The Lost Art of Eye Contact We’ve stopped seeing each other. You and me. All of us. Our eyes may indeed be windows to our soul, but with our necks craned downward and our eyes focused on tiny handheld screens, who can tell? We hardly make an effort to look at the person we’re talking to anymore. When nearly every personal and business interaction uses a screen as an intermediary, it’s difficult to develop and maintain meaningful relationships with employees, customers and partners. Speak with Your Eyes We communicate so much with a simple look. Listen to Their Eyes Without looking directly into someone’s eyes, you’ll miss millions of visual clues as to what’s going on inside their head. Look for the “Tell” In poker, it’s called the “tell”: the habitual signal your opponent makes that betrays whether he or she is holding a full house or a hand full of nothing. Be Shifty-Eyed If you’re making a presentation to a group you need to look at everyone in the room. But Don’t Be Creepy
How To Break Any Bad Habit Learning to understand the self is a lot like stirring water in a glass. If we don’t stir, sentiments stay at the bottom of the glass and our water stays polluted. Take a simple goal: Eat better. For me, eating always starts with a craving. First, the feeling. I imagine what I’m craving. Then I become obsessed with this image. Reasoning turns into deals. It’s on. On the way home, I feel guilty about myself and the pizza is never as good as I imagined it. If I take this process and apply it to other areas of my life, is it the same? Study patterns in your thoughts and behavior around fitness and nutrition. Filtering your cloudy water means breaking patterns you believe are unhealthy. Now, if you’re able to get stronger at rewiring your thoughts and behavior with food cravings and exercise habits, including all the fears you hit while working out, can you apply those new muscles to breaking patterns in other areas of your life? I believe you can. Here’s how. 1. Usually it’s from a feeling. 2.
Five Surprising Ways Oxytocin Shapes Your Social Life It’s been called the cuddle hormone, the holiday hormone, the moral molecule, and more—but new research suggests that oxytocin needs some new nicknames. Like maybe the conformity hormone, or perhaps the America-Number-One! molecule. Where does this many-monikered neuropeptide come from? Scientists first found it in mothers, whose bodies flood with oxytocin during childbirth and breastfeeding—which presumably helps Mom somehow decide that it’s better to care for a poopy, colicky infant than to chuck it out the nearest window. And, indeed, one study found a shot of oxytocin more rewarding to rat-mommies than a snort of cocaine. As time went on, researchers found oxytocin playing a role in all kinds of happy occasions, from social activities (recognizing faces at a party) to more intimate ones (achieving orgasm with someone you met at that party). The research is ongoing, and scientists are still debating how their findings fit together. 1. Men are dogs, right? 2. The takeaway? 3. 4. 5.
The Unapologetically "E.U." Tour: Join Me in Europe this Spring 2014! | Dave Ursillo The Unapologetically “E.U.” Tour: Join Me in Europe this Spring 2014! Hello there! My name is Dave Ursillo, I’m a lifelong writer and eight-time published author from the United States. In my work, I help self-starters align their lives with their values and experience a more rewarding and meaningful journey. But this spring, I’m visiting Europe to attend a conference called ALIVE in Berlin, so I’ve decided to make a few stops in Amsterdam and Brussels to host workshops and meetups that will bring wonderful locals together to discuss strategies, advice and stories on how to become your most creative self and live a truly “unapologetic” life. Will you join me at one stop along the way? If we’ve never had the opportunity to meet before, let me tell you about who I am and what I do best. As we self-explore, we learn how to better express ourselves. I love to help people find clarity on their purpose, business ideas and how they tell their stories. How did I get into this work? Survival vs.
Brain, Mind, and Altered States of Consciousness The conspiracy to reduce consciousness to intellectual awareness of the physical world has been in evidence for at least five thousand years. Over the centuries the mental and psychic powers that only mystics and seers now possess have been filtered out of most people. So we now assume that our narrow, tightly-bound consciousness is normal and natural. "Ordinary consciousness" is "normal" only in the strict sense of "statistically most frequent," not inherently "good" or "natural" as the term is sometimes misconstrued to mean. When contrasted with supernormal consciousness experienced by certain people in specific instances, our current rigid, intellect-based awareness is highly abnormal and unnatural. Reports of Supernormal Consciousness "The boundary between my physical self and my surroundings seemed to dissolve and my feeling of separation vanished. . . . The Conspiracy to Debase Human Consciousness The Human Brain and Mind Brain Stimulation and Neurofeedback
Eye Movement and Lying - How to detect lies Interesting Info -> Lying Index -> Eye Direction & Visual Accessing Cues Eye Movement and Direction & How it Can Reveal Truth or Lies This is a continuation of our previous article Detecting Lies. Many comments by our visitors asked about how eye direction can indicate the presence of a lie. Can the direction a person's eyes reveal whether or not they are making a truthful statement? Short answer: sort of. In these shows a detective will deduce if a person is being untruthful simply because they looked to the left or right while making a statement. In reality, it would be foolish to make such a snap judgment without further investigation... but the technique does have some merit. So, here it is... read, ponder and test it on your friends and family to see how reliable it is for yourself. Visual Accessing Cues - "Lying Eyes" When asked a question a "normally organized" right-handed person looks (from your viewpoint, looking at them): The Gist of it... How this information is used to detect lies:
Tu unde eşti “acasă”? | Jurnalul Evei Adevărul frustrant este că oricâte sacrificii ai făcut tu pentru construcţia unei iubiri, nu depinde doar de tine ca ea să trăiască, să rămână în picioare. Adevărul care ar fi amuzant dacă n-ar fi trist, este că fix atunci când îţi va fi lumea mai dragă o să afli că nu poţi clădi de unul singur o casă pentru doi. Adevărul amar, dar cu gustul căruia te mai obişnuieşti câte puţin de fiecare dată când viaţa îţi mai predă o lecţie pe care nu ţi-ai fi dorit s-o înveţi, este că timpul sapă prăpăstii între oameni, prăpăstii mari şi adânci, goluri în care ameţeşti dacă te uiţi şi distanţe care te îngheaţă dacă vrei să le parcurgi. Adevărul care te eliberează de sub povara aşteptărilor atunci când îl accepţi este acela că oricât ţi-ai dori asta, ceilalţi nu vor trăi niciodată după regulile tale şi nici nu este de ajuns ca tu să crezi, să speri, să vrei, să dai, pentru ca ei să facă la fel cu tine. Şi ştii care e adevărul ironic? Adevărul e ca trecum cu toţii prin asta.
How Stories Change the Brain Ben’s dying. That’s what Ben’s father says to the camera as we see Ben play in the background. Ben is two years old and doesn’t know that a brain tumor will take his life in a matter of months. Ben’s father tells us how difficult it is to be joyful around Ben because the father knows what is coming. Everyone can relate to this story. A recent analysis identifies this “hero’s journey” story as the foundation for more than half of the movies that come out of Hollywood, and countless books of fiction and nonfiction. Why are we so attracted to stories? Why the brain loves stories The first part of the answer is that as social creatures who regularly affiliate with strangers, stories are an effective way to transmit important information and values from one individual or community to the next. Think of this as the “car accident effect.” To understand how this works in the brain, we have intensively studied brain response that watching “Ben’s story” produces. What makes a story effective?
Peur de passer à côté de quelque chose? Vous êtes peut-être Fomo ? - Psycho Scène vécue dans un de ces restaurants parisiens ultracotés dont le carnet de réservations est plein des semaines à l’avance. Le plat arrive. Illico, votre codîneur dégaine l’iPhone qui était déjà à portée de fourchette pour immortaliser le dîner tant attendu, organise la scénographie de la table, prend sa photo et, bam !, la poste presto sur Instagram. En profite pour « checker » au passage les « like » de son post précédent. Cas typique de Fomo, cette hantise de louper ce qui pourrait se jouer là où l’on n’est pas – et son corollaire : l’obligation compulsive d’être le documentariste de sa propre existence, pour convaincre la communauté (et se rassurer soi-même) qu’on vit des choses formidables. Pour d’autres, ce serait un trouble d’ordre compulsif, plus structurel. Les jeunes adultes passeraient en moyenne seulement quatre vingt-dix-sept minutes dans une soirée (2). On entre là dans ce que les psys anglo-saxons appellent le «Fonk» (fear of not knowing). Ridicule, voire hypocrite ?
18 Things Highly Creative People Do Differently This list has been expanded into the new book, “Wired to Create: Unravelling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind,” by Carolyn Gregoire and Scott Barry Kaufman. Creativity works in mysterious and often paradoxical ways. Creative thinking is a stable, defining characteristic in some personalities, but it may also change based on situation and context. Inspiration and ideas often arise seemingly out of nowhere and then fail to show up when we most need them, and creative thinking requires complex cognition yet is completely distinct from the thinking process. Neuroscience paints a complicated picture of creativity. As scientists now understand it, creativity is far more complex than the right-left brain distinction would have us think (the theory being that left brain = rational and analytical, right brain = creative and emotional). While there’s no “typical” creative type, there are some tell-tale characteristics and behaviors of highly creative people. They daydream. They “fail up.”
Google signs deal to put sensors directly on your eye Google and Novartis have this morning announced an agreement to collaborate on the development of the smart contact lens that was unveiled by Google X in January. Using non-invasive sensors, the lens promises to analyze tear fluid in the eye to provide constant measurements of a person's blood glucose levels. Those can then be sent wirelessly to a mobile device and help diabetics manage their disease more easily. Novartis has now licensed the technology and, through its eye-care subsidiary Alcon, will look to develop it into a commercial product. Google co-founder Sergey Brin has said that his company is "very excited to work with Novartis [on using] the latest technology in the miniaturization of electronics to help improve the quality of life for millions of people." Making diabetes easier to manage
10 Ways to Reexamine Your Life We humans tend to get very comfortable with our circumstances. Change is always hard so staying the same often sounds like a great choice. However not changing some things can lead to stagnation, which leads to unhappiness and boredom. 1. Are you happy with how early you are going to bed or late your are waking up? HE Advice: Set a time that you want to wake up each morning. 2. What do you want in the next week? Don’t know what you want? 3. After you have figure out what you want, you need to figure out how you should spend yout time in order achieve your goals. HE Advice: Write or type-out a concise agenda for the day with approximation for how long you will spend on each activity. 4. I grew up the son of a pastor at a mega-church in Orange County, CA. We change as we get older. 5. You know from watching every movie and TV show EVER that friends are important. This does not mean you need to kick friends that don’t make the cut out of your life. 6. Do you love what you do? 1. 2. 3. 7.
How Long To Nap For The Biggest Brain Benefits Taking a nap, we’ve seen time and again, is like rebooting your brain. Everyone likes to get a quick nap in every now and then, but napping may be as much of an art as it is a science. The Wall Street Journal offers recommendations for planning your perfect nap, including how long to nap and when. The sleep experts in the article say a 10-to-20-minute power nap gives you the best “bang for your buck,” but depending on what you want the nap to do for you, other durations might be ideal. For a quick boost of alertness, experts say a 10-to-20-minute power nap is adequate for getting back to work in a pinch. For cognitive memory processing, however, a 60-minute nap may do more good, Dr. “If you take it longer than 30 minutes, you end up in deep sleep. Finally, the 90-minute nap will likely involve a full cycle of sleep, which aids creativity and emotional and procedural memory, such as learning how to ride a bike. The Scientific Power of Naps: Sources: Lifehacker, Huffington Post