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How To Make Anyone (And Everyone) Want You

How To Make Anyone (And Everyone) Want You
There are some people who just have it. You know, that thing... They illuminate a room. Eyes follow them. The spotlight naturally and effortlessly is drawn to them. What's their secret? It's called soul. People who embody soul are irresistible. Soulful individuals are always being pursued. Guess what? Here are four easy steps to embody your soul and light up a room. 1. The quality of being centered is strong and peaceful; assured and graceful; aligned and free. It feels heavenly to be around centered people because these qualities are so desirable to us. We live in a fast-paced, frazzled world, so being a pillar of peace is an oasis in a very dry desert. So how do you do it? Easy. Whether it's meditation (focus on your breath), mindfulness (focus on the now), or just paying attention to what is happening in the present moment, these practices will lead you to embody a sense of calm and ease. People will take note. 2. Think about it. Gratitude overflows. 3. We all want to know. Guess what?

Five Manifestos for Life by Kirstin Butler How a numbered list can start a personal revolution. Some days everyone needs a little extra encouragement. The words or lines or colors don’t want to come, or worse, we don’t even want to sit down to create. That’s when we turn to these inspiring manifestos, any one of which is guaranteed to give our uncooperative creativity a sharp kick in the pants. Here are five of our favorite contemporary manifestos that nudge ideas out of your head and into the hands of the world. We’ve long been fans of the amazing work of Frederick Terral, the creative visionary behind design studio Right Brain Terrain. You may not be a Picasso or Mozart but you don’t have to be. We can’t imagine more sound advice. Guidelines to get you from Point A to finished product, The Cult of Done Manifesto was written by tech guru Bre Pettis (of MakerBot fame) in collaboration with writer Kio Stark in 20 minutes, “because we only had 20 minutes to get it done.” This is your life. There is an enemy.

Why I've Decided To Stop Comparing Myself To Others Many people I know slave to the comparison game. I’m not as thin as so and so; I’m not as tall or as pretty. I’m not as wealthy as she or he is. I’m not as strong or as flexible. I totally get it. Here’s the thing: Until we learn to accept and love ourselves completely and wholly for exactly the way we are today, in this moment, sitting on the couch, covered in dried sweat, with ornery gray hairs poking out of the pony tail holder and a pedicure that is weeks past due, we won’t ever be able to love another. What you feed is what you'll create more of. Instead of allowing myself into the dark place, I lean toward the light. So I ask you: What fuels you? Fear or faith? Love or anger? Kindness or judgment? What do you choose to feed? Some of us have resorted to fueling ourselves via darkness. As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

The Art of the Imperfect Pitch In these volatile times, it’s clear that innovation has become an imperative. Organizations that become too entrenched with being good at what they do are simply putting themselves in a vulnerable market position. Middle managers with great ideas can sometimes be caught between a rock and a hard place. Managing “from the bottom up” is always a challenge, and that’s particularly so when it comes to bringing something new to the table. In observing managerial dynamics as a researcher and consultant, I’ve extracted two vital pieces of advice for anyone trying to promote innovation to higher ups. The first is: Figure out if the person you’re trying to pitch to is really open to new ideas. The second is: Don’t provide your champion with a polished pitch. Behind all this is scientific research about what makes people tick. The instinctual brain operates according to what I call the “X Framework.” Under stress, humans also hang on to the familiar.

30 Things To Do Before You Die 6 Ways To Slow Down The Speed Of Life We blink and a year has passed. We've all heard or found ourselves saying, "They grow up so fast," or "The years just flew by." Most bucket lists include things like, "Go on an adventure in a far-off land," "Learn a new language," or "Buy a dream car." What drives each of these desires is one common connector, an innate yearning to belong and to feel love. As I check off my own adventure list — skydiving, going swimming with wild dolphins, climbing Mayan Ruins in Belize — I find that with each activity I complete, I feel a sense of accomplishment, purpose and self-worth. Which led me to think about our human desire to make a difference and live life more fully. In the spirit of loving life to the fullest, I've revised my list of things to do before I die. 30 things to do before you die: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Photo Credit: