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Most lives are lived by default

Most lives are lived by default
Jamie lives in a large city in the midwest. He’s a copywriter for an advertising firm, and he’s good at it. He’s also good at thinking of reasons why he ought to be happy with his life. He has health insurance, and now savings. A lot of his friends have neither. His girlfriend is pretty. On most of those Fridays, including this one, instead of taking the train back to his suburban side-by-side, he walks to a downtown pub to meet his friends. Jamie’s girlfriend Linda typically arrives on his third beer. There was never a day Jamie sat down and decided to be a copywriter living in the midwest. His friends are from his old job. Jamie isn’t unhappy. In two months he and Linda are going to Cuba for ten days. A few weeks ago I asked everyone reading to share their biggest problem in life in the comment section. The first thing is that everyone has considerable problems. Stay in the same city, but start hanging out with a completely different crowd, and life will change significantly.

How to hack the beliefs that are holding you back We all have beliefs that are holding us back. Sometimes we're aware of them, sometimes not. One entrepreneur I know, who shall remain nameless, admitted (after quite a lot of wine) that he has a block around sending invoices. He was perhaps exaggerating when he said that before he could send an invoice he had to down a bottle of wine and get drunk so he could hit the send button, but even so, it was clear that he had a serious block around asking people to pay him. As an entrepreneur, that's obviously a deadly flaw. Myself, I have - or used to have - similar blocks. Another would-be entrepreneur I spoke to recently was afraid to quit his job. Now, perhaps the beliefs holding you back are of a different nature, but even if the "money thing" or the "quitting thing" don't apply to you, don't disregard this article. So, if you're aware of such a belief and want to "fix" it, what can you do to hack your brain? 1. Three things will happen from this. This is an extremely effective method. 2. 3.

101 Most Inspiring Quotes of All Time by Celes on Jun 16, 2009 | ShareThis Email This Post This is volume 1 of the 101 Most Inspiring Quotes of All Time Series. Volume 1 Quotes: Inspirational quotes on Life, Purpose, Past/Present/Future, Dreams & Passion, Goals, Hard Work, Change, Truth & Honesty, Imagination & CreativityVolume 2 Quotes: Inspirational quotes on Confidence & Personal Power, Courage & Fear, Obstacles, Failure & SuccessVolume 3 Quotes: Inspirational quotes on Taking Action, Planning, Persistence, Time Management & Productivity, Wealth, Money & Finance, Happiness & Emotional Mastery, LoveVolume 4 Quotes: Inspirational quotes on Learning & Growth, Attitudes & Mindsets, Responsibility, Gratitude & Kindness, Friendship, Leadership, Helping Others, People & The World “I am always doing things I can’t do. That is how I get to do them.” Lately I have been posting inspiring quotes on Facebook and Twitter. The thing I love about inspiring quotes is that they pack so much wisdom in so few words. 101 Most Inspiring Quotes

How To Train Yourself To Be In The Mood You Want Dec 27, 2010 When you have major changes going on in your life, or you’re just frustrated about where you are, it’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of depression, bad moods and frustration. I know, I’ve been there … and when I’m not careful, I still get there more than I want to. But when I’ve had a particularly hard time, I hit these moments where I’m in a foul mood, or I’m just feeling paralyzed, and I’m just stuck. I’m going to outline the framework that I’ve been using successfully to really get myself resourceful and motivated (and in a better mood) when I’m feeling stuck. First Up: Using A Framework to Escape From Paralyzing Emotions When we feel bad, it’s hard to “feel good” again. The reason for this is that steps take the emotion out of our situation and give us direction to simply act. You can call these verbal step-by-step tools anchors if you want, because they’re ways to anchor your emotional state to a time where you knew what to do and you felt prepared. Think about it. Dave

How to feel better now What makes you happy? I find directly pursuing happiness is difficult to do. Many times the things we think will make us happy fail to do so. Instead I like to focus on growth and developing a strong life philosophy that can guide you through tough times and help you enjoy successes. But what about feeling good right now? Hack One: Goals Nothing creates a bigger jolt of enthusiasm than a new inspiring vision of the future. Hack Two: Chores Procrastination sucks. Hack Three: Laugh Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Hack Four: Aid Help someone who needs it. Hack Five: Socialize One of the leading evolutionary theories for explaining the size of the human brain is our complex social structure. Hack Six: Inspiration Find something to get you inspired, even if just for a short time. Hack Seven: Exercise Exercise releases various chemicals into your brain which leave you feeling good. Hack Eight: Posture Change the way you hold your body to reflect someone who is happier. Hack Nine: Music

How to think positive WHEN A PERSON THINKS a negative thought and tries to get rid of it, that person is thinking positively negatively. Daniel M. Wegner of Trinity University in San Antonio, Texas, has conducted a long string of experiments that show the futility and actual danger of trying to get rid of thoughts. In some of the experiments, Wegner told his subjects, “Try not to think about a white bear.” Trying not to think a negative thought will result in thinking it more. Thinking is like breathing: It goes on night and day and you can’t stop it. The same is true about thinking. So when you find yourself disliking the content of your thoughts, instead of trying to stop yourself from thinking a thought, try to direct your thoughts. And the way to direct your thinking is by asking yourself a question. Of course, the kind of question you ask makes a big difference. The idea is to direct your mind by asking questions that put your attention on practical things, on accomplishment, on the future.

6 Questions That Will Make You Fee Peaceful and Complete “The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.” ~Swedish Proverb When I was in my mid-twenties an unhealthy relationship with an unhealthy guy sent me packing off to the corner of New Mexico to find myself. In a new age, self-discovery kind of world—a hubbub of a town filled with people in transition—I was graced to meet many powerful healers, gurus, shamans, and teachers. I became a workshop junkie. I went on Shamanic power journeys to spiritual centers around the world, chanted with Indian gurus, and became a certified yoga instructor and Reiki master. I got rolfed, (and got more intense body-work by thick-boned Maoris) and rebirthed with conscious breath work. I went on vision quests in the desert, called leading psychics, mapped my astrological chart, figured out my Enneagram number, dreamed lucidly for nights in an upright chair, and drew down the moon in Wiccan circles. I know. I was a perpetual seeker. 1. Yes, there is inner work to be done. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.

101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself by Celes on Oct 30, 2010 | ShareThis Email This Post “The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions.” – John Simone What questions do you ask yourself every day? Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?” If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-reflect, you might be stumped by questions. Today, I believe questions are a key to self-awareness and personal growth. It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you don’t know the answers to the questions at first. I’ve come up with a set of important questions for your self-reflection. Remember, there is no one final answer. Here they are: Who are you? Image ©Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world?

Life Secrets and Tips | Life Secrets and Tips | 50 Life Secrets and Tips | Life Secrets | Secrets For A Natural Life Life Secrets and Tips Life Secrets and Tips, 50 Life Secrets and Tips, Life Secrets, Secrets For A Natural Life: Memorize something everyday. Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library. * Don’t take life so seriously! * Develop an endless curiosity about this world.: Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. * Learn to focus only on the present. * Smile more often. * Memorize something everyday. * Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions. * Remember people’s names so that they feel appreciated and for your own future benefit when you want something from that person. * Even more specifically, live in THIS moment. * Drink water.

25 Great Quotes to Inspire and Brighten Your Day Here’s a collection of great quotes by some of the most inspirational men and women that ever walked this earth. Hopefully you’ll find them inspirational in some way. If you do like them and find them helpful, check out our similar posts by visiting the links listed below. We have created over 20+ of these galleries, so there is lots more to be seen. More popular quotations: – 25 Inspirational Quotes – Great quotes to ponder upon Check out all of our galleries with nice quotes here: More great quotes:

10 Articles That Changed My Life | LifeReboot.com It’s easy to find a well written article. It’s not always easy to find a well written article with genuine value. That’s because the Internet has nearly limitless value — you can use it to look up the correct spelling of a word, or to translate text between languages, or even figure out “what’s the name of that guy from that movie who was in that other movie?” You can also use the Internet to go shopping while at home, or do job searching while at work, or publish blog entries while on vacation. Taking it to the next level, you can use the Internet to interact with people, make new friends around the world, or research your next dating partner. What I’ve discovered to be most surprising, though, is that the Internet contains life-altering advice. Regardless of this, most people don’t think to seek it out. For this reason, I’ve compiled the following list of articles containing value so profound that they literally changed my life. #1 – Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

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