Praise versus Encouragement Most of us believe that we need to praise our children more. However, there is some controversy regarding this point. If we always reward a child with praise after a task is completed, then the child comes to expect it. However, if praise is not forthcoming, then its absence may be interpreted by the child as failure. One of the main differences between praise and encouragement is that praise often comes paired with a judgment or evaluation, such as "best" or "highest" in these examples. According to Bolton (1979, pg 181): Evaluative praise is the expression of favorable judgment about another person or his behaviors: "Eric, you are such a good boy." According to Ginott (1965): Evaluative praise.....creates anxiety, invites dependency, and evokes defensiveness. According to Taylor (1979): A real life experience, illustrating these principles, was provided by the well know cellist, Gregor Piatigorsky (1965). "Mr. "Bravo! "Splendid! Bewildered, I left the house. Sam: It's scary. Mr. Mr. Mr.
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Season for Nonviolence | AGNT 64 Ways to Practice Nonviolence Daily Affirmations • Quotations • Practices • Reflections The Season for Nonviolence's foundational program, 64 Ways in 64 Days offers many ways for individuals to practice nonviolence throughout the Season. Here you can find materials for teens, children, group activites, public service announcements, formatted booklets, and a mandala meditation tool. Sunday Service and Study Programs Programs and SNV web materials found here are free to everyone. More about the Dalai Lama's participation Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet, added his name to the Season for Non Violence in 2013. Ethics for the New Millenium Study Course Book Study • Key Concepts • Discussion Questions • Practice Exercises • 9 Weeks or Sessions Based on the revolutionary book by His Holiness, the Dalai Lama, this self-organizing group course adapted, from a study guide created by the Dalai Lama Foundation, is perfect for church or community groups of any size. Click to Download
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves | Naomi Aldort Sold in 13 languages worldwide The Ph.D. by the author's name in this book is an error. Naomi Aldort has no degree in psychology. Gold Award - Parenting Resources Winner Mom's Choice Award "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves operates on the radical premise that neither child nor parent must dominate. "...reading your book, It felt like I was 'remembering' something that deep down I knew all along but was clouded with years of being told differently. Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. After years of assisting hundreds of families to bring peace and joy into their lives, Naomi Aldort now offers in this book a way of parenting that allows the child’s natural competence and caring to unfold. "In this stunning insight into human nature, Naomi Aldort opens a window into harmonious family living. John Breeding, Ph.D.
The One Conversational Tool That Will Make You Better At Absolutely Everything Ask yourself: If you could interview like Walter Cronkite, would you get more value from your meetings? Would your mentors become more valuable? Would your chance encounters with executives in elevators and thought leaders in conferences yield action items and relationships? The answer is yes. “As someone who had little to no experience in business--outside of running my own one-man freelancing operation--all that's really saved me (so far) from madness are the skills I used as a journalist,” says Evan Ratliff, who wrote for magazines like The New Yorker before founding his startup, The Atavist. Good questions can move your business, organization, or career forward. The problem is, most of us ask terrible questions. But we don’t have to. The following advice can make you a much better interrogator, not to mention conversationalist: Don’t Ask Multiple-Choice Questions When people are nervous, they tend to ramble, and their questions tend to trail off into series of possible answers.
Opleidingsinstituut Geweldloze Communicatie Verbindend communiceren is de vertaling die Jan van Koert (de Nestor onder de gecertificeerde trainers) heeft gegeven aan het gedachtegoed Geweldloos Communiceren dat ontwikkeld werd door Marshall Rosenberg. Omdat Jan de focus wil leggen op verbinding in plaats van geweld. Een cursus in Verbindend Communiceren is als een cursus in wonderen. Zowel zakelijke als particuliere cursisten volgen bij ons opleidingen. Vine coaching en training biedt de volgende opleidingen aan: - De zes-daagse Basistraining, bestaande uit: - 2- dagen Introductie- 2- dagen Verdieping I- 2- dagen Verdieping II- Het Integratiejaar- Masterclass Traject- Train de GC trainer- Mediation opleiding (conflicthantering)- Interactieve thema trainingen Wat onze klanten onder andere over onze opleidingen Geweldloze Communicatie zeggen: “Enerverend, verrassend, leerzaam, confronterend, grandioos, een aanrader, nuttig, indringend, levensveranderend, bewustwording, meer resultaat dan gedacht”. Is je interesse gewekt?
Dogs Helping Kids - À propos Naomi Aldort - Parenting Advice, Attachment Parenting, Family Guidance HOW DOES NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION WORK? NVC offers many tools for connecting with others in ways that serve life. Nonviolent Communication can dramatically improve our relationships by helping us focus our attention on: Empathic understanding of others – without compromising our values, and Honest expression of our feelings and needs – without blame or judgment In NVC, we learn to hear difficult messages with compassion and to express ourselves authentically with the help of these four steps: OBSERVATION – what we observe that is affecting our well-being FEELINGS – how we are feeling in relation to what we are observing NEEDS – the values, dreams, and preferences connected to our feelings REQUEST – the concrete, presently doable actions we request in order to respond to our needs and enrich our lives These tools help create dialogue for resolutions that respect everyone. NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION helps -- We encourage you to learn more by reading Marshall’s book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion.
The Cleveland Nonviolence Network 3 Steps that Transform Sibling Conflict into Sibling Camaraderie None of these have been as effective, efficient, and satisfying to me (or to them!) as the method described below, a family-friendly adaptation of Dominic Barter's award winning Restorative Circles, which go by many different names around the world and are called Micro-Circles in our family. What I love about the micro-circle method is that: (a) it is fast and present-oriented - usually 6-10 minutes (b) it is empowering for those involved - By engaging participants in hearing each other and creating their own solutions, you decrease both the sense of helplessness (we don't know how to solve this) - and powerlessness (we don't have choice in how things are gonna go) - which often result from having a third party (even a well-meaning one) be judge and jury to one's conflict. (d) it is another way to live what I now believe to be the Most Important Thing to Know About Conflict Your tools for this phase are: "What do you want Listener to know?" "Is that it?" Refusal to Speak or Reflect Meaning
Empathic Listening The Benefits of Empathic Listening Empathic listening (also called active listening or reflective listening) is a way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding and trust. It is an essential skill for third parties and disputants alike, as it enables the listener to receive and accurately interpret the speaker's message, and then provide an appropriate response. The response is an integral part of the listening process and can be critical to the success of a negotiation or mediation. Among its benefits, empathic listening builds trust and respect, enables the disputants to release their emotions, reduces tensions, encourages the surfacing of information, and creates a safe environment that is conducive to collaborative problem solving. Though useful for everyone involved in a conflict, the ability and willingness to listen with empathy is often what sets the mediator apart from others involved in the conflict. "How was I different?" Be attentive.
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