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I bet you think you’re not a rapist… **Trigger Warning** I bet you think you’re not a rapist. No hiding in a dark alley for you..but remember that girl who was so drunk she could barely stand. You know she wouldn’t have said yes sober. I bet you think you’re not a rapist. You know that ‘no means no’…or at least, it means ‘persuade me’.
On Total Denial: What it Means to Live in a Rape Culture It’s hit the news recently about the conviction of 9 men for grooming and pimping underage girls. As ever, there’s been an outcry. But in truth, we live in a rape culture. These shocked protestations are as predictable and pointless as those in America whenever someone gets gunned down in their house or school. I mean, the link’s obvious, for chrissakes – you live in a gun culture where the ‘rights’ of the individual to own lethal weapons precede the rights of the community and children not to be shot dead.
“My friend, the rapist.” I guess we’re just going to keep going with yesterday’s theme. Behind the jump because it’s depressing as fuck. Hi, Captain A! Rapists Who Don’t Think They’re Rapists You know the guy who "accidentally" rapes women? The acquaintance who "misreads" the situation and "goes too far"? The longtime friend who genuinely thought you had consented, and is shocked when you tell him that, no, it was rape? Well, we're not going to take that guy's bullshit anymore. Thomas MacAulay Millar over at the Yes Means Yes! blog has crunched the numbers on "undetected" acquaintance rapists to figure out who this "accidental rapist" actually is.
Rapists Admit Repeated Rapes - As Long As You Don't Call It "Rape" I think part of this is due to the fact that men experience sex, and life, very differently than women do (obviously-and I'm only speaking about hetero sex here. They've been taught that rape is evil and bad and damaging, and they believe that. But, when they use coercive means to get sex, or even physically overpower a woman, if they haven't done any physical damage they can brush it off as not that big of a deal because to them it was something that lasted a few minutes and it's over and whatever, it was just sex, you're not hurt, where's the big problem? Men really need to be made more aware of the implications and effects of these things on the victim and be taught to recognize their privelleged position in society.
Are sex offenders and lads’ mags using the same language? Tuesday 6 December 2011 Far from being harmless or ironic fun, lads’ mags could be legitimising hostile sexist attitudes, according to new research. Psychologists from Middlesex University and the University of Surrey found that when presented with descriptions of women taken from lads’ mags, and comments about women made by convicted rapists, most people who took part in the study could not distinguish the source of the quotes. The research due to be published in the British Journal of Psychology also revealed that most men who took part in the study identified themselves more with the language expressed by the convicted rapists. Your Friends and Rapists — Medium, Long That summer I only listened to “Ceremony” and I remember it didn’t rain. I was nineteen years old. It was the summer after my second year at the University of Western Ontario, which would also be my last year at the University of Western Ontario, and I took a job advertised to students. The job was to get in a van and take a yellow pad of sign-up forms and a pen and wear comfortable shoes (no flip-flops) and sell fixed-price natural gas to anyone who could be convinced they were paying too much for broken-price natural gas. It was a blank summer. Every day seemed of exactly the same quality.
Date Rape: Just "A Disagreement Between Two Lovers" While I'm categorically averse to terms like gray rape because they essentially serve to tease out some bit of unnecessarily complicated nuance in what is possibly the easiest concept in the history of the world, I'm also not a fan of the term "date rape," either. Its ostensible purpose is admirable—to convey the ideas that rape is not just a masked man jumping out of the bushes forcing a woman at gunpoint to submit to his will, and that not all rape victims look like they've been brutalized. But, functionally, the term tends to instead reinforce the erroneous notion that not all rape is equal. Case in point [via Samhita]: WHOA: 4 Questions That Got 120 Rapists To Admit They Were Rapists * The exact questions asked in the study were: Have you ever been in a situation where you tried, but for various reasons did not succeed, in having sexual intercourse with an adult by using or threatening to use physical force (twisting their arm, holding them down, etc.) if they did not cooperate? Have you ever had sexual intercourse with someone, even though they did not want to, because they were too intoxicated (on alcohol or drugs) to resist your sexual advances (e.g., removing their clothes)?