13 ingredientes necesarios para cocinar una relación perfecta - Blog Phronesis Si supiésemos cuál es la clave para tener un matrimonio perfecto, nos iría mucho mejor, ¿verdad? Sin embargo, las tasas de divorcios parecen aumentar continuamente y la convivencia en pareja tiene que afrontar cada vez más dificultades que no existían en momentos pasados, como una mayor incertidumbre laboral o una creciente incapacidad para conciliar la vida personal con la laboral. Por ello no es de extrañar que se haya disparado el número de psicólogos dedicados a la terapia matrimonial. Una de ellas es la doctora y profesora de la Universidad de Pensilvania Judith Coche, que en sus publicaciones ha intentado identificar cuáles son las cualidades que definen a las parejas que mejor funcionan. La autora ha desarrollado el modelo “Psicoterapia de Pareja en Grupo” que posteriormente ha aplicado Laurie Abraham en el superventas The Husbands and Wives Club, un ensayo sobre la terapia matrimonial. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. Fuente: El confidencial
10 tips for better slide decks Aaron created this slide deck for a recent presentation on how TED’s tech team avoids problems by preparing well for all the possible pitfalls. He picked this stunning image—of a container ship about to tip—to begin it. View the whole slidedeck from this presentation. Aaron Weyenberg is the master of slide decks. We asked Aaron to bottle his Keynote mojo so that others could benefit from it. The big picture… Think about your slides last. And now some tactical tips… Go easy on the effects and transitions. Lastly, I’d love to leave you with a couple book recommendations. Happy slide-making.
The Science of Heartache: 6 Things You Need to Know Jose AS Reyes/Shutterstock Just as the digital age has ushered in new ways of enhancing human connection, it’s also opened up the scope and range of social rejection. Unfriend—as in, un-Facebook friend—was the word of the year in 2009, joining its older cohort “cyberbully,” amid the advent of the text breakup or the Facebook status change as ways to tell him or her that it’s over. With the yin and yang of digital life in mind, it seems relevant to explore what science knows about emotional pain and its connection to the physical kind. Language has always mirrored the connection between the two; we suffer from "broken hearts" as well as bones, and speak of "bruised feelings" along with toes. The links go well beyond the metaphorical. 1. 2. While both physical and emotional pain both “hurt,” they seem, on the surface at least, to do so in different ways, right? For example, Naomi L. 3. We all know this, despite the adage. 4. 5. 6. The results of a second experiment were less clear.
What Porn Does to Intimacy The rapid proliferation of pornography is one of the digital age’s legacies; some 40 million people in the United States visit porn websites regularly, many of them emerging or young adults. Popular media have capitalized on cautionary tales about porn addiction and stories of boyfriends objectifying their girlfriends and wanting them to behave like porn stars. But studies confirm that the preponderance of young men—and slightly less than half of women—thinks that watching sexually explicit material is okay. wavebreakmedia/Shutterstock That’s what Spencer B. Men and women tend to disagree on two issues: How porn is watched (alone, in groups, with a sexual partner); and how often it is watched. The Olmstead study found that women’s concerns had more to do with whether consumption of porn was limited than whom it was watched with. Is watching pornography really as benign as people think? 1. 2. Does that sound healthy? The third study only tested participants who had consumed porn. 3.
7 Questions That Can Strengthen Your Relationship bikeriderlondon/Shutterstock One of the biggest mistakes we can make in a relationship is not asking enough of the right questions. By asking the right questions, you can discover what your partner needs and wants from you and your time together. Here are a few to try: “What can I help you with right now?” When we get caught up in daily activities, even couples with excellent communication skills can forget to ask a partner what he or she needs or wants.
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10 Habits of Happy Couples What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage , here are the 10 habits of happy couples. Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging. If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). </b>*}
Why the Way You Fight Can Threaten Your Relationship If there’s one thing couples researchers have pounded into our heads in the last few years, it’s that it’s better to fight than to disengage. CandyBox Images/Shutterstock John Gottman is most famous for his claim that he can predict divorce with 94 percent accuracy after only a few minutes of exposure to a couple (Buehlman, Gottman & Katz, 1992). He’s much more hopeful about engaged fighting than disengaged fighting. Disengaged fighting looks like this: We have a conflict, you say something that hurts me, and I don’t talk to you for the rest of the day. There are a lot of explanations for why being the object of this type of withdrawal is particularly damaging. The silent treatment is akin to the “demand-withdraw” pattern many researchers have identified, in which one partner nags or confronts, and the other pulls away. Couples therapists know this. And they tend to see disengagement as the most difficult problem to treat (Whisman, Dixon, & Johnson, 1997). References Gottman, J.
The New Rules of Relationships Human beings crave intimacy, need to love and be loved, and function best when they are. Yet people have much trouble maintaining relationships. It's clear from the many letters I get to my advice column that lots of folks, men and women, have no idea what a healthy relationship even looks like. Because I write about these things, and care about the environments children grow in, I feel obligated to say something. From many sources and many experts over the years, I have culled some basic rules of relationships. • Choose a partner wisely and well. • Know your partner's beliefs about relationships. • Don't confuse sex with love. • Know your needs and speak up for them clearly. • Respect, respect, respect. • View yourselves as a team, which means you are two unique individuals bringing different perspectives and strengths. • Know how to manage differences; it's the key to success in a relationship. • Solve problems as they arise. • Learn to negotiate. • Don’t take everything personally.
7 Things Healthy People Do Before Bed By Jessica Migala To sleep well, pick up these nighttime habits. They Snack -- Smarter Photography by ZhangXun via Getty Images If you’re going to have a bedtime snack, make it a kiwi. Eating two of these fruits one hour before bed for a month helped adults fall asleep 35 percent faster and sleep 13 percent longer, found a 2011 study from Taiwanese researchers. It might be the high concentration of antioxidant vitamins C and E, which help regulate neurotransmitters in the brain (linked to healthy sleep cycles), or the fruit’s rich amount of another sleep-promoting neurotransmitter, serotonin. They Skip the Feather Pillow Wavebreakmedia Ltd via Getty Images If pillows are so important for a restful slumber, why are so many of us sleeping on the wrong kinds?
I Love You But Don't Call Me, OK? I don’t have a definitive answer as to whether introverts and extroverts make perfect, complementary couples or are destined to drive each other crazy. The bottom line is, like everything else, it depends on the people. And like everything else, if both parties respect and compromise, everything’s cool. No matter how much common ground they have otherwise, introverts and extroverts have different needs, and they do things differently. My husband is only slightly less introverted than I, and even so we have had to negotiate a few things. General guidelines for socializing. I'd love to hear from introvert-extrovert couples about your talking points. Hooray, hooray, my book is out! 16 Ways to Fall in Love All Over Again » Marriage365 You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling…oh that lovin’ feeling, oh that lovin’ feeling, now its gone, gone, gone…. A familiar song to many of us who have at one point or another feel like we’ve lost all of our romance that we once had. Remember how sweet and passionate things were when you were dating. I’m sure they include a lot of handholding, kissing, cuddling, date nights, surprises, gifts and dreaming together. So fast forward to your wedding day, and then to your honeymoon, and now years of being married, with kids, the bills, the laundry, the meetings at work and so many responsibilities and somewhere the feeling of being in love is rarely present in your relationship. *Plan your next date night and stick to it *60 second blessing *Flirt with each other often *Make out * Be affectionate both physically and verbally *Start a new hobby together *Share your high and low each day *Go to bed together every night *Take a walk hand in hand *Write loves notes and text messages *Dream together
5 Signs Your Relationship Is Going To Last Is your relationship in trouble? Having worked with thousands of couples during the last 46 years, I've seen over and over what creates relationship success or failure. Here are some choices that can make a huge difference: 1. The major issue in relationships is whether you take responsibility for your feelings of worth, safety, lovability and happiness, or whether you make your partner responsible for these feelings. If you believe that your partner is responsible for making you happy, safe and worthy, what do you do when he or she doesn't do what you want? Do you: Get angry, attack and blame, withdraw or find other ways to punish your partner? Does any of this help your relationship? The major way you can begin to heal your relationship is to learn how to love yourself — how to take loving care of your own feelings. 2. Do you treat yourself with kindness? Be honest with yourself: how often are you kind and caring, and how often are you judgmental toward yourself or your partner? 3. 4. 5.