae of their young, wired lives. And there are signs that Generation Wi-Fi is also interested in connecting with people, like, face-to-face, in person.

3 Non-Negotiable Reasons To Leave Your Partner Have you ever struggled with the question of when it's time to leave a relationship? Are you plagued with doubt about whether or not you will have made a mistake in breaking up with your partner and will suffer regret? Sure, people often leave relationships too soon, before they have healed their own issues that they've brought to the "relationship system."

Are You Suffering From Empathy Deficit Disorder? It's possible that you're among the large number of people who suffer from EDD. No, that isn't a typo -- I don't mean ADD or ED. It's EDD, which stands for " Empathy Deficit Disorder." I made it up, so you won't find it listed in the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Normal variations of mood and temperament are increasingly redefined as new "disorders," so I'm hesitant to suggest a new one.

Will a bad marriage ruin my health? Married people are usually healthier than the unmarried – the research on relationships is pretty clear on that. But those in miserable relationships may be the sickest of all. A US study published last week in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that marriages full of rows and criticism increased the risk of heart disease, and the effect was greater than the protective effect from “good” marriages. The researchers used data from 1,198 married people, who were part of the National Social Life, Health and Aging Project in America. They compared known risk factors for heart attacks and stroke and a history of heart disease with the quality of people’s relationships. If you are not married and think this study is not about you – you might be wrong.

How to Listen Between the Lines: Anna Deavere Smith on the Art of Listening in a Culture of Speaking by Maria Popova “Some people use language as a mask. And some want to create designed language that appears to reveal them but does not.” In his exquisite taxonomy of the nine kinds of silence, Paul Goodman included “the silence of listening to another speak, catching the drift and helping him be clear.” 10 Toxic People You Shouldn't Bring With You Into The New Year Can you believe that it’s already December? This year has flown by in the blink of an eye and we’re on the verge of yet another year — a year full of possibility. What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with.

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