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40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain

40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain
“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes. There will never be a time when life is simple. Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Let go of Anger and Bitterness 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Let Go Of Past Relationships 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Let Go Of Stress 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Photo by Katie Romanova

10 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in Ten Minutes or Less It usually takes us much longer to change our moods than we’d like it to take. Here are ten things you can do in ten minutes or less that will have a positive emotional effect on you and those you love. . See it online at Oprah.com . This is a deeply moving segment that may be the best ten minutes you've ever invested in front of a computer. . . . The experience will fill you with fond memories and perhaps make you a bit wistful for days gone by. . . Then spend that time just holding each other. Studies show that hospital patients who can see a natural body of water from their beds get better at a 30 percent faster rate. Shake, twist, and jump around. Sadly, many people measure happiness by how long the experience lasts. Dr.

Mental Heuristics Page A heuristic is a "rule-of-thumb", advice that helps an AI program or human think and act more efficiently by directing thinking in an useful direction. Some of these heuristics are age-old wisdom, bordering on cliche, but most are actually helpful. If you want something done, do it yourself Comment: Obviously true, and doing it is usually very good for your self esteem. Never procrastinate anything you can do right now Comment: Very powerful. When you have several things you could be doing and don't know which to do: Just do any one of them! Comments: If you cannot decide between two or more possibilities, then there is a good chance that the differences don't matter. Always assume that you will succeed Comments: If you don't expect to succeed in an endeavor, then you will not do your best and will not notice possible solutions, while if you feel that you will eventually succeed you will concentrate all your power at the problem. If you can't find a solution, change the rules.

30 Of The Hardest (But Most Necessary) Things That Must Be Done To Achieve Su... Success is defined differently for everyone; however, facing difficulties on the road to success is a common denominator for anyone pursuing his or her passions. What separates those who see their dreams through and those who don’t is the ability to do what others will not. Everyone can dream of eventual success, but accomplishing one’s goals requires taking on the difficult tasks and functions for which many people do not have the courage or stamina. Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” Taking on the hard tasks time and time again is what defines a person’s character and generates the most rewarding results. Here are the 30 hardest things you need to do to be successful: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18.Turn the complex into simple, so people can best share your vision. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Photo credit: Shutterstock

Why Winners Win and Losers Lose post written by: Marc Chernoff Email We all want to be winners. Here are a few ideas on why winners win and losers lose. Losers fail once and quit. What did I leave off the list? Photo by: Yasin Hassan If you enjoyed this article, check out our new best-selling book. And get inspiring life tips and quotes in your inbox (it's free)...

Start Your Day in 33 Different Ways Mornings are underrated. I consider them fundamental for the whole diurnal experience. What you do in the very first moments of your morning will fundamentally and inexorably shape your entire day. Most of the time you spend your mornings by routinely performing some habits, on auto pilot. Hence, your days will routinely unfold towards you, the same way day after day, on auto pilot. Consciously inserting your intentions in these very first moments will have a huge effect. Here are at least 33 ways in which you can transform your days by only spending 5 minutes every morning. 1. I love the morning stillness and the unspoken promise of something ready to start. 2. And do nothing. 3. Point your mind to something you’re really grateful for and stay there. 4. Regardless of the current season. 5. You’re going to spot it pretty easily if you put your mind to it. 6. Write an answer to an old question, do part of a small chore, move an object out of somebody’s way. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. Let go. 12.

37 Regrets That You Should Always Avoid Everyone goes through life experiencing enough mistakes and resulting damage that, by the time they are old enough, they have regrets. They say hindsight is 20/20 and when you look back at your life you will know what moments you should have changed. However, we want to help you out. Forget hindsight. We’ve compiled a list of the 37 things you must not do or else you will definitely regret them at the end of your life. Just read through these and trust us. 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.) Flickr / rocketboom 5.) 6.) 7.) 8.) 9.) 10.) 11.) 12.) 13.) 14.) 15.) 16.) 17.) 18.) 19.) 20.) 21.) 22.) 23.) 24.) 25.) 26.) 27.) 28.) 29.) 30.) 31.) 32.) 33.) 34.) 35.) 36.) 37.) It’s never too late to change your life, so start by avoiding these things. You won’t regret it.

How To Train Yourself To Be In The Mood You Want Dec 27, 2010 When you have major changes going on in your life, or you’re just frustrated about where you are, it’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of depression, bad moods and frustration. I know, I’ve been there … and when I’m not careful, I still get there more than I want to. But when I’ve had a particularly hard time, I hit these moments where I’m in a foul mood, or I’m just feeling paralyzed, and I’m just stuck. I’m going to outline the framework that I’ve been using successfully to really get myself resourceful and motivated (and in a better mood) when I’m feeling stuck. First Up: Using A Framework to Escape From Paralyzing Emotions When we feel bad, it’s hard to “feel good” again. The reason for this is that steps take the emotion out of our situation and give us direction to simply act. You can call these verbal step-by-step tools anchors if you want, because they’re ways to anchor your emotional state to a time where you knew what to do and you felt prepared. Think about it. Dave

12 Tips for Getting Regular Exercise -- and the Benefits for Happiness and Fitness. Exercise is a KEY to happiness . Research shows that people who exercise are healthier, more energetic, think more clearly, sleep better, and have delayed onset of dementia . They get relief from anxiety and mild depression . They perform better at work . Also, although it’s tempting to flop down on the couch when you’re feeling exhausted, exercise is actually a great way to boost energy levels . But even when you admit that you’d feel better if you exercised, it can be very hard to adopt the habit. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. People often ask me, “So if I want to be happier, what should I be doing?” I know, that answer doesn’t sound properly transcendent and high-minded on the subject of happiness, but research shows that you’d be wise to start there. * Just spent a looooong time reading Starfish Envy . * It’s Word-of-Mouth Day, when I gently encourage (or, you might think, pester) you to spread the word about the Happiness Project.

26 Rules To Live By That’ll Help Ease Your Overthinking Problem Here’s my advice to you… 1. Smile to strangers. First of all, it makes you appear more confident. 2. And I don’t mean the people that are your superiors. 3. We all interpret things in different ways and this can create a lot of confusion. 4. This also applies to situations in which you’re having a disagreement with someone. 5. You can talk to me about social inequality, racism, sexism, etc. all you want but I’ll still be 100% confident about this. 6. We all know how frustrating it is to make an effort and not see any results. 7. This one is incredibly cliché but, at the same time, incredibly true. 8. Life is actually hilarious. 9. You’re an amazing person and you have many talens and I’m sure you’ll be praised for them on more than one occasion. 10. I think we’ve all gone through a stage where we didn’t have any hobbies or special interests and we hated looking around and seeing all of our friends shining in their own. 11. 12. 13. For me, this was my high school Biology class. 14. 15.

Eight (harsh) Truths That Will Improve Your Life... They say life is what we make of it. By the end of this post, I hope to have helped you decide whether that statement is true or not. There is no doubt that life has its ups and downs. However, how we deal with them can sometimes make all the difference. Some of these lessons may be old-hat for you. 1. Friends will always come and go in your life; even though I'm back in the UK now, all my friends are in university around the country and not exactly in meeting distance. Important Lesson: There are an abundance of amazing people out there for you to meet and build relationships with. You won't always get what you want in life: people are going to be late, people will let you down, items you want won't always be available. Important Lesson: Don't look for happiness in material possessions and if things don't go your way, learn to accept them. Important Lesson: Not everyone is always going to like you, and that's fine. 4. 5. As the saying goes - "Only those who are asleep make no mistakes".

70 Reminders to Help You Break Any Barrier I am pleased to introduce this guest article by a new friend John, the creator of HiLife2B, where he hopes to inspire people and to help them achieve their dreams. Follow him on Twitter: @janyasor 1. Believe that even the smallest compliment can save someone’s life 2. Remember that one person can change an entire nation 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. 41. 42. 43. 44. 45. 46. 47. 48. 49. 50. 51. 52. 53. 54. 55. 56. 57. 58. 59. 60. 61. 62. 63. 64. 65. 66. 67. 68. 69. 70.

6 Logical Fallacies That Cost You Money Every Day Throws Good Money After Bad The competitive instinct is not just a phrase football commentators invented to give words to the tingly feeling they get watching Brett Favre play football. Our brain's natural tendency towards competition is arguably the reason your family survived the hunter gatherer knife fight of 2000 BC. And as countless uninspired armies and poorly coached teams have demonstrated throughout the years, your ability to compete tends to be directly proportional to your ability to convince yourself that you're doing the right thing. In the financial realms, when these two instincts collide, your brain will play a retarded game of chicken with reality that economists have termed "irrational escalation of commitment". This applies to more than finances Throw in a little competitive instinct and pride, and it's not hard to see how this can go horribly, horribly wrong. The real world implications are everywhere, and tragic. After all, what else can we do, cut and run?

40 Belief-Shaking Remarks From a Ruthless Nonconformist | Raptitude.com If there’s one thing Friedrich Nietzsche did well, it’s obliterate feel-good beliefs people have about themselves. He has been criticized for being a misanthrope, a subvert, a cynic and a pessimist, but I think these assessments are off the mark. I believe he only wanted human beings to be more honest with themselves. He did have a remarkable gift for aphorism — he once declared, “It is my ambition to say in ten sentences what others say in a whole book.” A hundred years after his death, Nietzsche retains his disturbing talent for turning a person’s worldview upside-down with one jarring remark. Even today his words remain controversial. Here are 40 unsympathetic statements from the man himself. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. More of Nietzsche’s genius here. Have a lot on your mind? Everyday mindfulness has transformed my life, and the lives of many others.

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