Margaret Paul, Ph.D.: Self-Sabotaging in Work or Relationships? Why? Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that? One of the things that may help you understand your self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself. We all have a survival part that is programmed into us -- which I call our ego-wounded self. However, many of us have been programmed to go into the stress response when we fear getting emotionally hurt, as opposed to being threatened with physical harm. Why Do You Self-Sabotage? Below are some of the beliefs that might trigger your fears or your resistance to taking loving action in your own behalf: Relationships: I'm not lovable. For many people, the fear of rejection and the fear of engulfment keep them out of relationships. Work: Your fears are keeping you from taking loving action in your own behalf, but these fears are based on false beliefs, such as: How Do You Self-Sabotage?
The fine line in storytelling | Response Crafting Image credit: Global Patriot Story-telling is founded on the art of illustration and embellishment; it depends on colorful language and imagery. There is, however, a fine line between good story-telling and outright bullshitting. We should all strive to have something unique about our own story, so many of us find something and make it into a major theme in our personal history. Struggle or “rags to riches” works particularly well for things like this. (e.g., Stephen King and Jim Carrey both used to be janitors, J.K. Interesting beginnings make our story a little more worthy of retelling. One such example is this: every once in a great while, I hear from people that they “used to be homeless.” What do you mean by that, exactly? As in: “just how homeless? And this is not to discount homelessness – in fact, quite the opposite. And it is not necessarily to say that a few days or one month of homelessness is “less” homeless, or qualifies at a lower score on the homelessness scale. “Oh, wow….
Chrome Webshop - Pearltrees Extension 16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School I am 28 now. I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days. But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was. Because some of these 16 things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. But I still think that taking a few hours from all those German language classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier). 1. This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think. You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things. 2. You can do things quicker than you think. 3. 4. 5.
Quotes 100 Terrific Self-Learning Sites to Boost Your Resume During the Recession 100 Terrific Self-Learning Sites to Boost Your Resume During the Recession In this recession, job security is waning and the prospects for work are getting slimmer, so if you’re on the hunt for a job, it’s a good idea to boost your resume. Self-learning is a great way to enhance your knowledge and resume so that you’ll have a better chance of getting hired. Here you’ll find a variety of sites that offer self learning, including technology, art, and business, many at the university level. Universities Use the open educational resources from these universities to get a high quality education for free. General These sites offer learning in a wide array of topics. Sources of Information These websites are great places to research and pick up practical information. Technology Make sure your technology skills and knowledge are up to date with the help of these learning sites. Art Develop your artistic side using the resources from these self learning websites. Language & Literature Science Math Creativity
Life After College by Jenny Blake Written by Melissa Anzman Impatience is a virtue… said the overly ambitious employee with their eyes set on their next move. Ambition is a great characteristic to have, especially early on in your career. But while you are busy being ambitious, you tend to miss important lessons and skillsets around you. I know the narrowing of focus first-hand. I ignored the small things, the lessons, the connections, and the work. My ambition scared people. Only as I look back can I see how the approach I took wasn’t the best one, it wasn’t the most efficient one to move up. How to Stop Being Overly Ambitious and Still Move Up Create a Clear Map of What You Need to Learn in Each Role For every job you take or create, you need to go into it with a clear set of skills and knowledge that you want to learn from the position. Each job can teach you something – usually it’s a lot of somethings. Fully Understand Your Why I talk about “the why” a lot when it comes to your career – in general and in specifics.
Top 40 Useful Sites To Learn New Skills The web is a powerful resource that can easily help you learn new skills. You just have to know where to look. Sure, you can use Google, Yahoo, or Bing to search for sites where you can learn new skills , but I figured I’d save you some time. Here are the top 40 sites I have personally used over the last few years when I want to learn something new. Hack a Day - Hack a Day serves up fresh hacks (short tutorials) every day from around the web and one in-depth ‘How-To hack’ guide each week.eHow - eHow is an online community dedicated to providing visitors the ability to research, share, and discuss solutions and tips for completing day-to-day tasks and projects.Wired How-To Wiki - Collaborate with Wired editors and help them build their extensive library of projects, hacks, tricks and tips.
Creative Gibberish Divergent thinking – more than a mere tool – is a technique very commonly used on creative activities because it allows us to expand our brains a little bit, by looking for new opportunities and ways of getting things done. So, from the problem – or whatever triggers your creativity – to the solution, instead of taking obvious steps and walking on a straight line, you force yourself to see different aspects of the situation, using unusual points of view, no matter how abstract of absurd they seem at the first place. This can be done by allowing everyone to think more freely while working on the task, gathering ideas that have the slightest relation to the problem itself rather than looking straight for a practical solution. Though it might sound like a waste of time, many corporations have found appealing answers to their problems by using such method. Another misconception around the divergent thinking is that the creative process should be all about it.
20 Uncommon Lessons from My Weekend with Warren Buffett (career & life advice most don’t talk about “Take a job that you love. I think you are out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it will look good on your resume. Isn’t that a little like saving up sex for your old age?”- Warren Buffett [Tweet this Quote] The Power of Continued Education On Friday night I walked into the Omaha Marriott to check in for the weekend. The first person I said hello to was Bill Gates (yes that Bill Gates). He didn’t exactly respond to me by first name, but the brief exchange (and shot of adrenaline that came with it) reminded me of the potential of the weekend ahead. When in Omaha you never know what’s going to happen. The next day I spent over eight hours with Warren Buffett. What I learned blew my mind… As it always does. I wish it were just the two of us, but there were actually about 35,000 other passionate Buffett fanatics who joined me to learn from the most wealthy investor of the modern world. Here’s to learning (and relearning) what matters… 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.
The Divergent Thinker by Dr. Lovecky Divergent thinkers can be exceptionally creative. If the ability to think divergently is related to being creative, then all creative people are divergent thinkers, but not the other way around. It's the ability to direct the divergent ideas into something else that makes a person creative. Creativity is not just making something though. It can also be the process of enabling others to see one's vision of how things ought to be. People who are divergent thinkers are novel thinkers. Being a divergent thinker irritates and upsets other people who often feel the divergent one should sit down and shut up, and wonder why he or she can't just be like everyone else. People have trouble with divergent thinkers because the essence of divergent thinking is rebellion. It is particularly hard to be a divergent thinker when a child. Divergent thinking children have a number of particular learning problems that are rarely recognized. The divergent thinker is a unique self. Back to Top
The Easiest Indoor Plants That Won't Die On You Don't let anyone fool you — indoor gardening is just as fun as having an outdoor garden. In fact, indoor plants not only help clean the environment around them, but they act as a quick decorating tool. We found 15 hardy indoor house plants that anyone can keep alive and thriving. If you've got kids or pets, do note before you buy: some may be toxic. Check out expert tips on how to keep fresh cut flowers fresh. Pothos C.O.T/a.collectionRF/amana images/Getty Images Why you want it: First of all, this indoor plant has an air-purifying quality that can absorb and strip toxins like formaldehyde from materials in the home like carpet. How to care for it: This indoor house plant can produce stems that trail eight feet or longer, so just cut them back when they get too long and your plant will continue to look full and healthy. Aloe Jeremy Hopley/Dorling Kindersley/Getty Images How to care for it: Aloe likes room temperatures around 70 degrees and a lot of sunlight. Spider Plant English Ivy Jade Plant
Top 10 Natural, Eco-Friendly and Anti-Pollutant Houseplants | The New Ecologist – Get rid of indoor pollution in a natural way You must have spent practically thousands of dollars to buy the latest vacuum cleaner and the latest floor cleaners that help you keep your house clean. However, there comes a time when these machines fail to work leaving you to the unhealthy dust particles and other pollutants in your house. Rather than artificial machines, you must opt for natural pollution fighters that come in the form of plants. These plants are quiet unlike the noisy machines when you switch them off. Hence, to get rid of pollution in your house in a natural way, you must go through the top 10 houseplants that you can buy. 1.The Feston Rose plant ( photo by missouristate ) While looking for a houseplant, you generally prefer the one’s that need the lowest maintenance. This houseplant brilliantly tolerates highly saline conditions, lack of water, scorching heat and billowing winds. 2. ( photo by jayjayc ) 3.Phalaenopsis ( photo by mendelu ) 4. ( photo by eco-friendly-promos )