How to Heal From Rejection: 5 Steps to Soothe the Pain “Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald I spent years training as a psychologist, waiting for the day I would graduate and finally have time to explore my second passion—writing. When I opened a private practice I left my mornings free, and over the next fourteen years I wrote six screenplays, two novels, and a children’s book. They rejected every manuscript I sent them. After fourteen years of rejection, my mood, my confidence, my motivation, and my hope of ever being published or produced were fading. Since I was a psychologist, my first move was to check out the latest research on rejection. What I found was rather surprising. I also discovered there are five things we can do to sooth the emotional pain rejections elicit, as well as to speed our psychological recovery: 1. One of the most common reactions people have to a rejection is to become self-critical. 2. The exercise has two steps. 3. 4. 5. But that’s an impulse we have to fight.
7 Conversations To Have Before You Get Married Many couples live together long before their wedding day, meaning they've already figured out who's going to wash dishes and clean the bathroom, and which mid-fight button-pushing can send a small disagreement into nuclear territory. There are, however, some conversations you should definitely have before marriage—even if you've already figured out the living together part. Read on to discover five talks to have with your partner before the big day. 1. Debt & finances Long before your wedding, sit down with your partner and have a frank discussion about your financial situation. 2. You need to discuss whether or not you want to have kids, but beyond that, what are your partner's expectations around parenting? 3. Times are tough and many people find themselves forced to move to new cities or states for work or affordable housing. 4. Getting married means making very long-term plans with another person, so it's important to lay out your priorities early. 5. 6. 7. Photo Credit: Stocksy.com
5 Ways To Rewire Your Brain For Meaningful Life Changes Neuroscientists have discovered the strategy for rewiring the brain. Contrary to popular approaches, this strategy involves more than just positive thinking or working hard. In fact, there are five pathways that must be activated in order to create new neural networks in the brain. Let’s explore a few principles from brain science in order to better understand how to successfully activate these pathways. First, the act of thinking sets into motion a chemical reaction in the brain that can be likened to plugging in a string of lights. Second, the more you think, feel and act the same way, the faster the lights turn on and the brighter they glow. Finally, we have trillions of brain cells, resulting in thousands (if not millions) of strings of lights correlating with our habits in all areas of our life. 1. Seeing is not required for believing. Solution: Examine your current beliefs about a desired goal. 2. Emotion is the fuel, the juice or the power behind accomplishing your intention. 3.
10 Tips To Help You Start A Meditation Practice I meditate. But it's been a long road to get here. Buddha on the mountaintop, I'm not. You might describe me as a bit tense high-strung. My mind clicks a million miles a minute. In fact, as I type this, I am thinking of a grocery list, my class tonight, my own practice, and the laundry that I need to fold. Last year I practiced 108 days in a row of yoga. I was going to do it again this year, but in the back of my mind, I knew that meditating was the bigger issue. "I'm going to commit to 108 days of mediation and see what happens." And so it was. 1. There is no great time to get started meditating. 2. Jotting down feelings is a powerful motivator for both change and acceptance. 3. I started out for with 10 minutes and went from there. 4. It’s hard to let go if you're constantly sneaking your eyes open to take a peek at the clock. 5. Sit upright. 6. This may mean the eyes are open or closed. 7. 8. It's not easy to be still, especially in the go-go-go world. 9. 10. And again.
The Most Dangerous Word in the World If I were to put you into an fMRI scanner—a huge donut-shaped magnet that can take a video of the neural changes happening in your brain—and flash the word “NO” for less than one second, you’d see a sudden release of dozens of stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters. These chemicals immediately interrupt the normal functioning of your brain, impairing logic, reason, language processing, and communication. In fact, just seeing a list of negative words for a few seconds will make a highly anxious or depressed person feel worse, and the more you ruminate on them, the more you can actually damage key structures that regulate your memory , feelings, and emotions.[1] You’ll disrupt your sleep , your appetite , and your ability to experience long-term happiness and satisfaction. Any form of negative rumination—for example, worrying about your financial future or health—will stimulate the release of destructive neurochemicals. The Power of Yes [3] Duhachek A, Zhang S, Krishnan S.
Before and After Photos: A Month of Meditation Don't think that meditation can make an observable difference in your life and appearance? This series of photos that Peter Seidler took before and after a month of meditation will convince you. The series is called "Before and After" and Seidler tells Shambala Sun about the project: This series of photos, titled “Before and After,” comes from a larger project called “Contemplatives,” a visual exploration of the physiological qualities of meditation practice. Here are some of the photos.
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Cholestérol : une sommité médicale anglaise dit pourquoi il a arrêté de prend... Le Dr Kailash Chand, president de la British Medical Association, qui regroupe médecins et étudiants en médecine au Royaume-Uni met en garde contre la prescription de statines, une famille de médicaments qui font baisser le cholesterol. Le Dr Kalaish Chand explique, dans un article publié dimanche à Londres par le Sunday Express, pourquoi il a arrêté de prendre les statines qui lui avaient été prescrites et met en garde contre leur généralisation. Selon le président de la British Medical Association, les futures directives britanniques qui visent à prescrire ces médicaments aux personnes dont le risque de développer une maladie cardiovasculaire (calculé) est égal ou supérieur à 10% (20% auparavant) « ne bénéficieront qu’aux laboratoires pharmaceutiques. » C’est la première fois qu’une sommité médicale britannique élève ainsi la voix contre les statines. En France, Michel de Lorgeril et Philippe Even contestent le principe même de donner des statines à des cardiaques ou des diabétiques.
What Happens To Our Brains When We Exercise And How It Makes Us Happier Exercise has been touted to be a cure for nearly everything in life, from depression, to memory loss, Alzheimer’s disease, Parkinson’s and more. At the same time, similar to the topic of sleep, I found myself having very little specific and scientific knowledge about what exercise really does to our bodies and our brains. “Yes, yes, I know all about it, that’s the thing with the endorphins, that makes you feel good and why we should exercise and stuff, right?” is what I can hear myself say to someone bringing this up. I would pick up things here and there, yet really digging into the connection of exercise and how it effects us has never been something I’ve done. Inspired by a recent post from Joel on what makes us happy I’ve set out to uncover the connection between our feeling of happiness and exercising regularly. What triggers happiness in our brain when we exercise? Most of us are aware of what happens to the body when we exercise. Now here is where it all gets interesting.
Study: Turmeric more Effective than Prozac at Treating Depression By: Elizabeth Renter,Natural Society. It’s common knowledge in the natural health world that pharmaceuticals often (if not always) do more harm than good. It’s also clear that foods, herbs, and other natural sources can offer similar benefits without those nasty side effects. Once again, our beliefs have been affirmed by science: A recent study published in Phytotherapy Research says that not only is turmeric effective at treating depression, it may even be more effective than some of the most common anti-depressant drugs currently on the market. While previous studies have indicated the effectiveness of turmeric (curcumin) in treating serious depression, this study was the first randomized controlled clinical trial of its kind. Researchers with the Department of Pharmacology of Government Medical College in Bhavnagar, Gujarat, India compared the effects of turmeric and Prozac (fluoxetine), both used together and individually, in 60 patients diagnosed with major depressive disorder (MDD).
6 Tips To Get Motivated When You're Feeling Depressed A common response to identifying lifestyle changes that might make a depressed person feel better is, “Easier said than done.” Someone coping with depression may get what she's supposed to do, but the question is how? After all, depression kills motivation, energy, interest, and focus. Once you give the engine a jump, it often becomes easier, but until then, how do you connect the jumper cables you need to make a spark? 1. Set the bar LOW. When you’re depressed, you’re not functioning at your usual 70-90%. Set SMALL AND SPECIFIC GOALS. 2. Self-criticism is depression’s BFF. 3. Some of us have trouble holding ourselves accountable at the best of times. 4. Getting in the shower, going for a walk, preparing a meal, or hanging out with a friend seems like a very ominous task if you focus on the effort involved. 5. When you’re feeling depressed, it’s natural to lose interest in things that used to make you happy. 6. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com
Think Positive Phrases To Make Exercise Feel Easier It's (sometimes) possible to talk yourself out of eating a brownie, but is it possible to talk yourself into working out longer? Yep, says a recent study published in Medicine & Science in Sports & Exercise. Researchers from Bangor University in the United Kingdom recruited 24 volunteers who exercised at least twice a week to complete high-intensity cycling tests. Half the group recited self-talk statements, like "feeling good," "you're doing well," and "push through this," and the other half didn't. Not only did the results show self-talkers could cycle longer—12 minutes 30 seconds compared to 10 minutes 37 seconds for the other group—but they also found that they perceived their effort to be significantly lower. If your internal dialogue needs some help, don't worry: just look to our archive of positive quotes you can borrow for your next sweat session or recite one of these 5 motivational fitness mantras. FREE Trial and FREE Pedometer! Published October 2013, Prevention