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Revenge of the Introvert

Revenge of the Introvert
After ten years as a psychologist practicing psychodynamic psychotherapy , I reclined on the couch of my own analyst feeling burdened by my chosen work. After a day of seeing patients, I was drained. I had been trained to listen at many levels—words, emotions, unconscious disclosures—and I took all of that in and sorted it out in my mind. I was good at helping others discover and pursue what they wanted out of life. But at day's end I had no resources left to do it for myself. Then I heard myself say: "I don't like being a therapist." Suddenly I felt free, loosed from expectations that never fit. As a card-carrying introvert , I am one of the many people whose personality confers on them a preference for the inner world of their own mind rather than the outer world of sociability. Over the past two decades, scientists have whittled down to five those clusters of cognitions, emotions, motivations, and behaviors that we mean by "personality" factors. Introversion in Action

Best Bodyweight Exercises for Weight Loss | Get Fit and Lose Weight | MotleyHealth® Bodyweight exercises are a great way to help you lose weight. They also help to burn belly fat fast. They combine a cardiovascular workout with a muscle building workout, so burn fat while you are exercising out and also increase your metabolism as a result of muscle development. Bodyweight exercises are considered to be very “old school”, they are still promoted in martial arts classes, military fitness training and strength training for dance, sports and many other activities. Circuit training exercises are often part of a weight loss and fitness plan. One of the best things about a bodyweight workout is that you can perform most of the exercises with no equipment at all, so whether you are at home, in a hotel room, in the park or office, you can exercise when you want. The Bodyweight Exercise Routine This simple routine will work your whole body. When performing a bodyweight circuit you should exercise with intensity to maximise fat burning. The Bodyweight Circuit Exercise Instuctions

Highly Sensitive People Emotional Problems - Are You Too Sensitive Photo Credit: George Doyle/Stockbyte Many years ago I had a falling-out with a girlfriend that proved so painful, I can hardly talk about it today. My friend (let's call her Mary) was a colorful television personality and had the world at her feet. Mary never spoke to me again. Though I didn't know it then, I too am an HSP, and have since learned to identify a range of HSP behaviors and responses, both in myself and in others. HSPs are hardwired differently than the rest of the population. Once upon a time, HSPs might have been written off as shy or even neurotic, but Aron believes these labels are demeaning and inaccurate. I should confess that when I first heard about HSP, it reminded me of the first time I learned about ODD (oppositional defiance disorder), which I felt was just another way of saying "bratty child." But I kept reading, and the more I read, the more I began to think that the HSP label explained a lot — about me, about my siblings, and about many of my friends.

Oktoberfest: Try these five delicious styles of German beer. - By Mark Garrison Oktoberfest began on Saturday, Sept. 17, which means tourist hordes have begun staggering through Munich hoisting 9-euro beers to wash down pretzels the size of infants, weisswurst, and a menagerie of roasted meats. They'll be served by locals diligently playing along in dirndls and lederhosen. Elsewhere in the world, bartenders will try to cash in by offering up Oktoberfest-themed food and beer, or poor facsimiles of the like. Oktoberfest is a bad thing for good beer. Don't get me wrong, there will be some world-class beer served in the overstuffed Oktoberfest tents (though most of the tipsy tourists will be too wasted to notice). You can see this pernicious misimpression at work in German-themed bars around the world. Many Germans proudly declare that they have never been and will never go to Oktoberfest. Below are five great German beers to get you started. Altbier is the home style of Duesseldorf, in Germany's Rhineland region. Aecht Schlenkerla's Rauchbier Maerzen

10 Websites To Help You Kick Your Smoking Addiction (and Improve Your Health) Not surprising, when you consider that’s the stumbling block for many an addiction”¦ smoking included. The benefits of quitting smoking are too many ““ from increasing your energy to lessening your medical bills. And of course, making life just a bit easier for the passive smokers. Perhaps I am compiling this list of the 10 websites that can help someone kick the smoking habit in vain. The defenses of an addicted smoker are unassailable if not insurmountable. Still, let me try to blow a bit of the smoke away. QuitNet QuitNet says it’s one of the largest communities of smokers and ex-smokers with more than 60,000 members from across the globe. Smokefree U.S residents can use the free anti-smoking aids like the online step-by-step cessation guide or the telephone hotlines and the LiveHelp chat service (courtesy National Cancer Institute). Stop Smoking Center The site says that you have four times the chance of quitting compared to going at it alone. Quit Smoking Counter WeQuit FixNixer

Focus on Brain Disorders - Bipolar Disorder - Introduction Bipolar disorder is a type of mood disorder. Mood disorders are broadly divided into unipolar disorder and bipolar disorder. Read more about the difference between bipolar and unipolar disorder. Read more about mood disorders. Bipolar disorder (previously termed 'manic-depressive illness') is a relatively common and chronic psychiatric condition in which patients experience episodes of mania and depression, usually with intervening periods of relative mood stability. Bipolar disorder is associated with cognitive and behavioural difficulties and in severe cases psychosis can present in both the manic and depressive states. Often beginning in adolescence or early adulthood, bipolar disorder has a profound negative effect on interpersonal, social, family and vocational outcomes and is a risk factor for substance abuse and suicide (Cassidy et al, 2001; Jamison, 2000; Maj et al, 2002).

The Neverending Nightmare of Amanda Knox | Rolling Stone Culture Her killer did a bad job. It was amateur work: There were bloody fingerprints and footprints all over the apartment, and the killer even defecated in the toilet and forgot to flush. But that wasn't the worst of it. Whoever murdered Meredith Kercher didn't know how to use a knife. The first two wounds weren't deep enough to do fatal damage, the knife catching on bone. After the stabbing, the killer's behavior was peculiar, displaying an attitude rarely evident in a crime scene: remorse. Photo Gallery: Americans (In Trouble) Abroad When an attractive young woman from a privileged British family is murdered in Italy, you've got a popular crime story. One might expect that the lead role in this blockbuster would be assigned to the victim, a placid, pretty girl from London named Meredith Kercher. And yet, less than a day after her murder, Meredith Kercher was all but forgotten. Inside 'The Order,' One Mormon Cult's Secret Empire Knox told him that she was working that evening at Le Chic.

What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Weaker Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher, famously said: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." This notion found life beyond Nietzsche's--which is ironic, his having been rather short and miserable--and it continues to resonate within American culture. One reason is that suffering, as Freud famously recognized, is an inevitable part of life. Thus we have developed many ways to try to ease it--one of which is bestowing upon it transformative powers (another is by believing in an afterlife, of which Freud disapproved; still another is cocaine , of which he was, for a time, a fan). Another reason is that American culture, born of trauma and imbued with a hopeful can-do ethos, wants to believe this idea, finding it self-affirming. Another reason we think trauma may be transformative is that we see variants of this process around us. Now it is true that, in an evolutionary sense, those who survive a calamity are by definition the fittest. Do not thrive on adversity As do we.

How the Brain Stops Time One of the strangest side-effects of intense fear is time dilation, the apparent slowing-down of time. It's a common trope in movies and TV shows, like the memorable scene from The Matrix in which time slows down so dramatically that bullets fired at the hero seem to move at a walking pace. In real life, our perceptions aren't keyed up quite that dramatically, but survivors of life-and-death situations often report that things seem to take longer to happen, objects fall more slowly, and they're capable of complex thoughts in what would normally be the blink of an eye. Now a research team from Israel reports that not only does time slow down, but that it slows down more for some than for others. Anxious people, they found, experience greater time dilation in response to the same threat stimuli. An intriguing result, and one that raises a more fundamental question: how, exactly, does the brain carry out this remarkable feat? Was it scary enough to generate a sense of time dilation?

"You Can No Longer Think of Yourselves as Peace Officers": Militarizing "Lockdown High" It was Friday the 13th, and Skylar Walters thought he was going to die. The 16-year-old inmate of Orangeville Jr.-Sr. High in Illinois was in gym class when a deranged-looking man barged into the school and began firing what appeared to be a handgun at several of the other students. "I started praying to God and saying my last words," Skylar later recalled. As the intruder fired his gun, he called out the name of a particular student; the youngster quite sensibly fled the building. That last sadistic touch is what distinguished the May 13 "active shooter drill" in Orangeville from countless other performances of its kind staged in schools across the Soyuz by the Police State Play Actors' Guild. Last October 10, for example, a mob of "between 80 and 100 officials" from law enforcement agencies staged a little Garrison State melodrama in New York's William H. "Fire alarms sounded at 9:31 a.m., drawing closed doors. WKRG.com News "Freeze!" Alvarado was lying, of course.

40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain “If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes. There will never be a time when life is simple. Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Let go of Anger and Bitterness 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Let Go Of Past Relationships 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Let Go Of Stress 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Photo by Katie Romanova

Consciousness and Its Place in Nature - Philosophy When I learnt philosophy in the late '60s, I think it is fair to say that most philosophers were very much still under-labourers, in Locke's phrase, clearing away the nonsense that besets our thinking but not advancing many novel ideas of their own. Now, however, they explore realms of supposedly actual possible worlds, or even impossible ones; they contemplate the possibility that some contradictions are true; maybe some even count the number of angels on the end of a pin. This volume presents arguments for and against another bizarre, but strangely prevalent idea: panpsychism, the notion that the fundamental stuff of the universe is somehow conscious. Commonsensically, we think of consciousness or sentience as a matter of having a specific and very complex set of physiological structures. We can map the sensors that are responsible for our tastes, say, and we can discover that cats lack a sense of sweetness. But that is common sense. Or do they? References Nagel, T., 1979.

The Sound and the Fury and The Simpsons by Noel Holston | LikeTheDew.com The Simpsons’ landmark 500th episode is coming up Sunday, February 19, and I’ve been trying to justify writing about the animated comedy on a website devoted to Southern politics and culture. I would like to believe I have found two rationales. For starters, I would suggest that Homer Simpson, with his abiding fondness for beer, deep-fried everything and lassitude, is only a coon dog and a 12-gauge away from being prototypical of a certain sort of Southern man (and maybe not even a coon dog if you count Santa’s Little Helper). From left: Homer, Santa's Little Helper (dog), Marge, Lisa, Snowball II (cat), Maggie and Bart Simpson. © 20th Century Fox Film Corp. Second, I would argue that Springfield, the Simpson family’s fictional home town, located in coyly nonspecific “middle” America, is the closest that TV has ever come to a realm of characters and themes as diverse and rich as William Faulkner’s “apocryphal” Yoknapatawpha County, Mississippi. If not, well, so be it. South Park?

10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life - Stepcase Lifehack Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order. Read full content Dreams: Night School The Dream Robbers What happens when a rat stops dreaming ? In 2004, researchers at the University of Wisconsin at Madison decided to find out. Their method was simple, if a bit devilish. Step 1: Strand a rat in a tub of water. In this uncomfortable position, the rat is able to rest and eventually fall asleep. Step 2: After several mostly dreamless nights, the creature is subjected to a virtual decathlon of physical ordeals designed to test its survival behaviors. The dream-deprived rats flubbed each of the tasks. The surprise came during Step 3. What Dreams Are Made Of Dreaming is so basic to human existence, it's astonishing we don't understand it better. Later came the idea that dreams are the cognitive echoes of our efforts to work out conflicting emotions. "There's nothing closer to a consensus on the purpose and function of dreaming than there's ever been," says Deirdre Barrett, a Harvard psychologist and editor of the forthcoming . A Theater of Threats Dreams may do the same thing.

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