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10 facts about infidelity, as divulged by Helen Fisher

10 facts about infidelity, as divulged by Helen Fisher
While talking about her research on love at TED2006, Helen Fisher mentioned the issue of infidelity. Here, she dives into the topic of cheating in much more detail. Photo: Robert Leslie Love isn’t so much an emotion, says Helen Fisher in her TED Talk. No, love is a brain system — one of three that that’s related to mating and reproduction. Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheatIt’s those other two systems that explain why human beings are capable of infidelity even as we so highly value love. We see infidelity on big and small screens all the time and, on occasion, we see evidence of it in real life too. 1. Further reading: Anatomy of Love, by Helen FisherThe Marriage-Go-Round, by Andrew J. 2. 3. Why We Love, by Helen Fisher 4. Nisa: The Life and Words of a ! 5. “Justifications for extramarital relationships: The association between attitudes, behaviors, and gender,” by Shirley Glass and Thomas Wright in the Journal of Sex Research 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Anatomy of Love, by Helen Fisher Why Him? Related:  EmotionsEmpathy Connection ResonanceUtilities (making my life easier)

Russian Scientist Photographs the Soul Leaving the Body, With a Special Camera Does the soul exists? According to Dr. Konstantin G. Korotkov, a Russian scientist, the soul does exist and he has evidence showing that there is something beyond death. You can read more about his discoveries at Korotkov.org. The idea that there is a soul has been part of the human culture for millennia. I believe one day someone will invent a technology that can prove the existence of the soul. “The amazing moment of a soul separating from the body has reportedly been captured by a Russian researcher.The Russian scientist claims to have achieved the impossible by photographing a soul that leaves the body of a dying person. The following short video does a great job of trying to convince you that the soul is real. However, I do sense that this video contains some misleading information about the soul. By PL Chang, Energy Fanatics;

What Happened When I Allowed Myself To Be Vulnerable In Public When I was asked to present a TEDx Talk, my immediate reaction was pure terror. I had been inspired by many TEDx and TED Talks. I knew they were well organized and often distilled many important ideas into one overarching message. I thought about how vulnerable I’d be up on that stage, trying to share my life lessons and my most heartfelt messages within a 15-minute time limit. Sure, I’m outspoken about what I’ve learned from and what I’ve overcome. I’ve written memoir. But how was I going to effectively do that in just a short little talk? “I can’t do it," I said. But even as I said this (both aloud and repeatedly to myself), I knew this was a fear worth facing. I found some excellent reasons to say no. Yet I kept circling back to this nagging feeling, this singular truth I’ve consistently tried to honor: Being frightened of doing something is not a good enough reason not to. My friends and family kept telling me that I would be great. What did I want to convey?

The policy world and academia offer widely different opportunities for early career researchers. The research career offers a variety of opportunities across sectors. Rachel Glennerster weighs up the differences between the policy world and academia for early career researchers looking at their options. Whilst both may be intellectually challenging environments, the reward structures, collaborative potential and research scope are substantially different and personal preferences of these variations may play a big role in deciding which one would be preferable. As someone who worked as a policy economist for many years (at the UK Treasury and the IMF) before going into research, I am often asked for advice from those trying to decide whether to go into a career in policy or academia. Credit: IMF (public domain) I should stress that I am not talking about doing a research job at a policy institution (like being in the research department at the World Bank or a federal reserve bank). The questions that are worked on and the reward structure are also very different in each field.

Looking At Tears Under A Microscope Reveals A Shocking Fact. Share on Facebook One day Rose-Lynn Fisher wondered if her tears of grief would look different from her tears of joy, so she began to explore them up close under a microscope. She studied 100 different tears and found that basal tears (the ones that our body produces to lubricate our eyes) are drastically different from the tears that happen when we are chopping onions. The tears that come about from hard laughter aren’t even close to the tears of sorrow. Like a drop of ocean water each tiny tear drop carries a microcosm of human experience. Tears from laughing until crying Rose-Lynn Fisher Tears of change Tears of grief Tears from onions Joseph Stromberg of the Smithsonian’s Collage of Arts and Sciences explained that there are three major types of tears: basal, reflex, and psychic (triggered by emotions). Basal tears Tears of timeless reunion Tears of ending and beginning Tears of momentum, redirected Tears of release Tears of possibility and hope Tears of elation at a liminal moment

Daniel Reisel at TED2013: Training the brains of psychopaths Photos: James Duncan Davidson Daniel Reisel is here to talk about our brains. In particular, how we might change them–and how this kind of thinking might just change the tenor of society as a whole. He introduces us to Joe, who’s 32, and a murderer. Initial research showed that psychopaths like Joe indeed had a different physiological response to emotions such as distress or sadness. Acquiring moral behavior is a part of growing up, like learning to speak. Reisel wants to talk neurogenesis. Could this research influence the design of our prison systems? It’s a charming, chilling, thought-provoking talk. Finally, we need to use our own brains, our own amygdalas, and we need to rethink our view of prisoners such as Joe.

Nonopticon: Hide in plain sight How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? Here's How To Tell What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success. Plato said that all learning has some emotional basis, and he may be right. The way we interact with and regulate our emotions has repercussions in nearly every aspect of our lives. "What having emotional intelligence looks like is that you're confident, good at working towards your goals, adaptable and flexible. The five components of emotional intelligence, as defined by Goleman, are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, social skills and empathy. Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? 1. Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? Being curious about others is also a way to cultivate empathy. 2. 3. 4.

Why We Cry: The Science of Sobbing and Emotional Tearing by Maria Popova Why it’s easier to prevent a crying spell than to stop one already underway. The human body is an extraordinary machine, and our behavior an incessant source of fascination. In Curious Behavior: Yawning, Laughing, Hiccupping, and Beyond (public library), psychology and neuroscience professor Robert R. Provine undertakes an “analysis and celebration of undervalued, informative, and sometimes disreputable human behavior” by applying the lens of anthropologically-inspired, observational “Small Science” — “small because it does not require fancy equipment and a big budget, not because it’s trivial” — to a wealth of clinical research into the biology, physiology, and neuropsychology of our bodily behaviors. Take, for instance, the science of what we call “crying,” a uniquely human capacity — a grab-bag term that consists of “vocal crying,” or sobbing, and “emotional tearing,” our quiet waterworks. Photograph via Flickr Commons Donating = Loving Share on Tumblr

Matthew Schuler | Why Creative People Sometimes Make No Sense Photo by Sophia. I’ve been having an insightful shuffle through Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s book Creativity: The Work and Lives of 91 Eminent People. Mihaly is a seminal professor of Psychology and Management, and is the Founding Co-Director of the Quality of Life Research Center at Claremont. He writes: “I have devoted 30 years of research to how creative people live and work, to make more understandable the mysterious process by which they come up with new ideas and new things. Nine out of the ten people in me strongly agree with that statement. Mihaly describes 9 contradictory traits that are frequently present in creative people: Most creative people have a great deal of physical energy, but are often quiet and at rest. Most creative people tend to be smart and naive at the same time. Most creative people combine both playfulness and productivity, which can sometimes mean both responsibility and irresponsibility. Most creative people tend to be both introverted and extroverted.

The Science of Emotion in Marketing: How We Decide What to Share and Whom to Trust Every day it seems like we feel hundreds of different emotions – each nuanced and specific to the physical and social situations we find ourselves in. According to science, it’s not that complicated by a long shot. A new study says we’re really only capable of four “basic” emotions: happy, sad, afraid/surprised, and angry/disgusted. But much like the “mother sauces” of cooking allow you to make pretty much any kind of food under the sun, these four “mother emotions” meld together in myriad ways in our brains to create our layered emotional stews. Robert Plutchik’s famous “wheel of emotions” shows just some of the well known emotional layers. In this post we’ll take a close look at each of the four emotions, how they form in the brain and the way they can motivate us to surprising actions. Happiness makes us want to share Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott discovered that our first emotional action in life is to respond to our mother’s smile with a smile of our own. P.S.

Why do we cry? The three types of tears - Alex Gendler The lacrimal apparatus works to produce tears that are needed to wet the front of the eye and flush debris from the ocular surface. Many animals yelp or cry out when they're in pain. But as far as scientists can tell, we humans seem to be the only species that shed tears for emotional reasons. Scientists who study evolution say crying probably conferred some benefit and did something to advance our species — because it's stayed with us. Read more here. A supporter of the Spanish team cries while watching the World Cup final soccer match, which Spain won 1-0. Women do it 64 times a year, men just 17.

Mamamia Meditation You’ll need a yoga mat, some pillows, a towel and some lube. You’ll need someone who is willing to get their hands dirty lube-y. You won’t need too much time. And unlike in regular meditation, you are unlikely to fall asleep in the middle of it. That’s because it is orgasmic meditation and the object in focus is – drumroll, please – your clitoris. Orgasmic Meditation (OM for short) is based on the idea that women are generally deprived of orgasm in their lives – and by practicing OM, they will be restored to their natural human state – “the state of connection”. Importantly, OM is not to be confused with masturbation. Okay, enough giggling and funny-face-pulling, because it’s time to get down to the facts. A still from a how-to Orgasmic Meditation video The Stroker sits up while you lay spreadeagled, sans-pants, across their lap. They start by describing what they see – the colour, the shape, the texture. You probably have questions. Isn’t this just foreplay? This is not foreplay.

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