background preloader

The Secret is to Focus on the Change Process

The Secret is to Focus on the Change Process
I bet you have some harmful habits that you would love to change. What are some of the things you wish you didn’t do? We all have habits that limit us, things we just can’t help doing and we swear we will never do again. Nobody is perfect and everybody has limiting habits—some more than others—but we generally notice our harmful habits once they are already limiting us in some way and we find ourselves saying things like “I wish I could just be more…” or “I wish I didn’t always do that”, and then we simply move onto the next thought, and it is forgotten. Have you considered how much of an influence your habits have on your life right now? Half your day consists of habits, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep. Over the years, you have likely picked up and developed many different habits, some good and some bad, and your habits lead to the results you have in your life right now. Let’s focus on habits that are the most difficult to change, like quitting cigarettes. 1.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/the-secret-changing-habits-successfully.html

Related:  Monitor Habit Formation Progress DailyCorrigendaHabit

What It Takes To Form A Good Habit I think "accountability buddy" really misses the point. There is satisfaction and joy in accomplishing the task, but that's where accountability buddy is a misnomer. All habits of any sort will trip, falter, fail, etc. It's all about getting back in the game. People who falter in quitting smoking, depression, learning a new skill, taking up exercise or learning a new habit need a buddy who they enjoy doing it with and will help them get back in the game.

How to Focus A Wandering Mind, by Wendy Hasenkamp New research reveals what happens in a wandering mind—and sheds light on the cognitive and emotional benefits of increased focus. We’ve all been there. You’re slouched in a meeting or a classroom, supposedly paying attention, but your mind has long since wandered off, churning out lists of all the things you need to do—or that you could be doing if only you weren’t stuck here… Suddenly you realize everyone is looking your way expectantly, waiting for an answer. But you’re staring blankly, grasping at straws to make a semi-coherent response. The curse of the wandering mind!

The Key To Lasting Behavioural Change: Think Goal, Not Tactic Even the most motivated people can get stuck, frustrated, and lose hope during the process of behavioural change. Why can’t you force yourself to go to the gym before work? Or get high-priority tasks done before checking email? We become so fixated on specific tactics that we lose sight of the fact that many methods could lead to achieving their larger strategic goals. Illustration by Andrey Makurin (Shutterstock) This post originally appeared on the Harvard Business Review. The Best Way to Change Your Habits? Control Your Environment There’s just one way to radically change your behavior: radically change your environment.—Dr. B.J. Fogg, Director of Stanford Persuasive Lab Most of us would like to think that our habits follow our intentions. The truth is that one of the mind’s chief functions is to spot and utilize patterns as shortcuts, in order to process the multitude of information we observe each day.

How the 'Seinfeld Strategy' Can Help You Stop Procrastinating Reader Resource Join Entrepreneur's The Goal Standard Challenge and make 2017 yours. Learn more » Jerry Seinfeld is one of the most successful comedians of all-time. He is regarded as one of the "Top 100 Comedians of All-Time" by Comedy Central. He was also the co-creator and co-writer of Seinfeld, the long-running sitcom which has received numerous awards and was claimed to have the "Top TV Episode of All-Time" as rated by TV Guide. How To Be Efficient: Dan Ariely's 6 New Secrets To Managing Your Time It’s hard to be efficient. Sometimes it feels like the world doesn’t make any sense. Sometimes you don’t make any sense. And sometimes it feels like it’s all a conspiracy. As we’ll see shortly, these are all, in a way, true.

Psychology’s Common-Sense Guide to Exercise With the wide range of sources providing you with exercise advice, it’s hard to know whose guidelines to follow. Exercise 20 minutes at a time? How about 4 minutes? How Habits Shape Your Health, Happiness, and Wealth In 1936, a man named Kurt Lewin wrote a simple equation that changed the way we think about habits and human behavior. The equation makes the following statement: Behavior is a function of the Person in their Environment. [1] Known today as Lewin’s Equation, this tiny expression contains most of what you need to know about building good habits, breaking bad ones, and making progress in your life. How to Stick With Good Habits Every Day by Using the "Paper Clip Strategy" In 1993, a bank in Abbotsford, Canada hired a 23-year-old stock broker named Trent Dyrsmid. Dyrsmid was a rookie so nobody at the firm expected too much of his performance. Moreover, Abbotsford was still a relatively small suburb back then, tucked away in the shadow of nearby Vancouver where most of the big business deals were being made. The first popular email services like AOL and Hotmail wouldn’t arrive for another two or three years.

5 Habits of People With Remarkable Willpower Willpower is not something you either have or you don't. Sure, some people may be more self-disciplined than you. Some people may be better at resisting temptation than you. But that's probably not because they were born with some certain special something inside them--instead, they've found ways to store up their willpower and use it when it really matters. They have remarkable willpower not because they have more of it, but because they've learned how to best use what they have. 4 Ways to Deal With Selfish People An acquaintance recently told me that she wished her grown children recognized how hard she had worked for them. “They’re so selfish,” she said. “They’re greedy and self-centered.” By contrast, she made it clear that she had been a selfless and generous mother. “Everything I did was for them,” she said.

How to Stick With Good Habits Even When Your Willpower is Gone Most people think that building better habits or changing your actions is all about willpower or motivation. But the more I learn, the more I believe that the number one driver of better habits and behavior change is your environment. Let me drop some science into this article and show you what I mean… Willpower vs. Environment

Stop Procrastinating by "Clearing to Neutral" By Thanh Pham We often procrastinate because there is this one hidden thing holding us back. It is this one thing that makes you procrastinate and most people are not even aware what this is, but if you eliminate it you can say goodbye to procrastination forever. Friction

Related: