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12 Laws of the Emotions

12 Laws of the Emotions
Explore the psychology of the emotions with these 12 laws. We tend to think of our emotions as having laws unto themselves, but one psychological researcher has suggested that our emotions do follow certain general rules. Professor Nico Frijda puts forward twelve laws of the emotions (Fridja, 2006). As with most laws there are exceptions, but these have been synthesised from years of psychological research and hold true much of the time. 1. The first law is simply that emotions derive from situations. 2. We feel because we care about something, when we have some interest in what happens, whether it’s to an object, ourselves, or another person. 3. Whatever seems real to us, can elicit an emotional response. 4, 5 & 6. The law of habituation means that in life we get used to our circumstances whatever they are (mostly true, but see laws 7 & 8). 7. There are certain awful circumstances to which we can never become accustomed. 8. 9. The way we respond to our emotions tends to be absolute. 10. Related:  Emotional Self-Awareness

18 Behaviors of Emotionally Intelligent People When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success. Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the "something" in each of us that is a bit intangible. Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it difficult to measure and to know what to do to improve it if you're lacking. You have a robust emotional vocabulary. All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. You're curious about people. You embrace change. You know your strengths and weaknesses.

untitled Developing Emotional Awareness: Recognizing & Harnessing Your Emotions We often hear from people who feel overwhelmed by stress, family, work and relationship problems, health challenges, and painful emotions. They’ve tried many approaches to help themselves feel better, but they just can’t seem to follow through, or what they’ve done hasn't helped them enough. If this sounds familiar, you know that it’s all too easy to become discouraged when you’re stuck. The problem is not willpower—all the willpower in the world won’t matter if you can’t manage stress or keep your emotions in balance. The good news: you can learn these important emotional skills, no matter your age or the obstacles you face. Skill building, like any learning, takes time and effort.

Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence Executive Summary Often, emotional intelligence is the key differentiator between a star performer and the rest of the pack, yet many never embrace the skill for themselves. Do you think being liked at work is overrated? Are you surprised when others are offended by your comments, and do you feel like they’re overreacting? You might be lacking in emotional intelligence, but there are strategies to help you improve. A critical component of emotional intelligence is self-awareness, so get feedback to help you understand what your problematic behaviors are. In my ten years as an executive coach, I have never had someone raise his hand and declare that he needs to work on his emotional intelligence. Take Craig (not his real name), a coaching client of mine, who showed tremendous potential and a strong ability to drive results for his company. Here are some of the telltale signs that you need to work on your emotional intelligence: So what do you do if you recognized yourself in this list?

How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success. Plato said that all learning has some emotional basis, and he may be right. "What having emotional intelligence looks like is that you're confident, good at working towards your goals, adaptable and flexible. The five components of emotional intelligence, as defined by Goleman, are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, social skills and empathy. Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? 1. Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? Being curious about others is also a way to cultivate empathy. 2. Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common, according to Goleman. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

Are you emotionally intelligent? Here’s how to know for sure When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 per cent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success. Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking. Unfortunately, quality (scientifically valid) EQ tests aren’t free. You have a robust emotional vocabulary All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. You’re curious about people You embrace change More from Entrepreneur.com You are difficult to offend

untitled untitled Do You Have Any Idea What Other People Think of You? A thought experiment: What do your partner’s friends really think about you? Tasha Eurich — an organizational psychologist and author of a new book, Insight, an overview of her research on self-awareness — recently, and unexpectedly, got a chance to find out. She was out with some good friends, all of whom she originally met through her husband, when one of those friends pulled up a chair for a drunken heart-to-heart. What was that supposed to mean? “Even though it’s a funny story, and everybody cringes when they hear it, it’s such a powerful example of the idea that if we wait for those moments to come to us we might learn a certain amount about ourselves,” she said. Do you find that people tend to assume that they are more self-aware than they really are? That is distressing. How did you come up with the 10 to 15 percent figure? From my own research as a person who exists in the world, that seems about right. It’s a balancing act between these two types.

Scientists discover there are 27 DIFFERENT emotions Scientists have discovered that the range of emotions humans experience is much wider than previously thought. While it was originally thought we feel just six emotions, researchers at UC Berkeley found 27 distinct human emotions and have displayed them on an interactive map. In addition to happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear, and, disgust, they also determined confusion, romance, nostalgia, sexual desire, and others to be distinct emotions. Scroll down for video and click here for an interactive version of the map The emotion map the researchers created: In addition to happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear, and, disgust, they also determined confusion, romance, nostalgia, sexual desire, and others to be distinct emotions. 'We wanted to shed light on the full palette of emotions that color our inner world,' lead author Alan Cowen said of the study, which was published today in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. Admiration Adoration Aesthetic Appreciation Amusement Anxiety

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