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Revenge of the Introvert

Revenge of the Introvert
After ten years as a psychologist practicing psychodynamic psychotherapy , I reclined on the couch of my own analyst feeling burdened by my chosen work. After a day of seeing patients, I was drained. I had been trained to listen at many levels—words, emotions, unconscious disclosures—and I took all of that in and sorted it out in my mind. I was good at helping others discover and pursue what they wanted out of life. But at day's end I had no resources left to do it for myself. Then I heard myself say: "I don't like being a therapist." Suddenly I felt free, loosed from expectations that never fit. As a card-carrying introvert , I am one of the many people whose personality confers on them a preference for the inner world of their own mind rather than the outer world of sociability. Over the past two decades, scientists have whittled down to five those clusters of cognitions, emotions, motivations, and behaviors that we mean by "personality" factors. Introversion in Action

Best Bodyweight Exercises for Weight Loss | Get Fit and Lose Weight | MotleyHealth® Bodyweight exercises are a great way to help you lose weight. They also help to burn belly fat fast. They combine a cardiovascular workout with a muscle building workout, so burn fat while you are exercising out and also increase your metabolism as a result of muscle development. Bodyweight exercises are considered to be very “old school”, they are still promoted in martial arts classes, military fitness training and strength training for dance, sports and many other activities. Circuit training exercises are often part of a weight loss and fitness plan. One of the best things about a bodyweight workout is that you can perform most of the exercises with no equipment at all, so whether you are at home, in a hotel room, in the park or office, you can exercise when you want. The Bodyweight Exercise Routine This simple routine will work your whole body. When performing a bodyweight circuit you should exercise with intensity to maximise fat burning. The Bodyweight Circuit Exercise Instuctions

Affirmations for Introverts I'm all about self-affirmations this week. I covered affirmations for pessimists on another blog, now I'm thinking about affirmations for introverts . Self-affirmations, when spoken aloud, can sound kind of silly. OK, sometimes they sound a little silly even when you say them silently to yourself. But if we can permit ourselves a Stuart Smalley moment now and then, affirmations can come in handy to remind us of things we might already know but forget in moments of insecurity. I particularly like and often use the old standby "Different strokes for different folks." A few others, for various circumstances: Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean I have nothing to say. What works for you? Thanks for visiting! My book, The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World , is out and about, available for Kindle, Nook, and in the good ol' dead tree version.

Highly Sensitive People Emotional Problems - Are You Too Sensitive Photo Credit: George Doyle/Stockbyte Many years ago I had a falling-out with a girlfriend that proved so painful, I can hardly talk about it today. My friend (let's call her Mary) was a colorful television personality and had the world at her feet. Mary never spoke to me again. Though I didn't know it then, I too am an HSP, and have since learned to identify a range of HSP behaviors and responses, both in myself and in others. HSPs are hardwired differently than the rest of the population. Once upon a time, HSPs might have been written off as shy or even neurotic, but Aron believes these labels are demeaning and inaccurate. I should confess that when I first heard about HSP, it reminded me of the first time I learned about ODD (oppositional defiance disorder), which I felt was just another way of saying "bratty child." But I kept reading, and the more I read, the more I began to think that the HSP label explained a lot — about me, about my siblings, and about many of my friends.

10 Websites To Help You Kick Your Smoking Addiction (and Improve Your Health) Not surprising, when you consider that’s the stumbling block for many an addiction”¦ smoking included. The benefits of quitting smoking are too many ““ from increasing your energy to lessening your medical bills. And of course, making life just a bit easier for the passive smokers. Perhaps I am compiling this list of the 10 websites that can help someone kick the smoking habit in vain. The defenses of an addicted smoker are unassailable if not insurmountable. Still, let me try to blow a bit of the smoke away. QuitNet QuitNet says it’s one of the largest communities of smokers and ex-smokers with more than 60,000 members from across the globe. Smokefree U.S residents can use the free anti-smoking aids like the online step-by-step cessation guide or the telephone hotlines and the LiveHelp chat service (courtesy National Cancer Institute). Stop Smoking Center The site says that you have four times the chance of quitting compared to going at it alone. Quit Smoking Counter WeQuit FixNixer

The Introverted Paradox The Introverted Paradox by I/O Myers-Briggs and Socionics are both right; the former identifies what we see in the personality of others while the latter identifies more what people see sometimes in themselves. Socionics classifies the true order of dominant functions while Myers-Briggs classifies the order of dominant observed functions. . Secondary functions are forced to a dominant role when actively dealing with the external world; an introverted psyche learns this need very early in life, and the engagement of secondary functions becomes automatic. , this switch is unnecessary because the needed functions are already engaged. When isolated in their own world, the dominant introverted functions can take their rightful position. is operating as an IXXp, and IXXp and EXXj can attract. Myers-Briggs should take a page from Socionics about relationship determination, but Socionics needs to learn from Myers-Briggs as to how people appear in public and deal with the external world.

Focus on Brain Disorders - Bipolar Disorder - Introduction Bipolar disorder is a type of mood disorder. Mood disorders are broadly divided into unipolar disorder and bipolar disorder. Read more about the difference between bipolar and unipolar disorder. Read more about mood disorders. Bipolar disorder (previously termed 'manic-depressive illness') is a relatively common and chronic psychiatric condition in which patients experience episodes of mania and depression, usually with intervening periods of relative mood stability. Bipolar disorder is associated with cognitive and behavioural difficulties and in severe cases psychosis can present in both the manic and depressive states. Often beginning in adolescence or early adulthood, bipolar disorder has a profound negative effect on interpersonal, social, family and vocational outcomes and is a risk factor for substance abuse and suicide (Cassidy et al, 2001; Jamison, 2000; Maj et al, 2002).

What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Weaker Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher, famously said: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." This notion found life beyond Nietzsche's--which is ironic, his having been rather short and miserable--and it continues to resonate within American culture. One reason is that suffering, as Freud famously recognized, is an inevitable part of life. Thus we have developed many ways to try to ease it--one of which is bestowing upon it transformative powers (another is by believing in an afterlife, of which Freud disapproved; still another is cocaine , of which he was, for a time, a fan). Another reason is that American culture, born of trauma and imbued with a hopeful can-do ethos, wants to believe this idea, finding it self-affirming. Another reason we think trauma may be transformative is that we see variants of this process around us. Now it is true that, in an evolutionary sense, those who survive a calamity are by definition the fittest. Do not thrive on adversity As do we.

The 16 Type Patterns *Adapted from Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi, Understanding Yourself and Others: An Introduction to the Personality Type Code (Used with permission) There are 16 Personality Types. Each "Type" represents a unique predictable pattern of how the eight processes (functions) are used in everyday life. The Roles of the Processes In each of the sixteen types, each of the eight processes plays a different "role" in the personality. The type code lets you know what role each process plays for each type. It is also referred to as the "hierarchy of functions": Dominant, Auxiliary, Tertiary, and Inferior. The roles are explained below to help you better understand the patterns. In truth, we have access to all eight cognitive processes—the other six are often in the background, playing other kinds of roles. The Primary Processes The primary processes are those used in the first four roles. Each process tends to emerge and develop at different times in our lives. The Leading Role (Dominant) The Pattern

How the Brain Stops Time One of the strangest side-effects of intense fear is time dilation, the apparent slowing-down of time. It's a common trope in movies and TV shows, like the memorable scene from The Matrix in which time slows down so dramatically that bullets fired at the hero seem to move at a walking pace. In real life, our perceptions aren't keyed up quite that dramatically, but survivors of life-and-death situations often report that things seem to take longer to happen, objects fall more slowly, and they're capable of complex thoughts in what would normally be the blink of an eye. Now a research team from Israel reports that not only does time slow down, but that it slows down more for some than for others. Anxious people, they found, experience greater time dilation in response to the same threat stimuli. An intriguing result, and one that raises a more fundamental question: how, exactly, does the brain carry out this remarkable feat? Was it scary enough to generate a sense of time dilation?

40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain “If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes. There will never be a time when life is simple. Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Let go of Anger and Bitterness 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. Let Go Of Past Relationships 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27. 28. 29. 30. Let Go Of Stress 31. 32. 33. 34. 35. 36. 37. 38. 39. 40. It’s a long list, but there’s much left to be said! Photo by Katie Romanova

Hierarchy of conditions for perfect m... - INFP personalities - page 59 of DSM-IV-TR Diagnositic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders The most common associated feature of Expressive Language Disorder in younger children is Phonological Disorder. There may also be a disturbance in fluency and language formulation involving an abnormally rapid rate and erratic rhythm of speech and disturbances in language structure (cluttering). CLUTTERING UPDATED Our research has advanced the following working definition: "Cluttering is a syndrome characterized by a speech delivery rate which is either abnormally fast, irregular, or both. This definition expands previous definitions that focused only on two components: an excessively rapid and/or irregular speaking rate, and disfluencies that are frequent but are not judged to be stuttering. Another vexing issue is the extent to which language planning and pragmatic problems are implicated in the diagnosis of cluttering. Very emotional

Consciousness and Its Place in Nature - Philosophy When I learnt philosophy in the late '60s, I think it is fair to say that most philosophers were very much still under-labourers, in Locke's phrase, clearing away the nonsense that besets our thinking but not advancing many novel ideas of their own. Now, however, they explore realms of supposedly actual possible worlds, or even impossible ones; they contemplate the possibility that some contradictions are true; maybe some even count the number of angels on the end of a pin. This volume presents arguments for and against another bizarre, but strangely prevalent idea: panpsychism, the notion that the fundamental stuff of the universe is somehow conscious. Commonsensically, we think of consciousness or sentience as a matter of having a specific and very complex set of physiological structures. We can map the sensors that are responsible for our tastes, say, and we can discover that cats lack a sense of sweetness. But that is common sense. Or do they? References Nagel, T., 1979.

10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life - Stepcase Lifehack Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. Adrian Savage is a writer, an Englishman, and a retired business executive, in that order. Read full content Self-defeating personality disorder Self-defeating personality disorder (also known as masochistic personality disorder) is a proposed personality disorder. It was discussed in an appendix of the manual's revised third edition (DSM-III-R) in 1987, but was never formally admitted into the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). As an alternative, the diagnosis personality disorder not otherwise specified may be used instead. Some researchers and theorists continue to use its criteria. Diagnosis[edit] Definition proposed in DSM III-R for further review[edit] Self-defeating personality disorder is: A) A pervasive pattern of self-defeating behavior, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts. B) The behaviors in A do not occur exclusively in response to, or in anticipation of, being physically, sexually, or psychologically abused. C) The behaviors in A do not occur only when the person is depressed. Exclusion from DSM-IV[edit] Millon's subtypes[edit] See also[edit] References[edit]