20 Ways to Overcome Shyness Can you remember the last time you stepped into a room full of strangers and felt that self-conscious and awkward feeling rush over you? Or that heart thumping moment when you wanted to ask someone on a date, but were too shy to do so? Or wanting to approach someone for business, but was too hesitant to actually do it? That anxiety in the pit of your stomach in social situations? Does it always feel like something is holding you back? Regardless of whether you are introverted or extraverted, we can all relate to that feeling of shyness at some point in our lives. This article is the result of collaboration between Amanda Linehan, an introvert, and Tina Su, an extravert. The Three Components of Shyness According to Dr. Can you relate? Why Do We Experience Shyness? We all experience shyness differently and on varying degrees. 1. This is especially true to our experiences in high school. 2. Amanda: Coupled with a weak self image,I didn’t thinkIwas doing anything right! 3. Photo by Lauren 1.
» 12 Practical Steps for Learning to Go With the Flow “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” - Lao-Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress. The simple solution: learn to go with the flow. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” - Thich Nhat Hanh For example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. You get angry. Not the best way to handle things, is it? Go with the flow. What is going with the flow? “Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. A reader recently asked me to write more about going with the flow, so this is my attempt to share some of the things that work for me. Realize that you can’t control everything. “I accept chaos.
5 Thought-Provoking Quantum Experiments Showing That Reality Is an Illusion No one in the world can fathom what quantum mechanics is, this is perhaps the most important thing you need to know about it. Granted, many physicists have learned to use its laws and even predict phenomena based on quantum calculations. But it is still unclear why the observer of an experiment determines behavior of the system and causes it to favor one state over another. 1. Today there are many interpretations of quantum mechanics with the Copenhagen interpretation being perhaps the most famous to-date. As stated by the Copenhagen interpretation, the state of the system and its position relative to other states can only be determined by an observation (the wave function is used only to help mathematically calculate the probability of the system being in one state or another). This approach has always had its opponents (remember for example Albert Einstein’s “God does not play dice“), but the accuracy of the calculations and predictions prevailed. 2. But what about the observer? 3.
10 Comics That Can Help You Understand Mental Illness There are times when I feel as though Hyperbole and a Half literally saved my life. My depression never quite reached the depths that she described. But I came close. I would be damned if my ex-wife would ever be right about anything, and so I flatly refused her assertion. About halfway through reading her second blog post. I thankfully don't need medication. Flagged How posture and gestures affect state of mind Most people are aware of the mind-body connection—how your mental processes can affect your physical state. If you feel frightened, your heart races. Being embarrassed can cause you to blush. When you think of something happy, you are likely to smile. Meditating may even lower your blood pressure. But what about the reverse—a body-mind connection? Accumulating research is revealing that body position, postures, gestures and facial expressions can indeed influence how you think, feel and even behave. Power poses and confidence Much of the research on the body-mind connection (called embodied cognition by researchers) has focused on various expansive (or "power") poses, which involve open positions, with arms and elbows away from the body and chin raised—as opposed to closed postures where the legs or arms are crossed, the head is down and the body slumped or slouched over. Power poses may also help lessen pain, suggested a study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology in 2012.
Passive-Aggressive: Explanation & Cure. The first time I encountered the phrase passive-aggressive was during a break-up. Feeling hurt, I was defensive and had no idea what the words meant, and all I knew is that it was an attack and a label. Fast forward a decade filled with a great deal of introspection and inquiry into psychology, self-discovery and personality, and I would have had to agree with her. Passive-aggressive is not having the courage to speak openly and directly. As a highly sensitive person, I am aware of the impact of my words, actions and presence on others. I didn’t always have passive-aggressive traits. It took years for me to recognize my fears, the causes for them, and how to live with and move past them. Most passive-aggressive people tend to have deep wounds, either from childhood or traumatic experiences in life. The tendency to be fearful is a natural result of trauma. And when facing environments, scenarios, emotions or people that trigger past events, an instinctive defensive response arises.
New study: Does putting your feet up = power? (Medical Xpress)—A new set of studies by researchers at three universities led by University at Buffalo psychologist Lora E. Park, PhD, has found that the previously assumed link between expansive body postures and power is not fixed, but depends on the type of posture enacted and people's cultural background. "Stand Tall, but Don't Put Your Feet Up: Universal and Culturally-Specific Effects of Expansive Postures on Power" is reported in the November 2013 issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology (Vol. 49, Issue 5). The researchers conducted four studies with more than 600 men and women born in the U.S. or East Asia (e.g., China, South Korea, Japan) in order to examine the psychological experience of viewing and enacting expansive (versus constricted) body postures. Study 3 found that the expansive-feet-on-desk pose led to greater feelings of power and implicit activation of power-related concepts for Americans, but not for East Asians.
6 Super Easy Morning Routines For Optimal Health Incorporate any one of these into your morning routine to see positive changes in your life. 1. Drink 1 liter (about 4 cups) of water. From the time you wake up in the morning to when you leave your house for work, try drinking a liter of water. 2. Drinking hot water with lemon in the mornings before you eat breakfast will have a positive impact on your health. 3. Completing a 10-minute stretch before getting ready for work will not only wake you up in the mornings, but also can tone muscles as well as prevent any muscle injuries throughout your day. 4. This may be a hard one to try at first, but not relying on coffee to get you up and moving first thing in the morning is quite relieving. 5. Spend10 minutes in the morning jotting down your goals for the day. 6. Spend 10 minutes in complete silence practicing meditation. Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com
How to Stop Worrying Effective Immediately - HavingTime Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength. – Corrie Ten Boom I’m sure that I’m not the only one who occupies herself with pointless worrying. 1. The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work. – Robert Frost Every day there are things that we put on our plate and focus our attention on. So what does worrying look like? 2. Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment. – Dale Carnegie We are what we think about. So the more I worry, the more of my attention goes to all the “possible” negative scenarios on how my day, month, year and my whole LIFE can spin off starting from this moment. Worrying is just that program that runs in our mind. 3. When we take some distance and zoom out of the problem that we created in our mind, it suddenly doesn’t seem so big and mighty anymore. Think about BIG world problems now. photo from vk.com
The 7 Chakras for Beginners - Healing, Balancing, and Opening Your Chakras with Exercises, Foods, Colors The seven chakras are the centers in our bodies in which energy flows through. Blocked energy in our seven chakras can often lead to illness, so it's important to understand what each chakra represents and what we can do to keep this energy flowing freely. Here's our quick summary: 1. Location: Base of spine in tailbone area. 2. Location: Lower abdomen, about two inches below the navel and two inches in. 3. Location: Upper abdomen in the stomach area. 4. Location: Center of chest just above the heart. 5. Location: Throat. 6. Location: Forehead between the eyes (also called the Brow Chakra). 7. Location: The very top of the head. If you want to learn even more about chakras, and how to open each to harness your spiritual energy to feel truly alive, check out our course, Chakras 101: How To Harness Your Spiritual Energy For Better Sex, Better Sleep & Better Moods. Error loading player: No playable sources found Photo Credit: Stocksy
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Six natural ways to increase your serotonin levels Head out for a morning walk to boost your serotonin levels. Photo, Getty Images. What causes the dip in mood? Production of serotonin is closely linked to the availability of vitamin B6 and the amino acid tryptophan. In my professional opinion, serotonin deficiency has become an epidemic of equal proportion to obesity. 1. Find out what makes you feel good and put it into action. 2. Bottom line: I recommend taking 50-400 mg per day in divided doses throughout the day or before bed. 3. Vitamin B6 in particular supports the production and function of serotonin, melatonin and dopamine in the brain. Bottom line: Take 50-100 mg before bed or a B-complex once daily. 4. Bottom line: My recommended dosage is 900 mg per day away from food, like on rising or before bed. 5. Bottom line: Take 4-12 g per day. 6. Bottom line: Start with 2-3 short walks first thing in the morning and work your way up to doing it daily (when weather and schedule permit). What helps boost your mood during a long winter?
How the Brain Purges Bad Memories The brain is extraordinarily good at alerting us to threats. Loud noises, noxious smells, approaching predators: they all send electrical impulses buzzing down our sensory neurons, pinging our brain’s fear circuitry and, in some cases, causing us to fight or flee. The brain is also adept at knowing when an initially threatening or startling stimulus turns out to be harmless or resolved. Like most emotions, fear is neurologically complicated. Normally mice that repeatedly listen to a sound previously associated with a mild foot shock will learn that on its own the tone is harmless, and they will stop being afraid. Until now investigators were unsure whether the amygdala–prefrontal cortex communication pathway could on its own control fear extinction; both structures interact with many other brain regions, and so isolating their effects of on behavior was a challenge. Holmes sees the amygdala and prefrontal cortex as two major hubs in a complex communications network.