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How To Make Anyone (And Everyone) Want You

How To Make Anyone (And Everyone) Want You
There are some people who just have it. You know, that thing... They illuminate a room. Eyes follow them. The spotlight naturally and effortlessly is drawn to them. What's their secret? It's called soul. People who embody soul are irresistible. Soulful individuals are always being pursued. Guess what? Here are four easy steps to embody your soul and light up a room. 1. The quality of being centered is strong and peaceful; assured and graceful; aligned and free. It feels heavenly to be around centered people because these qualities are so desirable to us. We live in a fast-paced, frazzled world, so being a pillar of peace is an oasis in a very dry desert. So how do you do it? Easy. Whether it's meditation (focus on your breath), mindfulness (focus on the now), or just paying attention to what is happening in the present moment, these practices will lead you to embody a sense of calm and ease. People will take note. 2. Think about it. Gratitude overflows. 3. We all want to know. Guess what? Related:  Building the FuturePositive thinking (mindset)

10 Cancer-Fighting Juice & Smoothie Recipes I often recommend making juices and smoothies. Not only is making a juice or a smoothie simpler than cooking a meal from scratch but it also provides you with a nutrient dense glass of deliciousness. I like to think of it as a direct deposit into each and everyone of our cells. If you are dealing with cancer or are implementing a cancer-free lifestyle balancing your meals is top priority. Here are my favorites that are full of anti-oxidants and cancer fighting properties. Juices 1 medium mango½ cup of pineapple2 cups of spinach Benefits: anti-inflammatory, antioxidants (mangiferin, quercetin), vitamins (A, C, D, K), chlorophyll, iron, folate and alkalizing properties 1 cup of watermelon2 cups of pea shoots (sprouts)½ inch of ginger Benefits: anti-inflammatory, antioxidant (lycopene), chlorophyll, vitamins (A, C), folic acid and alkalizing properties 2 cups of kale1 apple½ lemon½ inch of ginger 1 medium cucumber1 cup of honeydew melon4 romaine leaves Smoothies Photo Credit:

5 Things Confident Women Do Differently We all know those women — the ones who stride with an air of grace into a room. They’re not always the thinnest, prettiest, or smartest. They’re not arrogant. Growing up, all I seemed to do was make people run the other direction. Why can’t I be thinner? Soon enough, I received an answer and I felt my vibe shift. After much study, discussion, and practice, I realized these five things are what confident women do differently than women who lack confidence. 1. Your purpose is to be authentically you. Insecure about your body? 2. Some of the greatest thinkers, artists, speakers, lawyers, and performers of our time have a preperformance ritual that gets them revved for show time. For example, if I want to have rockin’ confidence before a date, I’ll strut around my apartment in high heels. 3. A drop in confidence can come when plans aren’t made or fall through and you’re left with time alone. There's nothing that revives my confidence more than time alone. 4. 5.

Five Manifestos for Life by Kirstin Butler How a numbered list can start a personal revolution. Some days everyone needs a little extra encouragement. The words or lines or colors don’t want to come, or worse, we don’t even want to sit down to create. That’s when we turn to these inspiring manifestos, any one of which is guaranteed to give our uncooperative creativity a sharp kick in the pants. Here are five of our favorite contemporary manifestos that nudge ideas out of your head and into the hands of the world. We’ve long been fans of the amazing work of Frederick Terral, the creative visionary behind design studio Right Brain Terrain. You may not be a Picasso or Mozart but you don’t have to be. We can’t imagine more sound advice. Guidelines to get you from Point A to finished product, The Cult of Done Manifesto was written by tech guru Bre Pettis (of MakerBot fame) in collaboration with writer Kio Stark in 20 minutes, “because we only had 20 minutes to get it done.” This is your life. There is an enemy.

9 Self-Care Essentials To Add To Your Life There's been a long-held belief that people are worthy of respect when they put others before themselves. People have often evaluated their own worth (and the degree to which they deserve value in society) by their ability to contribute and place the needs of others before themselves. Along with this belief is the idea that self-care is self-indulgent. However, we can only sustain physical health and emotional health when self-care is a priority. (This is true for both women and men, despite some old-fashioned gender stereotypes!) In fact, giving yourself permission to take care of yourself is probably the best thing you can do for the people in your life. 1. Often when we are busy fulfilling our responsibilities, part of the way we make more time is to neglect our own dietary needs. Decide to make food a priority for yourself; even for just a short while. 2. Our bodies are made for movement. 3. For a myriad of reasons, our society is becoming increasingly sleep-deprived. 4. 5. 6. 7.

Why I've Decided To Stop Comparing Myself To Others Many people I know slave to the comparison game. I’m not as thin as so and so; I’m not as tall or as pretty. I’m not as wealthy as she or he is. I’m not as strong or as flexible. I totally get it. Here’s the thing: Until we learn to accept and love ourselves completely and wholly for exactly the way we are today, in this moment, sitting on the couch, covered in dried sweat, with ornery gray hairs poking out of the pony tail holder and a pedicure that is weeks past due, we won’t ever be able to love another. What you feed is what you'll create more of. Instead of allowing myself into the dark place, I lean toward the light. So I ask you: What fuels you? Fear or faith? Love or anger? Kindness or judgment? What do you choose to feed? Some of us have resorted to fueling ourselves via darkness. As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

A Simple Exercise To Unblock Your Chakras As a trainer of yoga teachers, I find chakra therapy to be a powerful tool in personal transformation and use this writing exercise during my trainings. The chakra system is a complex energetic system, and chakra balancing is one path that can lead you to spiritual growth. On a more tangible level, when you discover and become aware of your unique chakra system, you can balance these energetic systems not only to reach higher consciousness, but also to achieve more peace and balance in your everyday life. The subject can be dense at times, and it's one that you can study for a long time if you'd like to understand it better. However, I find that simply asking a few questions relating to each chakra can provide great insight on where there may be an imbalance in your chakras, and therefore in your life. What is your relationship like with your family? 2. What are ways in which you express your creativity? 3. Would you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? 4. 5. 6. 7.

How To Break The Ice With Anyone You Meet (A Model's Guide) As a model, I’m frequently in the position of meeting new people. For example, I often travel to foreign places to shoot with crews that I haven’t met yet. And to make the situation more complicated, the crew usually speaks a different first language than I do. Boy did I learn a great lesson when I took a risk and answered my German client’s kind gesture of, “Danke schön" with, “auf Wiedersehen!” As I waited for the crew to stop laughing, they told me what I said — and I panicked! Over time, I’ve realized that I often wasn’t introducing myself because I was afraid to fail. One great and authentic connection is all it takes, and the possibilities are limitless: your future husband, a business connection to help you land your dream job, someone enlightening that brings you peace when you need it most. Imagine yourself standing on a busy city street and knowing everyone that walks by on a personal level. Dare two: reintroduce yourself with confidence and humility. Photo by Mary Beth Koeth

The Art of the Imperfect Pitch In these volatile times, it’s clear that innovation has become an imperative. Organizations that become too entrenched with being good at what they do are simply putting themselves in a vulnerable market position. Middle managers with great ideas can sometimes be caught between a rock and a hard place. Managing “from the bottom up” is always a challenge, and that’s particularly so when it comes to bringing something new to the table. In observing managerial dynamics as a researcher and consultant, I’ve extracted two vital pieces of advice for anyone trying to promote innovation to higher ups. The first is: Figure out if the person you’re trying to pitch to is really open to new ideas. The second is: Don’t provide your champion with a polished pitch. Behind all this is scientific research about what makes people tick. The instinctual brain operates according to what I call the “X Framework.” Under stress, humans also hang on to the familiar.

How To Live The Life You Were Born To Live The world is constantly changing. There can be no doubt. So why do so many of us try to hold on to what was or will never be? We live our lives based on a thought, a dream, an idea we once had for what we thought we wanted, then we spend so much time wondering "what if" that we fail to look at "what is." When you learn to let go, you free yourself from the trap, you empower yourself with the ability to move your life in the direction you want it to go. Learn to break free of that old programming you have and you free yourself to create the life you were born to live. The key is to not wait until you're at the breaking point. Here are 5 ways to create massive shifts in your life through simple actions: 1. If you choose to stay around negative people who do not support your dreams, you'll become a negative person who stops believing in your dreams. 2. In time, you will outgrow some of the people and things that were once in your life. 3. 4. 5. Photo Credit:

30 Things To Do Before You Die 6 Ways To Slow Down The Speed Of Life We blink and a year has passed. We've all heard or found ourselves saying, "They grow up so fast," or "The years just flew by." Most bucket lists include things like, "Go on an adventure in a far-off land," "Learn a new language," or "Buy a dream car." What drives each of these desires is one common connector, an innate yearning to belong and to feel love. As I check off my own adventure list — skydiving, going swimming with wild dolphins, climbing Mayan Ruins in Belize — I find that with each activity I complete, I feel a sense of accomplishment, purpose and self-worth. Which led me to think about our human desire to make a difference and live life more fully. In the spirit of loving life to the fullest, I've revised my list of things to do before I die. 30 things to do before you die: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Photo Credit: