The Secret To Dealing With Passive-Aggressive People Ah, passive aggression. The best way to handle conflict. Not. There’s a reason why passive-aggressive behavior gets such a bad rap. Not only is it supremely frustrating for both parties involved, but it’s also incredibly unproductive to the passive-aggressive person — because his or her needs aren’t actually ever acknowledged or addressed. And for the target of the passive aggression, experiencing this kind of behavior can “make you feel like a crazy person,” explains Scott Wetzler, Ph.D., vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center and author of Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man. At its heart, the behavior “really is a sugar-coated hostility,” Wetzler tells HuffPost. Passive-aggressive behavior, while expressed in many different ways, has the same roots: There is an underlying fear and avoidance of direct conflict, yet a feeling of powerlessness and helplessness. So how can you best deal with a passive-aggressive person? 1. 2.
17 Websites That Will Make You Smarter Our addiction to criminalising human behaviour makes a mockery of private responsibility | Simon Jenkins If poisoning your foetus with alcohol is a crime, why is it not a crime to abort it? If alcoholism in pregnancy is “attempted manslaughter”, as a QC told the court of appeal this week, surely abortion is murder. Indeed if alcoholism before birth criminally harms a baby’s life, what about alcoholism and a dozen other cruelties after birth? How many are the misdeeds we inflict on our children to which Britain’s “cult of criminality” should now turn its attention? We need a philosopher – as Raymond Chandler would say – and we need one fast. All we get are bloody lawyers. In America hundreds of (mostly black) mothers are now jailed for this offence, to whose benefit it is unclear. The advance of criminal law into these recesses of private morality is ominous. When serving on one such committee I learned that two inputs were of little help: those of religion and the law. I still cannot see how we can call something a crime without a criminal agent.
100 Amazing How-To Sites to Teach Yourself Anything Posted by Site Administrator in Online Learning May 7th, 2009 Learning new skills and expanding your knowledge doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg. There are loads of free resources on the Web that can help you find instructional videos, tutorials and classes to learn a wide variety of skills from fixing basic car problems to speaking another language. General Tutorials These sites offer a wide range of tutorials and videos. Around the House Want to know how to fix that broken cabinet or hang up some great wallpaper? Business and Management If you feel like you’re seriously lacking on business and management skills at work, no need to worry. KnowThis? Language and Writing Those who want to learn a new language, improve their writing skills or just learn more about literature will be well-served by these instructional sites. Technology These tech-focused sites offer help to both technophiles and beginners alike. actDEN: Never learned how to use Microsoft Excel? Math S.O.S. Science Creativity
Pavlov’s Dogs by Saul McLeod published 2007, updated 2013 Like many great scientific advances, Pavlovian conditioning (aka classical conditioning) was discovered accidentally. During the 1890s Russian physiologist Ivan Pavlov was looking at salivation in dogs in response to being fed, when he noticed that his dogs would begin to salivate whenever he entered the room, even when he was not bringing them food. At first this was something of a nuisance (not to mention messy!). Pavlovian Conditioning Pavlov (1902) started from the idea that there are some things that a dog does not need to learn. Unconditioned Stimulus (Food) > Unconditioned Response (Salivate) Pavlov showed the existence of the unconditioned response by presenting a dog with a bowl of food and the measuring its salivary secretions (see image below). Pavlov knew that somehow, the dogs in his lab had learned to associate food with his lab assistant. In behaviorist terms, the lab assistant was originally a neutral stimulus. Summary References
6 Steps to Get Anyone (Yourself Included) to Do Anything I am not promising these things. A motivational coach, consultant, therapist, and award-winning faculty member at Yale School of Medicine is. A guy named Michael V. Pantalon. He has a bunch of credentials like publishing articles in the New England Journal of Medicine and the Journal of the American Medical Association, so I read though his book, Instant Influence: How to Get Anyone to Do Anything—FAST with curiosity. I have not had enough time to accurately test-drive his recipe of influence; however, I think I’m coming with a bit of a handicap considering my strong urge to want to please people. If we are to effectively influence, we need to ask lots of questions, acting sincere, and putting aside the opinions or blame. So here are the six questions that are supposed to ask your guy to get him to take out the trash, cut the grass, do the laundry, wash the dishes, and comb the dogs so that you can go to the movies with your friends…. 1. It sounds like a no-brainer, right? 2. 3. 4. 5.
The fall of the Berlin Wall: what it meant to be there | Timothy Garton Ash | World news We throw chocolates up to the putty-faced East German frontier troops, as they stand guard – against whom? defending what? – atop a Wall that since yesterday has become useless. Lines scribbled in my notebook. There are things in my notebook which I later published and therefore always remember: the breathless, denim-jacketed couple from the provinces asking: “Excuse me, is this the way out?” But there are other passages that I had quite forgotten, and some of them don’t fit so comfortably into hindsight’s fairytale of liberation. “Most of Stasi not torturers, beasts,” recorded my indignant pencil, but “decent, clean people – anständige, saubere Menschen”. Some of those who applauded loudly then, in the Deutsches Theater, will have re-remembered their own reaction by now. My father landed with the first wave of allied forces on D-day, 6 June 1944. On a plane back from Warsaw last week, I finished a new book by the American historian Mary Elise Sarotte. All this the historian can tell.
List of cognitive biases Cognitive biases are systematic patterns of deviation from norm or rationality in judgment, and are often studied in psychology and behavioral economics. There are also controversies over some of these biases as to whether they count as useless or irrational, or whether they result in useful attitudes or behavior. For example, when getting to know others, people tend to ask leading questions which seem biased towards confirming their assumptions about the person. Although this research overwhelmingly involves human subjects, some findings that demonstrate bias have been found in non-human animals as well. Decision-making, belief, and behavioral biases Many of these biases affect belief formation, business and economic decisions, and human behavior in general. Social biases Most of these biases are labeled as attributional biases. Memory errors and biases Common theoretical causes of some cognitive biases Individual differences in decision making biases 
10 Ways Introverts Interact Differently With The World Introverts and extraverts may seem the same on the surface, but if you look at the way they respond to life’s everyday occurrences, differences begin to emerge. Last month, for example, Science of Us writer Melissa Dahl reported on findings from psychologist Brian Little’s latest book on personality science, Me, Myself, and Us: The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being, which showed that introverts are better off avoiding caffeine before a big meeting or important event. Little cites the theory of extraversion by Hans Eysenck and research by William Revelle of Northwestern University, explaining that introverts and extraverts naturally differ when it comes to their alertness and responsiveness to a given environment. A substance or scene that overstimulates the central nervous system of an introvert (which doesn’t take much) might cause him or her to feel overwhelmed and exhausted, rather than excited and engaged. “Shyness is about fear of social judgment,” Cain said.
@ High Frequency: affirmation Positive affirmations can keep you from slipping and taking the path of temptation that has prevented you from being able to lose weight in the past. All it takes is the integration of this technique into your weight-loss plan. The great part of this is that positive affirmations work with any weight loss plan from the ones that you purchase to the ones that you come up with on your own. Step 1 Get yourself a notebook or journal to keep track of your positive affirmation to lose weight with. This book does not have to be anything expensive. Step 2 Create two positive statements that are an affirmation of what you want to accomplish when do lose weight. You can use more then 2 positive affirmations. Step 3 Write the 2 positive affirmations on a piece of paper and tape them to your bathroom mirror. Step 4 Write your positive affirmations on the inside cover of the book that you are going to carry with you. Step Five Step 6 Step 7 Good luck! Hugs & Kisses, Sabine @ High Frequency
Why Do the Japanese Draw Themselves as White? by Guest Blogger Julian Abagond, Aug 30, 2010, at 10:01 am Why do the Japanese draw themselves as white? You see that especially in manga and anime. As it turns out, that is an American opinion, not a Japanese one. The Japanese see anime characters as being Japanese. It is Americans who think they are white. If I draw a stick figure, most Americans will assume that it is a white man. The Other has to be marked. Americans apply this thinking to Japanese drawings. You see the same thing in America: After all, why do people think Marge Simpson is white? When you think about it there is nothing particularly white about how anime characters look: huge round eyes – no one looks like that, not even white people (even though that style of drawing eyes does go back to Betty Boop).yellow hair – but they also have blue hair and green hair and all the rest. Besides, that is not how the Japanese draw white or even Chinese people. Gone are the big round eyes and the strange hair colours.
Play board games online! • Board Game Arena Gardner's Multiple Intelligences Howard Gardner of Harvard has identified seven distinct intelligences. This theory has emerged from recent cognitive research and "documents the extent to which students possess different kinds of minds and therefore learn, remember, perform, and understand in different ways," according to Gardner (1991). According to this theory, "we are all able to know the world through language, logical-mathematical analysis, spatial representation, musical thinking, the use of the body to solve problems or to make things, an understanding of other individuals, and an understanding of ourselves. Where individuals differ is in the strength of these intelligences - the so-called profile of intelligences -and in the ways in which such intelligences are invoked and combined to carry out different tasks, solve diverse problems, and progress in various domains."