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6 Habits of Remarkably Likable People

6 Habits of Remarkably Likable People
When you meet someone, after, "What do you do?" you're out of things to say. You suck at small talk, and those first five minutes are tough because you're a little shy and a little insecure. But you want to make a good impression. You want people to genuinely like you. Here's how remarkably likeable people do it: They lose the power pose. I know: Your parents taught you to stand tall, square your shoulders, stride purposefully forward, drop your voice a couple of registers, and shake hands with a firm grip. It's great to display nonverbal self-confidence, but go too far and it seems like you're trying to establish your importance. No matter how big a deal you are you pale in comparison to say, oh, Nelson Mandela. Clinton takes a step forward (avoiding the "you must come to me" power move); Mandela steps forward with a smile and bends slightly forward as if, ever so slightly, to bow (a clear sign of deference and respect in nearly every culture); Clinton does the same. You meet someone.

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Talent Development Resources Caffeine can help enhance thinking and creativity for many people, but there are cautions about using such a potent stimulant. In an article, Maria Konnikova notes one artist who went way beyond a cup or two of caffeine to boost his creativity: writer Honoré de Balzac [1799–1850] “is said to have consumed the equivalent of fifty cups of coffee a day at his peak. He did not drink coffee, though—he pulverized coffee beans into a fine dust and ingested the dry powder on an empty stomach. 4 Smart Ways to Meet All Your Goals Entrepreneurs have no shortage of ideas and dreams, but can come up short in bringing them to fruition. I don’t think it’s laziness or lack of motivation--I believe that the missing pieces are focus and inspiration. If your ideas don’t inspire you, if the goal isn’t exciting enough, the discipline to consistently focus on them simply isn’t there. “At the end of each year people traditionally write their lists of goals and later wonder why they didn’t happen,” says internationally acclaimed author Les Hewitt. “Your goals must be well-balanced, realistic, and align with your values,” he says. When your goals aren’t well-rounded, and you focus only on work-related goals, you will neglect to take time to relax and enjoy life, which can lead to burnout and ill health.

Three Ways Women Can Negotiate Better on Behalf of Themselves - Women In The Workplace Imagine you’re sitting in an office about to meet with your boss or future employer regarding your salary. You think you deserve a raise, have reams of evidence to prove it, and the negotiations are about to begin. Now imagine you are in the same office, with the same person, negotiating for the same increase in salary, except this time you are doing it on behalf of someone else. Are you a woman? Did you just breathe a big sigh of relief?

Signs of High and Low EQ EQI Core Home | How to Develop Emotional Intelligence Signs of High and Low EQ Listed below are general characteristics of people with high and low EQ. It is important to note that by "EQ" we mean a person's level of emotional skill and emotional health - in other words, how well his innate level of emotional intelligence has been developed. There is an important distinction between a person's early potential for high EQ and their actual development of it. Why Face-To-Face Meetings Are Overrated You know the feeling. Everyone’s sitting around a table, ideas are building on ideas, and intellectual sparks are lighting up the room. It’s tempting to think that this kind of magic only happens when people can see and touch each other. Let’s assume for a second that that’s true: Breakthrough ideas only happen when people are interacting face-to-face.

The Happiness Habits Seven years ago as I was going through the MAPP at the University of East London, I had a distinct sense that there were two types of positive psychologists: the researchers and the practitioners. I was definitely in the latter camp. The ‘A’ in my degree title is important.

10 Phrases Great Speakers Never Say While it's really hard to immediately win over a crowd, it's really easy for a speaker to lose the room within the first few minutes of a presentation. To make sure you don't lose your audience, here's Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten, serial entrepreneur and founder of TwitterCounter and The Next Web, with ten things you should never say during your presentations: 1. "I'm jet-lagged/tired/hungover." Not sure where this comes from, but one in five presentations at any conference starts with an excuse: "They only invited me yesterday," or, "I'm really tired from my trip," or some other lame excuse the audience really doesn't want to hear.

The Agony and the Ecstasy of Never Canceling Plans - Personal Essay on Never Canceling Plans Last week, an ELLE colleague of mine, Justine Harman, wrote a smart, funny essay about being a perpetual PC, or “plan canceler,” meaning, in her words, she is forever committing to plans she knows she won’t keep. She chalks her flakiness up to a mixture of anxiety and laziness. And I certainly understand her plight, as well as champion her attempts to become a more reliable dinner date (seriously—we’ve had a standing plan to hike out to Franny’s in Brooklyn for NEARLY A YEAR).

Happiness as a choice for the clinically depressed? - clinicaldepression depression mentaillness I've been constantly told that key to being okay again is to "choose one's happiness" - both by strangers on the internet and the very closest people in my life. I've been diagnosed with mild-to-severe depression and anxiety for three years now (there is a bit more to that, though). Since most of the before-mentioned friends (etc) wanted me to stop taking antidepressants, I am without them for now. So, since everything I found by sending my queries to Google was meant for "normal people" who are "feeling a bit depressed", I would be grateful to know how these approaches apply to those with actual mental health issues, if they do at all. Sorry if I get a thing or two wrong here.

10 Ways You Should Never Describe Yourself Picture this: You meet someone new. "What do you do?" he asks. "I'm an architect," you say. "Oh, really?" he answers. Shedden Family Law Blog It probably hasnt escaped your notice, but Mindfulness is starting to become a bit of a “buzz” word these days. You can often read about it now in magazines and news articles, or hear about it on the radio. The practice of mindfulness is being introduced into all sorts of establishments such as prisons, schools and hospitals. Maybe you know of someone personally who practises mindfulness meditation or has participated on a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course? Maybe it is being introduced into your workplace?

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