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All the Single Ladies - Magazine

All the Single Ladies - Magazine
In 2001, when I was 28, I broke up with my boyfriend. Allan and I had been together for three years, and there was no good reason to end things. He was (and remains) an exceptional person, intelligent, good-looking, loyal, kind. My friends, many of whom were married or in marriage-track relationships, were bewildered. I was bewildered. The period that followed was awful. Also see: The End of Men Earlier this year, women became the majority of the workforce for the first time in U.S. history. Delayed Childbearing Though career counselors and wishful thinkers may say otherwise, women who put off trying to have children until their mid-thirties risk losing out on motherhood altogether. Marry Him! In Search of Mr. Let's Call the Whole Thing Off The author is ending her marriage. The Wifely Duty Marriage used to provide access to sex. Sex and the College Girl "This is clearly a mess and not one that is going to clear up with magic speed on the wedding night." Are We not Men? I kid! “Pwhah!” Related:  Women

Elizabeth Eckford and Hazel Bryan: What happened to the two girls in the most famous photo of the Civil Rights Era Photograph by Will Counts/Indiana University Archives This is adapted from David Margolick’s book, Elizabeth and Hazel: Two Women of Little Rock. Who doesn’t know that face? It’s the face of a white girl—she was only 15 years old, but everyone always thinks her older than that, and judges her accordingly—shouting at an equally familiar, iconic figure: a sole black school girl dressed immaculately in white, her mournful and frightened eyes hidden behind sunglasses, clutching her books and walking stoically away from Little Rock Central High School on Sept. 4, 1957—the date when, in many ways, desegregation first hit the South where it hurt. It’s all in that white girl’s face, or so it has always appeared. So how is it that 55 years later, it is this same white girl—even more than the black girl—who feels aggrieved, who considers herself the victim of intolerance, who has retreated into embittered sadness? The black girl is Elizabeth Eckford of the Little Rock Nine.

The Startling Plight of China's Leftover Ladies - By Christina Larson The Spicy Love Doctor was running late. A well-heeled crowd one recent Sunday afternoon had packed into the second-floor lounge of Beijing's Trends Building -- home to the publishing offices of several glossy magazines, including the Chinese editions of Cosmopolitan, Esquire, and Harper's Bazaar -- to hear Wu Di, a contributor to China's Cosmopolitan and author of an alluring new book, I Know Why You're Left. The poised, professional crowd, outfitted in black blazers, leather boots, and trendy thick-framed glasses, was composed mostly of women in their mid-20s to mid-30s -- prime Cosmo readers and all there waiting patiently to hear Wu, who typically charges $160 an hour for "private romance counseling," explain their surprising plight: being single women in a country with a startling excess of men. The majority of her talk was devoted not to such timeless aphorisms, but to describing a new conundrum in China: the plight of its sheng nu, or "leftover ladies." But it's not just China.

Google Launches Limited Version of "Google Offers" Coupon Service @SquareWheel: Groupon is pretty great — you can find some amazing deals. @SquareWheel: It is great as long as you can resist impulse buys. I tend to buy groupons for stuff I plan to buy anyways, like 50% off oil changes or at a restaurant I frequent . @SquareWheel: I have found some really cool deals on groupon. e.g. My wife wasn't as excited about my new found wanted hobby until about a month later the groupon popped up for that exact place and the exact kit I was looking at for sub $100. I snatched it up and we will see how the wine turns out but that's a 66% off deal. @SquareWheel: Groupon isn't as great as it was.

Hartlepool's lost generation caught in the youth unemployment trap | Business Of the many words that crop up as Ashley Short sits down to reflect on his education and employment history, three of the most frequent are "nothing", "depressing" and "temporary". "They put us through things that won't get you a job," he says from beneath the peak of a large black baseball cap. "It's temporary: there's nothing out there. I've lost count of all the CVs and application forms I've sent out and you're hearing nothing back. From leaving school I've been unemployed more than I've been employed." Short is 23 and has two young children. And that, for the young people of this port town and hundreds of thousands of others across the country, is the big question: how much longer? The West View Project, which uses sailing, camping and rock climbing to build up young people's confidence and discipline, has seen its share of hardship over the three decades of its existence. "One day the car park was full and the next day the car park was deserted, it's sad to say. Phillip Inman

Study: Single Men Not Afraid of Marriage or Having Kids As Valentine's Day approaches and married people take a moment to express their boundless and eternal love for their spouse by buying chocolates made in faraway China a romantically long time ago, they tend to take pity on single folk. They imagine a vast tribe of female lonely hearts roaming an emotional Sahara, confounded by mirages that look like marriage-minded men. But according to what may be the biggest study of single people ever, that image is, like the enthusiasm for the chocolate, quite false. Single men are, on the whole, as likely to want to get married... Subscribe Now Get TIME the way you want it One Week Digital Pass — $4.99 Monthly Pay-As-You-Go DIGITAL ACCESS — $2.99 One Year ALL ACCESS — Just $30!

What’s wrong with students stripping for cash? Is it OK for hard-up students to consider taking their clothes off as a way of paying their university tuition fees? The mere suggestion that they could earn a ‘good wage’ doing so by John Specht, UK vice president of the Spearmint Rhino chain of gentlemen’s clubs, has caused controversy. In response to Specht’s remarks, National Union of Students (NUS) women’s officer Estelle Hart commented ‘the women that are being targeted by John Specht are intelligent women who are capable of great things but in order to pay for cuts made by this government they are forced to hide that away and have their worth judged simply by sexual availability’. Hart’s comments highlight the real question underlying the discussion: why is it so much more shocking or pertinent that students should be undertaking this sort of work than anyone else? Both Hart and the NUS seem to be suggesting that these young students somehow now have no choice but to work in lap dancing clubs.

Why Do They Hate Us? - By Mona Eltahawy In "Distant View of a Minaret," the late and much-neglected Egyptian writer Alifa Rifaat begins her short story with a woman so unmoved by sex with her husband that as he focuses solely on his pleasure, she notices a spider web she must sweep off the ceiling and has time to ruminate on her husband's repeated refusal to prolong intercourse until she too climaxes, "as though purposely to deprive her." Just as her husband denies her an orgasm, the call to prayer interrupts his, and the man leaves. After washing up, she loses herself in prayer -- so much more satisfying that she can't wait until the next prayer -- and looks out onto the street from her balcony. In a crisp three-and-a-half pages, Rifaat lays out a trifecta of sex, death, and religion, a bulldozer that crushes denial and defensiveness to get at the pulsating heart of misogyny in the Middle East. Yes: They hate us. But let's put aside what the United States does or doesn't do to women. But at least Yemeni women can drive.

Caffeine: A User's Guide to Getting Optimally Wired : Developing Intelligence Caffeine is the most widely used stimulant in the world, but few use it to maximal advantage. Get optimally wired with these tips. 1) Consume in small, frequent amounts. Between 20-200mg per hour may be an optimal dose for cognitive function. Caffeine crosses the blood-brain barrier quickly (owing to its lipid solubility) although it can take up to 45 minutes for full ingestion through the gastro-intestinal tract. Under normal conditions, this remains stable for around 1 hour before gradually clearing in the following 3-4 hours (depending on a variety of factors). A landmark 2004 study showed that small hourly doses of caffeine (.3mg per kg of body weight [approx 20 mg per hour; thanks digg!]) At doses of 600mg, caffeine’s effects on cognitive performance are often comparable to those of modafinil, a best-of-class nootropic. 2) Play to your cognitive strengths while wired. In tests of lateral prefrontal function, caffeine only remediates some fatigue-related symptoms.