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How to make people like you: 6 science-based conversation hacks

How to make people like you: 6 science-based conversation hacks
So you want to know how to make people like you? It's easier than you think. Here are six research-backed tips: 1. Encourage people to talk about themselvesIt gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money: Talking about ourselves — whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter — triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, researchers reported Monday…

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