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Can We Be Lovers & Not Have Sex?

Can We Be Lovers & Not Have Sex?
I want a life of a million lovers. I want to love you. I want to love you if you are male or female, young or old, single or married… When I see you we will embrace and hold a hug long enough to glimpse some insight from each other’s heartbeat. When we walk down the street we shall link arms, pause frequently, and turn our toes and noses towards the other to speak directly without modesty. I would like us to share the couch together, rather than creating a “do not cross” line where we may as well be sitting on brick blocks seated four feet away. I want to show up to you and look into your eyes instead of at your eyes. I would like you to leave our time together feeling loved and free and full of your most vibrant and luscious hue of you-ness. Please do not get confused: I do not want to have sex with you—whether you are male or female. For me, sharing sex with someone requires a certain alignment, and I do not take that lightly. For love is love is love is love, and that is what I want.

10 Mr. Rogers Quotes You Need to Read If you haven't seen it, Fred Rogers' acceptance speech for a Lifetime Achievement Award at the 1997 Emmys is a fascinating watch. After being introduced as "the best neighbor any of us has ever had," by Tim Robbins, Mr. Rogers takes the stage amidst uproarious applause. What happens next is probably singular among award shows. At first people chuckle a little—is he serious? Eleven years ago today, Fred Rogers passed away quietly in his Pittsburgh home, and America lost its favorite neighbor. It's hard to know how to approach Mr. There's been a recent backlash against how frequently this generation has heard that it's "special," and maybe some of that is deserved. "One of the greatest gifts you can give anybody is the gift of your honest self" In the years since his death, his legend has grown. In His Own Words "We live in a world in which we need to share responsibility. —Spoken in 1994, quoted in his obituary in the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette. From The World According to Mister Rogers:

 Search Publications Weaving Success recounts the impact of the Partnership for Higher Education in Africa and provides a detailed look at key issues in African higher education and highlights the transformative processes that are shaping the future of African colleges and universities. The Partnership for Higher Education in Africa was an unprecedented collaboration between seven major U.S. foundations to support African higher education institutions in building capacity and training the next generation of scholars, public servants and entrepreneurs. The ten-year, $440 million initiative was directly and indirectly responsible for improving conditions for over four million students at 379 African colleges and universities. The initiative spanned a decade, from 2000-2010, and served nine African countries: Egypt, Ghana, Kenya, Madagascar, Mozambique, Nigeria, South Africa, Tanzania and Uganda. download >More information >

How a Math Genius Hacked OkCupid to Find True Love - Wired Science Mathematician Chris McKinlay hacked OKCupid to find the girl of his dreams. Emily Shur Chris McKinlay was folded into a cramped fifth-floor cubicle in UCLA’s math sciences building, lit by a single bulb and the glow from his monitor. It was 3 in the morn­ing, the optimal time to squeeze cycles out of the supercomputer in Colorado that he was using for his PhD dissertation. (The subject: large-scale data processing and parallel numerical methods.) While the computer chugged, he clicked open a second window to check his OkCupid inbox. McKinlay, a lanky 35-year-old with tousled hair, was one of about 40 million Americans looking for romance through websites like Match.com, J-Date, and e-Harmony, and he’d been searching in vain since his last breakup nine months earlier. On that early morning in June 2012, his compiler crunching out machine code in one window, his forlorn dating profile sitting idle in the other, it dawned on him that he was doing it wrong. Maurico Alejo

Ph.D. International Education - International Education Requirements for the PhD in International Education Program Code: INTE I. Departmental Doctoral Seminars (6 credits) First-year doctoral students are required to take a two semester seminar sequence that explores current research on topics related to globalization and educational policy. HMSS-GE 3011 Department Seminar I (3 credits) Arum/ZimmermanHMSS-GE 3012 Department Seminar II (3 credits) Arcilla/Stulberg II. Students who have taken these courses for the MA in International Education at NYU are exempt from this requirement. INTE-GE 2803 Basic Concepts in International Education (4 credits) INTE-GE 2023 Cross Cultural Studies of Socialization (4 credits) INTE-GE 2025 Comparative Studies of Socialization (4 credits) III. Students are required to take the following doctoral seminars during their first two years of study. INTE-GE 3097, INTE-GE 3098 Content Seminar in International Education I (6)INTE-GE 3801, INTE-GE 3802 Research in International Education I (6) IV. Global Education V. VI.

Rap Analysis - Kanye West, "Monster" | The Composer's Corner Today's exclusive article will be on beats instead of rap. It's similar to one where I catalogued every instrument Dr. Dre uses on his beats between 2000 and 2009, which you can find here. To hear "Monster," the beat we'll be taking a look at today, check it out here. Kanye never fails to blow me away. That chart describes the entrance and exit of different ideas in Common's "I Used To Love H.E.R." rap beat, which you can hear here This basic structuring of musical ideas to differentiate between different sections of the song is basically what Kanye does on "Monster," but he just takes it to an extremely complex level. This comes across in "Monster." All of this is encapsulated Kanye's production approach to Jay-Z's verse: 1. 2. 3. 4. That's 4 noticeably different layers of musical idea combinations that Jay-Z raps over in a single 20 bar verse, and 5 if you consider his a cappella rapping at the end.

Donald M. Payne International Development Fellowship Program The USAID Donald M. Payne International Development Graduate Fellowship Program seeks to attract outstanding young people who are interested in pursuing careers in the Foreign Service of the U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID). If you want to work on the front lines of some of the most pressing global challenges of our times — poverty, hunger, injustice, disease, environmental degradation, climate change, conflict and violent extremism – the Foreign Service of the U.S. Agency for International Development provides an opportunity to advance U.S. foreign policy interests and reflect the American people's compassion and support of human dignity. The Payne Fellowship encourages the application of members of minority groups who have historically been underrepresented in international development careers and those with financial need.

Viewpoint: Five ways the world is doing better than you think Many people don't know about the enormous progress most countries have made in recent decades - or maybe the media hasn't told them. But with the following five facts everyone can upgrade their world view. 1. Fast population growth is coming to an end It's a largely untold story - gradually, steadily the demographic forces that drove the global population growth in the 20th Century have shifted. Fifty years ago the world average fertility rate - the number of babies born per woman - was five. The demographic consequences are amazing. 2. Fifty years ago we had a divided world. There were two types of countries - "developed" and "developing" - and they differed in almost every way. So much has changed, especially in the last decade, that the countries of the world today defy all attempts to classify them into only two groups. 3. Fifty years ago, the average life expectancy in the world was 60 years. But today's average of 70 years applies to the majority of people of the world. 4. 5.

David Byrne - Gaza and the Loss of Civilization Ed note: I received this email last Friday morning from my friend, Brian Eno. I shared it with my office and we all felt a great responsibility to publish Brian's heavy, worthy note. In response, Brian's friend, Peter Schwartz, replied with an eye-opening historical explanation of how we got here. Dear All of You: I sense I'm breaking an unspoken rule with this letter, but I can't keep quiet any more. Today I saw a picture of a weeping Palestinian man holding a plastic carrier bag of meat. I suddenly found myself thinking that it could have been one of my kids in that bag, and that thought upset me more than anything has for a long time. Then I read that the UN had said that Israel might be guilty of war crimes in Gaza, and they wanted to launch a commission into that. What is going on in America? The America I know and like is compassionate, broadminded, creative, eclectic, tolerant and generous. I was in Israel last year with Mary. I'm sorry to burden you all with this. Peter Schwartz

No Social Media Required: 7 Tips For Meeting New Friends In Real Life. No Social Media Required: 7 Tips For Meeting New Friends In Real Life. In my late teens and 20s, meeting new people seemed easy. Relatively unencumbered, I struck up friendships and acquaintanceships with people I met in class, at work or internships, at bars and parties, in clubs and activities or at the gym. As I have advanced in both chronological years and wisdom (hopefully), I have found that developing a rich and vibrant social life has often taken a backseat to other important life responsibilities. People in their 30s have many draws on time and energy; we are employees, spouses, mothers or fathers, sons or daughters. I do know one thing: getting together in real life seems hellaciously hard, so much harder than it was a decade ago. I have been accused of being anachronistic, but I very much value the sweetness of occasional, real, in-person connection. Many people don’t agree with me, and that’s good. Then I shake a stick at them and sit back down on my rocking chair and read Thoreau. It is kind of funny; it is also a shame. 1.) This is a tricky one.

Disruptions: More Connected, Yet More Alone ‘I Forgot My Phone’ on YouTube. SAN FRANCISCO — Last weekend, I was watching television with a few friends, browsing the week’s most popular YouTube videos, when a piece in the comedy section called “I Forgot My Phone” caught my eye. As I was about to click play, however, a friend warned, “Oh, don’t watch that. I saw it yesterday, and it’s really sad.” The two-minute video, which has been viewed more than 15 million times, begins with a couple in bed. The woman, played by the comedian and actress Charlene deGuzman, stares silently while her boyfriend pays no mind and checks his smartphone. The subsequent scenes follow Ms. deGuzman through a day that is downright dystopian: people ignore her as they stare at their phones during lunch, at a concert, while bowling and at a birthday party. Ms. deGuzman’s video makes for some discomfiting viewing. Or not. So are smartphones having their TV-in-the-kitchen moment? E-mail: bilton@nytimes.com

The Best ’90s Songs You Probably Forgot About Advertisment Several weeks ago, BuzzFeed ran a roundtable discussion of ’90s rock songs titled “38 Great Alt-Rock Songs You Haven’t Thought About In 20 Years.” The list was impressively thorough, covering the decade’s myriad fierce women and women-fronted acts (Juliana Hatfield, Poe, Letters to Cleo), musical obscurities (St. But it’s a testament to the depth and breadth of the ’90s modern rock explosion that there’s so much music from that decade alone that time somehow forgot: The Muffs, “Sad Tomorrow” L.A. trio the Muffs covered Kim Wilde’s “Kids In America” on the “Clueless” soundtrack, which gave them a permanent spot in the annals of ’90s pop culture. Dambuilders, “Shrine” Although perhaps best known today for being the first band of violinist Joan Wasser (a.k.a. Bettie Serveert, “Ray Ray Rain” Dutch indie rockers Bettie Serveert fit in perfectly with the decade’s open-minded mentality. Best Kissers in the World, “Miss Teen USA” Material Issue, “Valerie Loves Me” Advertisment

A beginners’ guide to funk overlord James Brown · Primer Primer is The A.V. Club’s ongoing series of beginners’ guides to pop culture’s most notable subjects: filmmakers, music styles, literary genres, and whatever else interests us—and hopefully you. This installment: James Brown James Brown 101 Any number of singers could lay legitimate claim to the title The Godfather Of Soul. But it fell on James Brown. Born into poverty in 1933—and doing time for armed robbery by the time he was 16— Brown had nothing to rely on but himself. A slew of immortal hits followed “Papa’s Got A Brand New Bag.” The Collinses were part of yet another mass defection within a year of the formation of The J.B.’s. Advanced Studies The ’70s were the backdrop for some of Brown’s biggest wins—and steepest dips. Brown’s most consistent and intriguing work in the ’70s was, atypically, a trilogy of soundtracks. [pagebreak] With the rise of both hip-hop and ’60s nostalgia in the early ’80s, Brown experienced a resurgence in popularity. Demerits Miscellany The Essentials 1. 2. 3.

A beginner’s guide to the music of Kanye West · Primer Primer is The A.V. Club’s ongoing series of beginners’ guides to pop culture’s most notable subjects: filmmakers, music styles, literary genres, and whatever else interests us—and hopefully you. This installment: The music of hip-hop’s king of the world, Kanye West. Kanye West 101 By the time “Through The Wire” was released in late September 2003, its creator, Kanye West, was well known to hip-hop fans as one of the architects of Jay-Z’s The Blueprint-era sound. Before Def Jam and Roc-A-Fella took a chance on the charismatic future icon and controversy magnet, he was already a superstar producer who could easily have enjoyed a lucrative career just providing beats for other artists. When West got into a car accident that nearly cost him his life in 2002, he finally had subject matter dramatic enough to match his ambition. In his lyrics and in public appearances, West holds nothing back. Kanye West has a sense of entitlement that’s remarkable even for a world-famous pop star. [pagebreak]

Willow Smith Is Becoming a Great Musical Weirdo Kinja is in read-only mode. We are working to restore service. Willow's public existence and determination to explore all versions of herself represent a narrative that we don't see nearly enough—one that moves away from the constraints placed on young black girls regarding their own bodies and their true, full selves. While many have focused on what they deem wrong with the Smiths' parenting choices, perhaps the focus should shift to what it means to have a young black girl in the public eye who exhibits such a strong sense of self, as well as how to nurture that same sense of self in other girls. All. Of.

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