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How to Be Charismatic: 7 Powerful Tips from the Mentalist

How to Be Charismatic: 7 Powerful Tips from the Mentalist
Image by CielChen (license). My favourite new TV-show is The Mentalist. One of my favourite little interests over the last year or so has been to try to figure out why some people stand out, why they are charismatic. Now, if you have seen the Mentalist – a show about a former fake psychic who’s really good at reading people and helps the police out with solving a weekly murder case – then you have probably seen how charismatic Simon Baker is in the lead role. And even if you haven’t, this article just draws some inspiration that show. Also, I think being charismatic is about being a better you and bringing out more of yourself with less self-censoring. Find your own variation by exploring yourself. 1. Yes, this sounds really obvious. Charismatic people often seem to smile a whole lot. And, even if you don’t always feel like smiling do it from time to time anyway (not all the time though of course, that’s just weird). 2. Here’s a classic tip from Dale Carnegie: 3. Focus on your breathing.

20 Things I Wish I Had Known When Starting Out in Life | zen habits “Everything has been figured out, except how to live.” - Jean-Paul Sartre I’m nearly 35 years old, and I’ve made my share of mistakes in my life. I’m not a big believer in regrets … and I have learned tremendously from every single mistake … and my life is pretty great. However, there are a few things I wish I had known when I was graduating from high school and starting out as an adult in life. Would I change things? I might not have gotten married that first time, so that I would never have gotten divorced … but then I wouldn’t have my first two beautiful wonderful incredible children from that first marriage. I don’t think I would change any of that. What follows isn’t an exhaustive list, but it’s one that I hope proves useful to at least a few people. “I hope life isn’t a big joke, because I don’t get it.” - Jack Handey How to control impulse spending. “Let us so live that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.” - Mark Twain

10 Articles That Changed My Life ? It’s easy to find a well written article. It’s not always easy to find a well written article with genuine value. That’s because the Internet has nearly limitless value — you can use it to look up the correct spelling of a word, or to translate text between languages, or even figure out “what’s the name of that guy from that movie who was in that other movie?” You can also use the Internet to go shopping while at home, or do job searching while at work, or publish blog entries while on vacation. Taking it to the next level, you can use the Internet to interact with people, make new friends around the world, or research your next dating partner. What I’ve discovered to be most surprising, though, is that the Internet contains life-altering advice. Regardless of this, most people don’t think to seek it out. For this reason, I’ve compiled the following list of articles containing value so profound that they literally changed my life. #1 – Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

Why Thought Suppression is Counter-Productive How pushing a thought out of consciousness can bring it back with a vengeance. It sometimes feels like our minds are not on the same team as us. I want to go to sleep, but it wants to keep me awake rerunning events from my childhood. This internal battle can be anything from the attempt to suppress an occasional minor irritation (did I turn off the cooker?) The classic response to this mental wrangling — whether relatively trivial or deadly serious — is to try and forget about it, push it to the back of our minds or some other variation on the theme. Thought rebound In the study that kicked off research in this area Professor Daniel Wegner and colleagues investigated the effects of thought suppression (Wegner et al., 1987). Participants who first tried to suppress their thoughts rang the bell almost twice as often as participants in a control group. Suppressing emotions Back with a vengeance Substance cravings. Our disobedient minds [Image credits: kaneda99 & tilaneseven & kaneda99 & kygp]

25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself Feeling less than motivated all too often? I do. Well, perhaps not too often. But sometimes I just feel really lazy and unmotivated. Want some practical solutions to that universal motivation-problem? Let me know which ones work well for you. I’m sure you’ll find at least one or two that do just that among these suggestions. 1. 2. 3. What am I ______ about in my life right now? Put in your own value in the blank space. What am I happy about in my life right now? It’s important that you really feel how it makes you feel. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Reviewing your results is important so you see where you have gone wrong in the past to avoid similar missteps further on. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. Also, try to find the valuable lesson(s) in each of your failures. 14. When you know what has happened to others in similar situations – what path they have walked – you can adapt and try their solutions (and personal variations of those) and your own. 15. 16. 17. 18.

33 Questions For An Interview With Yourself Today I’m going to interview somebody really special on my blog. And that would be you. Exactly, you, the one who’s looking at the screen right now. Yes, this is an interview. 1. You may not know what you’re really doing for a living. 2. Is that your partner? 3. That’s a very important question. 4. You may be able to wake up every morning and go to work, but do you think at yourself as being a healthy person? 5. Have you ever wandered what do you think about yourself from this point of view? 6. You shouldn’t just open your ID and do some math. 7. Do you have one? 8. Do you still remember it? 9. Try to remember exactly how often do you laugh during a day. 10. List at least 10 items. 11. Do you have one? 12. Is this really your place? 13. I would be really curious to know the answer to this one. 14. Have you really done something important? 15. Do you consider you’ve done stupid things in your life? 16. Like really, truly accepting everything about you. 17. That might be difficult. 18.

10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me 10 Years Ago · At the start of every year, I like to review my goals. I pull out the list of goals I set for myself last January, and then grade myself on how well I did. This year is quite different than past years. Everything changed after Cassie was diagnosed with cancer. Suddenly, nothing was important except her health. It’s been tough. Although I didn’t do any of the fighting — you have Cassie and her doctors to praise for that — I did get caught up in the ride. Here I am now, happy that 2010 is upon us, wondering what else to write about. I’m glad for how things turned out. I suppose that I’m afraid if I don’t talk about it, the only other thing I can say about 2009 is that life was on pause for a while, so nothing else was accomplished. The other thing about 2009 is that I feel so detached from everything I experienced throughout it. I think that the dawn of a new decade is an excellent time to reflect upon the last ten years, and figure out what life lessons I’ve managed to learn from them:

50 Ways To Start Fresh Defeat. Boredom. Lack of meaning in your life. All these symptoms, and many others, of course, are a sign that you need to start fresh. I started fresh for many times in my life, and, hopefully, I’ll start fresh again. 1. Sometimes starting over means accepting that you’re no longer the person you used to be. 2 Just Leave Quit the boring job, the abusive relationship, the past. 3. Too often we’re unconsciously rejecting other people by habit. 4. And move on. 5. It doesn’t have to be a friend. 6. Bungee jumping, for instance, if you’re the physical type. 7. A concert or other stuff involving hundreds or thousands of people. 8. Don’t make it a novel and don’t aim at publishing it. 9. And stick to it. 10. You don’t have to start fresh only after a big defeat. 11. Accept ALL your past defeats and victories. 12. Ok, you wanna change, but you’re not yet sure. 13. Throw away clothes, things, devices, memories. 14. Get rid of your possessions. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 24. 25. 26. 27.

60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days. Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days. Home 1. Day 1: Declutter MagazinesDay 2: Declutter DVD’sDay 3: Declutter booksDay 4: Declutter kitchen appliances 2. If you take it out, put it back.If you open it, close it.If you throw it down, pick it up.If you take it off, hang it up. 3. A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out. Happiness 4. 5. 6. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? 7. Learning/Personal Development 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13.

6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person #3. You Hate Yourself Because You Don't Do Anything Getty "So, what, you're saying that I should pick up a book on how to get girls?" Only if step one in the book is "Start making yourself into the type of person girls want to be around." Getty"Come ooooon. Because that's the step that gets skipped -- it's always "How can I get a job?" "But why can't I find someone who just likes me for me?" Here's another video (NSFW): Everyone who watched that video instantly became a little happier, although not all for the same reasons. "But I'm not good at anything!" Don't like the prospect of pouring all of that time into a skill? The bad news is that you have no other choice. Because in my non-expert opinion, you don't hate yourself because you have low self-esteem, or because other people were mean to you. GettyStep One: Get up. Do the math: How much of your time is spent consuming things other people made (TV, music, video games, websites) versus making your own? #2. But really, does that matter?