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Polyamory FAQ - More Than Two

Polyamory FAQ - More Than Two
All right, so what is "polyamory"? The word "polyamory" is based on the Greek and Latin for "many loves" (literally, poly many + amore love). A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship that involves more than two people. You mean, like swinging? Not exactly. Swinging has a different focus. Oh, I gotcha. No. Six of one, half a dozen of the other. No. Poly, schmolly. No. Okay, okay, I understand. No, no, no. But if you love someone, you shouldn't want anyone else. That's a common idea, but it doesn't really hold up in practice.Many people believe that a person who has multiple loves can't give their "whole heart" to any person. Rules? It doesn't work that way.There are, of course, as many different varieties of polyamory as there are people; there's no one right way to create a polyamorous relationship, though ethical polyamorous relationships do involve honesty, respect, and compassion. Yeah? Uh-huh. Didn't this whole "free love" thing die out in the sixties? No. I'll bet. Fine.

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Religious Attitudes Towards Polyamory Among organized religions, attitudes towards polyamory vary from extreme discomfort and distaste to complete acceptance. At one end of that spectrum, conservative or fundamentalist sects of Christianity, Islam, and Judaism abhor extra-marital sex and base family on a strident sexual exclusivity—for women. At the other end of the spectrum, Paganism and sacred sexuality of several varieties celebrate a multiplicity of gods and lovers. The more liberal and sex-positive a religion is, the more likely it will accept polyamorous relationships among its congregation. Pedestrian Polyamory - Life on the Swingset Pedestrian Polyamory 51: What’s New Gavin Katz (Woah Oh Oh) Obligatory introductory sentence about how long it’s been goes here! Well Gavin is back in this mini-ep to tell you about what’s been going on in his love life, his happiness level, his long distance relationships, and his search for the ‘Face of Polyamory’. Podcast: Download (Duration: 16:45 —... Read More Pedestrian Polyamory 50: Katching Up With The Katz II aka Don’t Worry About 49

Miss Lovelorn's Advice Ah ha! Dave, now you get to the point...needs and meeting needs, need conflicts, with a dash of desparation... Welcome to Adult school, this is Incurable, Remedial Romance 101. I notice everyone is wearing all sorts of poly-logos. I myself prefer the one that looks like a Greek parrot being strangled by an infinity symbol with its heart spelling out, "Somemore someless somewould if they were invited". Mr. Polyamory: The Practice of Jealousy Management Jealousy Management for Love and Profitor, how to fix a broken refrigerator Note: This essay is adapted from a two-part entry that originally appeared in my online journal, the first part of which appears here and the second part of which appears here. Both parts have generated significant commentary, which you can read in my journal.

What’s a metamour? On my terms The “metamour” concept is like the vase in this picture. Don’t see the vase? Only see the faces? Fuck Yeah Polyamory I loved finding your blog here, I think it’s amazing! This is really the first blog (other than one of my own) that I felt like I could comfortably share my own poly story. :) My fiance and I have been together for over a little more than 3 years now, and we had been discussing opening up our relationship for the past year and what it would mean. Information About Polyamory Polyamory is the theory and practice of openly maintaining multiple sexual and/or romantic relationships. Stef's Poly Post Archive I'm archiving and organizing some of my writings from alt.polyamory and the triples and poly mailing lists. I'm in the process of converting the material to HTML files organized by content.

8 Essential Open Relationship Rules to Know … This is the 21st century, a time when cellphones and laptops rule the world. A time when relationships aren't as conventional as they used to be. People are in open relationships, and although they're open, they're still RELATIONSHIPS and relationships have rules. The following are rules that will make your open relationship work, by keeping things open, but giving yourself boundaries, so things don't spiral too far out of control! Photo Credit: AXEHD Poly-Architecture 101: Building Hierarchies « Slut, Ph.D. It is one of the most often misunderstood truisms of hierarchical polyamory that stable and highly functioning primary relationships are essential for successful (hierarchical) poly life. It’s not the truism itself that people misunderstand; it’s that most people misunderstand *why* you need a stable and highly functioning primary relationship for a successful hierarchical poly life. For the rest of this post, I’m going to rely on a metaphor of architecture and houses. In this metaphor, hierarchical polyamory tends to involve building a house with someone (your primary), and then coming up with ways to incorporate other partners (a guest bedroom; four guest bedrooms; a cottage in the back; a shed in the back; a dungeon in the basement… you get the idea). Fact: You need a firm foundation so the house doesn’t fall down When most people think about the idea that you need a strong primary relationship for your poly life, they think that it’s only for this reason.

Fuck yeah polyamorous porpoise! [IMAGE DESCRIPTION: Picture shows eight piece background in blue, black, red, and yellow, the colors of the polyamory flag. In the foreground, there is a picture of a porpoise swimming with its mouth open. TOP TEXT READS: “Valentines Day” BOTTOM TEXT READS: “Drain bank account”] [IMAGE DESCRIPTION: Picture shows eight piece background in blue, black, red, and yellow, the colors of the polyamory flag. The Psychology of Relationships PsyBlog The Psychology of Relationships In life there’s hardly anything as difficult as going it alone; having someone to lean on can make even the bitterest of life’s blows tolerable.