18 Behaviors of Emotionally Intelligent People
When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success. Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the "something" in each of us that is a bit intangible. Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it difficult to measure and to know what to do to improve it if you're lacking. You have a robust emotional vocabulary. All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. You're curious about people. You embrace change. You know your strengths and weaknesses.
Relationships Take Work
If I could give one piece of advice as a relationships researcher, it would be this: Relationships take work. Sure we’d all like to believe in destiny, thinking there is someone out there who is meant for us. Then when we find our soul mate, we will slip into an easy and comfortable companionship that provides us with decades of endless laughter and joy, and not a single fight or tense moment. But that is the stuff of dreams, people. In a great test of what happens when people believe they are "meant to be", close relationships researcher C. Destiny Beliefs. Growth Beliefs. Importantly, these two sets of beliefs are not mutually exclusive. But if you are someone who is high in destiny or growth beliefs, this might affect how you (a) approach your dating life, (b) deal with problems in your relationship, and (c) think about relationships after they end. Approach to dating. Dealing with problems. Ending the relationship. Dealing with the aftermath. The Articles:Knee, C.
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How A War Hero Became A Serial Bank Robber
Developing Emotional Awareness: Recognizing & Harnessing Your Emotions
We often hear from people who feel overwhelmed by stress, family, work and relationship problems, health challenges, and painful emotions. They’ve tried many approaches to help themselves feel better, but they just can’t seem to follow through, or what they’ve done hasn't helped them enough. If this sounds familiar, you know that it’s all too easy to become discouraged when you’re stuck. The problem is not willpower—all the willpower in the world won’t matter if you can’t manage stress or keep your emotions in balance. The good news: you can learn these important emotional skills, no matter your age or the obstacles you face. Skill building, like any learning, takes time and effort.
The psychology of menus
It's not always easy trying to read a menu while hungry like the wolf, woozy from aperitif and exchanging pleasantries with a dining partner. The eyes flit about like a pinball, pinging between set meal options, side dishes and today's specials. Do I want comforting treats or something healthy? What's cheap? Why is it so hard to decide what to have? Malcolm Gladwell cites an interesting nugget from his work for Nescafé. The burden of choice Perhaps this is part of the joy of a tasting or set menu – the removal of responsibility. Bournemouth University's new study has sought to answer this very question. Nightmare menu layouts Befuddling menu design doesn't help. The language of food The Oxford experimental psychologist Charles Spence has an upcoming review paper on the effect the name of a dish has on diners. But we are seeing a backlash against the menu cliches (drizzled, homemade, infused) that have arisen from this thinking. Sound and atmosphere It's all relative, right?
Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence
Executive Summary Often, emotional intelligence is the key differentiator between a star performer and the rest of the pack, yet many never embrace the skill for themselves. Do you think being liked at work is overrated? Are you surprised when others are offended by your comments, and do you feel like they’re overreacting? You might be lacking in emotional intelligence, but there are strategies to help you improve. A critical component of emotional intelligence is self-awareness, so get feedback to help you understand what your problematic behaviors are. In my ten years as an executive coach, I have never had someone raise his hand and declare that he needs to work on his emotional intelligence. Take Craig (not his real name), a coaching client of mine, who showed tremendous potential and a strong ability to drive results for his company. Here are some of the telltale signs that you need to work on your emotional intelligence: So what do you do if you recognized yourself in this list?
Scientists Plant False Memories in Mice--and Mice Buy It
This story was originally published by Inside Science News Service. (ISNS) -- “Memory is deceptive because it is colored by today’s events,” said Albert Einstein. It is also deceptive because it is frequently wrong, sometimes dangerously so. Scientists at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology have developed the ability to implant mice with false memories. The findings are a serious matter. In the longest criminal trial in American history, the McMartin family, who operated a preschool in California, was charged with multiple incidents of child abuse. There is now a False Memory Syndrome in scientific literature and a False Memory Syndrome Foundation. Last year, Tonegawa and his team published a study in Nature showing how false memories could be implanted in mice. After a while, they gave the mice mild electric shocks to their feet and a blue light flashed in their brains delivered by a fiber-optic cable, implanting the memory that the Red Room was a dangerous place.
How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?
What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success. Plato said that all learning has some emotional basis, and he may be right. "What having emotional intelligence looks like is that you're confident, good at working towards your goals, adaptable and flexible. The five components of emotional intelligence, as defined by Goleman, are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, social skills and empathy. Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? 1. Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? Being curious about others is also a way to cultivate empathy. 2. Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common, according to Goleman. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.
still life — hysterical literature
When the vibrator hit Needlecraft, it represented an early dalliance between woman, vibrator, and book—finally, women had their hands on the rudimentary tools necessary to express their own thoughts and access their own desires. Then pornography exploded that narrative. As Maines details, porn producers began featuring vibrators in the early stag films of the 1920s, and the object’s social meaning flipped from medical aid to crude sexual device. Vibrator ads disappeared from women’s magazines. Maines wagers that by the 1970s, feminists had succeeded in placing the vibrator firmly into “the hands of women themselves.” When Danielle takes a seat at the table, she wrestles with two objects that have been wielded as tools of both female oppression and liberation. Is lust the natural enemy of human advancement? In Hysterical Literature, Danielle articulates the words of the book, while the vibrator buzzes her toward orgasm.
