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Most lives are lived by default

Most lives are lived by default
Jamie lives in a large city in the midwest. He’s a copywriter for an advertising firm, and he’s good at it. He’s also good at thinking of reasons why he ought to be happy with his life. He has health insurance, and now savings. A lot of his friends have neither. His girlfriend is pretty. On most of those Fridays, including this one, instead of taking the train back to his suburban side-by-side, he walks to a downtown pub to meet his friends. Jamie’s girlfriend Linda typically arrives on his third beer. There was never a day Jamie sat down and decided to be a copywriter living in the midwest. His friends are from his old job. Jamie isn’t unhappy. In two months he and Linda are going to Cuba for ten days. A few weeks ago I asked everyone reading to share their biggest problem in life in the comment section. The first thing is that everyone has considerable problems. Stay in the same city, but start hanging out with a completely different crowd, and life will change significantly.

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