What Makes Us Happy? Case No. 218 How’s this for the good life? You’re rich, and you made the dough yourself. You’re well into your 80s, and have spent hardly a day in the hospital. Right? Case No. 47 You literally fell down drunk and died. Last fall, I spent about a month in the file room of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, hoping to learn the secrets of the good life. From their days of bull sessions in Cambridge to their active duty in World War II, through marriages and divorces, professional advancement and collapse—and now well into retirement—the men have submitted to regular medical exams, taken psychological tests, returned questionnaires, and sat for interviews. For 42 years, the psychiatrist George Vaillant has been the chief curator of these lives, the chief investigator of their experiences, and the chief analyst of their lessons. Such bravado had defined the study from the start. Inveighing against medicine’s tendency to think small and specialized, Bock made big promises. Case No. 141
Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. 1. This was the most common regret of all. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. 2. This came from every male patient that I nursed. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. 3. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. We cannot control the reactions of others. 4. Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. 5. Life is a choice.
4 Dark Sides To The Pursuit of Happiness Fake smile? Here’s how to avoid four hurdles on the road to happiness. Healthy people want to be happy. And there’s little doubt about all the benefits of positive emotions. It’s little wonder that pursuing happiness has become a modern obsession, an obsession that psychologists have mostly encouraged (see: 10 Easy Activities Science Has Proven Will Make You Happier Today). But, like any emotion, it has it’s time and place. Yale University’s Dr June Gruber has spent years researching happiness and has found that sometimes, at the extremes, the search for happiness can go wrong. Gruber and her colleagues have looked at positive and negative emotions in particular and identified four dark sides to the pursuit of happiness (Gruber et al., 2013), each of which shows that sometimes the pursuit of pure happiness can go wrong: 1. It might seem crazy to talk about ‘too much’ happiness, but, like gorging on chocolate, you can have too much of a good thing. 2. 3. 4. Well, not quite.
Secret Fears of the Super-Rich The October 2008 issue of SuperYacht World confirmed it: money cannot buy happiness. Page 38 of “the international magazine for superyachts of distinction”—if you have to ask what it takes for a yacht to qualify as “super,” you can’t afford to be in the showroom—presented the Martha Ann, a 230-foot, $125 million boat boasting a crew of 20, a master bedroom the size of my house, and an interior gaudy enough to make Saddam Hussein blush. The feature story on the Martha Ann was published just as the S&P 500 suffered its worst week since 1933, shedding $1.4 trillion over the course of the week, or about 2,240 Martha Anns every day. Still, one of the captions accompanying the lavish photos betrayed the status anxiety that afflicts even the highest echelons of wealth. “From these LOFTY HEIGHTS,” the caption promised, “guests will be able to look down on virtually any other yacht.” Such complaints sound, on their face, preposterous. “I never forgot the concerns that I learned as a Jesuit.
11 Powerful Bruce Lee Quotes You Need To Know Bruce Lee is one of my idols. Bruce Lee was a martial artist, film director, producer, screenwriter, philosopher and actor. Bruce Lee is widely considered to be one of the most influential martial artists of the last century. Up to this day he is considered as a legend and his philosophy continues to live through the martial art that he created Jeet Kune Do and through his writing. This is why today I’ve decided to share with you 11 inspiring Bruce Lee quotes. #1. #2. #3. #4. #5. #6. #7. #8. #9. #10. #11. Bonus – There is one more I would like to add. These are my favorite inspirational quotes from Bruce Lee.
So what just is the secret of true happiness? Elizabeth Dunn, associate professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia has discovered the secret of happiness. In a new book, ‘Happy Money; the new science of smarter spending’,she reveals all. Her five principles are been worked out after much research, and include some that are stock financial wisdom, such as more careful use of credit cards. Her key principle is that pepole should use money to buy experiences, not possessions. She asserts: “ Experiences tend to be shared with other people. Now there’s some wisdom there! Dunn is right in saying that possessions cannot buy happiness; but she is wrong to imagine that there is some magical formula to guarantee happiness. Frankl is suggesting that happiness is not in possessions or in experiences but in attitudes.
What Harvard’s Grant Study Reveals about Happiness and Life In 1966, when he was 32, George Vaillant took over Harvard’s famous Grant Study. The task: track hundreds of Harvard men, from youth to death, and determine what predicts wellbeing. Nearly half a century later, Vaillant lays out his final findings, and discovers that his own maturation is inseparable from the lives he examines. In the early 1940s, two Harvard sophomores named Norman Mailer and Leonard Bernstein were rejected for participation in a study. In his proposal to the university president, Arlen V. Between 1939 and 1946, Bock’s team selected 268 sophomores. Grant withdrew his funding in 1947, and the study sputtered along for the next 20 years. “Some men came to Cambridge to be interviewed, but in most cases I went to them—to Hawaii, Canada, London, New Zealand,” writes the 82 year-old Vaillant in Triumphs of Experience: The Men of the Harvard Grant Study, his final dispatch summing up nearly 50 years of work. “Lives change and things can get better,” writes Vaillant.
8 Tools for Self-Analysis: Mapping Your Strengths, Gifts & Roles I’ve always been fascinated with the workings of my own mind, and by human nature in general. With a background doing undergraduate work in Psychology, and graduate work in Social and Critical Theory, I’ve spent long hours contemplating individual motivations as well as group dynamics and the potential for (the much sought after, but often elusive) collective intelligence.If we want to determine what it takes to better function as groups, both in physical proximity and across distributed environments, I think it’s important to understand our own internal landscapes and how our strengths are best amplified in the presence of others with complimentary talents. Below is a list of online assessments that are useful in becoming more aware of one’s strengths, gifts and temperaments. I’ve pasted excerpts of my own results below, to give a sense of how the assessments are formatted. 1. my top 5 results: You like to think. You love to learn. You are fascinated by ideas. You are inquisitive. 2. 3.
How To Be Happy: 8 foundational principles of deep & lasting happiness Happiness may not be quite as simple as some of the self-help gurus suggest, but neither is it as far out of reach as the panicky headlines of the evening news implore you to believe. This isn’t about peppy giddy euphoria — though that’s nice too. Before diving deeper, let me clarify what I mean by “happiness.” I am not referring to the “Oh yay, I found a ten dollar bill in my coat pocket!” No doubt these are all happy moments in their own right, and I wish for you many such moments in your life, but they’re not the kind of happy at topic today. Instead, I’m speaking specifically about the deep, abiding happiness that exists with a consistency and resilience the peppiness, giddiness and euphoria lack. Think of the former as the mountain top, and the latter three as snowflakes. That is the deep and lasting happiness these 8 principles support. But isn’t that mountain reserved for the wealthy, the privileged, the few? In my experience, it is a collection of qualities and perspectives.
Les 5 commandements d’un MOOC réussi | Enseignement à distance | Filières Les MOOC (Massive Open Online Courses ou cours en ligne ouverts et massifs) apparaissent à raison comme une révolution dans l’apprentissage. Ils offrent plus de liberté, une accessibilité presque totale, 24h sur 24. Mais ces qualités s’accompagnent de difficultés. Julia Fauconnier Nous avons demandé à Rémi Bachelet, maître de conférences à l’Ecole Centrale de Lille et créateur du MOOC Gestion de Projet (1er Mooc certificatif français) sont avis sur la question. 1. Il y existe déjà beaucoup - beaucoup ! 2. Il est important de voir le travail nécessaire à un MOOC comme "une petite brique par jour". Kevin Zollman (CC BY-SA 2.0) 3. Pour Rémi Bachelet, un travail régulier signifie 15 min par jour, 5 soirs par semaine. 4. A l’instar des études en général, mais rendue plus compliquée par la nature même des MOOC, la communication est la clef de votre réussite. 5. Il faut, dans l’idéal, être capable de montrer et expliquer concrètement ce qu’on a appris à l’issue d’un MOOC.
21 Habits Of Happy People Happiness is an aspiration that all of us share. We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing: 1. Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. 2. Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. 3. Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. 4. Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. 5. Don’t wallow in self-pity. 6. Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! 7. Take the time to see the beauty around you. 8. Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. 9. Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. 10. Develop an attitude of gratitude. 11. Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. 12. Honesty is the best policy. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. Never give up.