10 Psychology Tricks You Can Use To Influence People Before we get started, it’s important to note that none of these methods fall under what we would term the dark arts of influencing people. Anything that might be harmful to someone in any way, especially to their self esteem, is not included here. These are ways to win friends and influence people using psychology without being a jerk or making someone feel bad. Trick: Get someone to do a favor for you—also known as the Benjamin Franklin effect. Legend has it that Benjamin Franklin once wanted to win over a man who didn’t like him. He asked the man to lend him a rare book and when the book was received he thanked him graciously. Scientists decided to test this theory and found that those who were asked by the researcher for a personal favor rated the researcher much more favorably than the other groups did. Trick: Ask for way more than you want at first then scale it back later. This trick is sometimes known as the door in the face approach. Trick: Mirror their behavior.
60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.
Reading her body language: Is she interested - Syncrat Publishing When it comes to body language, it does not matter whether she is interested in you. You will attract her attention if you do not play it too needy. If you look out for these signs, you will be able to tell if you are making progress. It also makes for interesting watching whena guy is trying so hard, but the lady is showing no signs of interest. Her lips: Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face. Her eyes: She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated. Her hair: She pushes her fingers through her hair. Her clothing: If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect. While she is seated: She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you. Her hands: She exposes the palms of her hand facing you. Her voice She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours. Miscellaneous: She mirrors your body language and body positions. Can you keep conversation going with her?
101 Ways To Live Your Life To The Fullest “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. How do you feel about your life today? If your answer to any of the above is a no, maybe or not sure, that means you’re not living your life to the fullest. This is a list of 101 timeless principles I use to live my best life, and I hope they’ll help you to do so too. Here are 101 ways to live your life to the fullest:
How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes How do you discover your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist. Perhaps you’re a rather nihilistic person who doesn’t believe you have a purpose and that life has no meaning. Doesn’t matter. Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it, just as a lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping. Here’s a story about Bruce Lee which sets the stage for this little exercise. If you want to discover your true purpose in life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught (including the idea that you may have no purpose at all). So how to discover your purpose in life? Here’s what to do: Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type (I prefer the latter because it’s faster).Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?” That’s it.
Science Clarified 25 Things To Do To Become A Well Liked Person Human nature means we long to be accepted and liked by everyone we meet. We always look for reasons why someone likes us or doesn’t like us. In recent years, maybe you’ve started to lose and forget some of the key reasons why someone might like you. Now, you shouldn’t think of life as a popularity contest. Here are 25 things to do to become a well liked person: Be generous with the words ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ – We may forget or simply don’t feel the need to use these words; however, they can be the catalyst that changes the interaction instantly.Hold doors open for everyone and anyone if the situation permits.Be plentiful with favors; however, never expect anything in return for helping out.Help, guide and advise whenever you can. These questions may change your life, read them: 31 Questions That Will Change Your Life Featured photo credit: Baby girl kissing baby boy via Shutterstock
How To Figure Out What You Want In Life It’s so much easier to know what we don’t want in life. Society has trained us pretty well to think this way. We protest against war, against hunger, against murders, etc... Not surprisingly, we forget to fight for what we want. Maybe you're in a career that you wanted five or 10 years ago but it’s not making you happy anymore. Or maybe you attempted different career paths, but didn't find much success. Or you're in the middle of grad school and feeling that this is not what you want. Why did all of this happen to you? You're simply ignoring your inner guide! You’ve been too focused on chasing a specific outcome (such as money or title) that is not aligned with your unique strengths, values and passion. The same concept is applied in every single area of life, such as spirituality, career, relationships, wealth, and so on. But when you pause every now and then to check-in with your inner guide, everything will fall into its natural place. It’s not easy to find time for yourself, I know. 1.
Ways Adults With Asperger's Syndrome Can Improve Their Social Skills I've read quite a bit about Asperger's Syndrome, in books and academic articles, but also through a ton of forum posts by people who have it. Below is my synthesis of what seems to help them improve their social skills the most. I'll just be talking about very general ideas. I'm not going to reveal some earth-shattering secret to improvement that everyone else seemed to miss or anything. People with Asperger's Syndrome (AS) can definitely make progress their social skills. Figure out where you stand when it comes to your social goals and values I've read at least two dozen research journal articles that lay out the curricula for therapeutic various social skills training groups, and this never seems to come up. People with Asperger's Syndrome often have extremely mixed feelings about the idea of improving their social skills. Someone else may decide that some aspects of socializing rub them the wrong way, but they're willing to be pragmatic and play along to get what they want.
3 Tips for Controlling the Subconscious Mind and Taking Control of Your Life Controlling the Subconscious Mind Through the Power of Substitution This is a method of stopping discordant, weed-like thought seeds and replacing them with more suitable, positive and energetic thoughts that will sprout into whatever bountiful form you give them. You may be in the habit of thinking negatively and therefore find it difficult to stop a weed thought and replace it with a good thought, but never fear for there is one excellent way to control the subconscious, and the thoughts it is fed. A mind that is filled with negative thoughts can just as easily become a mind that is filled with good thoughts, and this can be done by looking for the good in everyone and everything. Impress Just One Desire upon the Subconscious Mind at Any One Time for the Best Results When you desire a thing or a circumstance, the best way of informing your subconscious mind is by repetition of the thought. "Fear is a negative thought in your mind.
How to Stop Worrying: Self-Help for Anxiety Relief Why is it so hard to stop worrying? Constant worrying takes a heavy toll. It keeps you up at night and makes you tense and edgy during the day. For most chronic worriers, the anxious thoughts are fueled by the beliefs—both negative and positive—they hold about worrying. On the negative side, you may believe that your constant worrying is harmful, that it’s going to drive you crazy or affect your physical health. On the positive side, you may believe that your worrying helps you avoid bad things, prevents problems, prepares you for the worst, or leads to solutions. Negative beliefs, or worrying about worrying, add to your anxiety and keep worry going. Why you keep worrying You have mixed feelings about your worries. Maybe I'll find a solution. You have a hard time giving up on your worries because, in a sense, your worries have been working for you. Source: The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You by Robert L. Worry and anxiety self-help tip #1: Create a worry period
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