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How to Read People: Detecting Lies

Have you ever wished that you could tell when someone is lying to you? Whether you’re dealing with Mike the mechanic from the local repair shop, or watching one of our beloved politicians on prime time, learning how to ferret out deception is a deserving skill in a world very unlike Pleasantville. It is in this final post on How to Read People, that I go into detail about how you can detect lies. How to Read People – Series 1. Human communication is an extremely complex exchange. There seems to be some limitation built into us whether by learning or by the design of our nervous systems, a limit that keeps our channel capacities in this general range – determined by George Miller author of The Magical Number Seven. Because of our apparent limitation in conscious processing, the average Joe can only detect lies with about 50% accuracy. If you have any hesitation in ever meeting me, for fear that I’ll unveil your deepest secrets, let it be known that I haven’t yet reached this level.

5 Cases of Workplace Bullying That Led To Tragedy Intimidation. Threats. Berating. Teasing. Overworking. Horror stories of bullied kids killing themselves to be free of the constant torment they face from peers have even pushed several states to create laws against bullying, encouraging individuals to report school bullying incidents to authorities. From the playground to the office, the struggle for power continues well into adulthood and the effects of adult bullying can be severely detrimental. Workplace bullying is defined as the In the majority of cases, bullying in the workplace is perpetrated by management but it can also occur with clients, subordinates and co-workers. Driven to Death Image source: Journal de Montreal Take for instance the recent suicide of Carl Dessureault. When he returned to work, the mocking resumed. No Help For Dedicated Nurse Image source : Daily Mail Gettins kept a diary detailing the torment she suffered at the hands of staff. Cooking Nightmares Image source: SMH A Writer’s Woes Image source: The Hook

How to Read People: Preparing to Read Learning to read people is one of the most important skills you can have in your interpersonal life. Whether you’re focusing on professional success, friendship, romance, marriage, career or parenting, understanding How to Read People will give you the ability to make sound decisions and develop incredible insight into people’s lives. With practice, your ability to understand the core motivations, desires, and thoughts of others can become so accurate as to border on an invasion of privacy. In this 3-part series I will be covering the following: 1. Taken from skills I’ve learned over the years from animal tracking (yes animal tracking has a lot to do with reading people), techniques and ideas taught to me by a former interrogator for the CIA, as well as professional people readers like Jo-Ellan Demitrius – I will give you a concise step-by-step approach to accurately reading people. Preparing Yourself to Read People -People are Like Onions- -Removing our own Barriers-

All In The Mind - 29 January 2011 - That Does Not Compute: the hidden affliction of dyscalculia Natasha Mitchell: Well, the full force of 2011 is with us, isn't it, what a tumultuous start to this la Nina year for so many of us here in Australia, in Brazil, in Sri Lanka. It's hard to comprehend the scale of it all. Natasha Mitchell on board, welcome to a year of fresh shows on the rich life of the mind. And comprehending the scale of things is in fact something we're looking into today, but in a totally different context. Numeracy skills are on the nose in Australia. We're more familiar with dyslexia, that difficulty with processing words, but it seems that up to 8% of us struggle with numbers, arithmetic and calculations because of a legitimate condition called dyscalculia, a condition that's flown under the radar for too long. Corinne Podger: Lucie is 9, she's articulate and quick-witted and fluent in the French, English and Italian which is spoken at home. Can you tell the time right now? Corinne Podger: And what time is it Xavier? Xavier: 7.30 yes.

How to Read People: Beyond the Words In this post, the second in a 3-part series, I reveal the techniques and mindset that you will need to effectively read people. I tried to be as succinct as possible without losing any important details, but because of its length feel free to bookmark this page and read it in sections. How to Read People – Series 1. Preparing to Read People 2. Beyond the Words 3. Reading people is as much a science as it is an art. The science deals with an understanding of the mechanics and principles involved in people reading; For example, you study all the cold, hard facts about what a specific mannerism could mean, what a certain tone of voice might suggest, or how the context of a persons environment may influence their behavior. Once the principles are understood, open up the right brain – that part of yourself that does not think in terms of linear thought, words, or mathematics, but instead with patterns, colors and abstracts. There is no replacement for practice. Establish the Baseline . The Home

Stopping bullying: why gender matters I get so fed up with conservative groups who are against educational programs that specifically address issues of gender and sexuality in schools. There were recent controversies in Vallejo, CA and Alameda, CA over this issue. They argue that generic anti-bullying programs are sufficient to stop the negative behaviours that happen between students in schools. Generic anti-bullying programs don't work - we need to specifically name and address the more common and painful forms of bullying that happen between students to have any impact. I'm going to write a brief case-study based on a recent series of workshops I gave in a high school to prove my point. When I begin a workshop with a group of students I start by asking them if they have seen various forms of bullying in their school. * physical bullying (tripping, shoving, knocking books, etc.) * verbal bullying (name calling, spreading rumours, telling mean jokes) * non-verbal bullying (exclusion, drawing pictures, gestures, mean glares)

How to Read People FDR: The Bomb in the Brain - The Effects of Child Abuse Part 1 - Freedomain Radio high def [View: References: These images are from studies conducted by a team of researchers from the Child Trauma Academy (www.ChildTrauma.org) led by Bruce D. Color Psychology by David Johnson Like death and taxes, there is no escaping color. It is ubiquitous. Yet what does it all mean? Why are people more relaxed in green rooms? Colors often have different meanings in various cultures. Black Black is the color of authority and power. White Brides wear white to symbolize innocence and purity. Red The most emotionally intense color, red stimulates a faster heartbeat and breathing. The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. Blue The color of the sky and the ocean, blue is one of the most popular colors. Green Currently the most popular decorating color, green symbolizes nature. Yellow Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter. Purple The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and sophistication. Brown Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Colors of the Flag In the U.S. flag, white stands for purity and innocence. Food for Thought While blue is one of the most popular colors it is one of the least appetizing.

How To Train Yourself To Be In The Mood You Want Dec 27, 2010 When you have major changes going on in your life, or you’re just frustrated about where you are, it’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of depression, bad moods and frustration. I know, I’ve been there … and when I’m not careful, I still get there more than I want to. But when I’ve had a particularly hard time, I hit these moments where I’m in a foul mood, or I’m just feeling paralyzed, and I’m just stuck. I’m going to outline the framework that I’ve been using successfully to really get myself resourceful and motivated (and in a better mood) when I’m feeling stuck. First Up: Using A Framework to Escape From Paralyzing Emotions When we feel bad, it’s hard to “feel good” again. The reason for this is that steps take the emotion out of our situation and give us direction to simply act. You can call these verbal step-by-step tools anchors if you want, because they’re ways to anchor your emotional state to a time where you knew what to do and you felt prepared. Think about it. Dave

Body Language and Flirting - Blifaloo Interesting Info -> Body Language -> Flirting Body Language (part 1) Quick Jump: General Signs of Flirting | Male Flirting | Female Flirting Also See: Body Language Resources | Decoding Male Body Language Updated March 21st - 2012. New resources, information, books and links added. Only 7% of communication is verbal communication. The largest chunk of communication is body language, which takes up the remaining 55%. The impression we make on others starts not when we first open our mouth, but with our posture, breathing, appearance, and movement. Art and Science of Flirting and Body Language The art of flirting is expressed with gestures and subtle actions - also known as body language. This artful dance makes it possible for strangers to become comfortable with each other, even at their first exchange of words. Some body language (physical actions expressing inner emotions or thoughts) is universal among us and other mammals. Eye Contact and Triangulation Bored? return to top

Brain science and the workplace: Neuroscience and neuroplasticity « Minding the Workplace If you’re interested in how the experience of work affects us, but you’re not into heavy science, get over the latter and become familiar with these two terms: Neuroscience and neuroplasticity. We’re going to be hearing a lot about both in the years to come. Definitions Neuroscience is defined by MedicineNet.com as: The study of the brain and nervous system, including molecular neuroscience, cellular neuroscience, cognitive neuroscience, psychophysics, computational modeling and diseases of the nervous system. Neuroplasticity is defined as: The brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. In other words, we’re talking about the science of the brain, including how we can change it for the better and fix it after bad stuff happens. Past blog posts I try to avoid using too much jargon in writing articles for this blog, so the following pieces are not filled to the brim with references to neuroscience and neuroplasticity. Understanding the bullied brain

What Does Your Body Language Say About You? How To Read Signs and Recognize Gestures - Jinxi Boo - Jinxi Boo Art by LaetitziaAs we all know, communication is essential in society. Advancements in technology have transformed the way that we correspond with others in the modern world. Because of the constant buzz in our technological world, it's easy to forget how important communicating face-to-face is. Body language is truly a language of its own. 10% from what the person actually says40% from the tone and speed of voice50% is from their body language. Lowering one's head can signal a lack of confidence. Pushing back one's shoulders can demonstrate power and courageOpen arms means one is comfortable with being approached and willing to talk/communicate The lowering of the eyes can convey fear, guilt or submissionLowered eyebrows and squinted eyes illustrate an attempt at understanding what is being said or going onA lack of confidence or apprehensiveness can be displayed when you don't look another person in the eyesOne tends to blink more often if nervous or trying to evaluate someone else

Why You’re Not Happy: Tips for Overcoming 6 Common Barriers to Happiness Six common barriers to personal happiness and fulfillment and how to overcome them. Why do I need to register or sign in for WebMD to save? We will provide you with a dropdown of all your saved articles when you are registered and signed in. Happiness can be a paradox: The more you reach for it, the more it seems to slip through your fingers. “Ask yourself if you’re happy, and you cease to be so,” says Darrin McMahon, PhD, author of Happiness: A History. How could this be true? WebMD's Health Tools and Slideshows © 2008 WebMD, LLC. At the 2008 Happiness & Its Causes Conference in San Francisco, a wide range of people -- from scientists, doctors, and psychologists to artists, philosophers, and Tibetan Buddhists -- offered their thoughts on the topic. Happiness Barrier No. 1: Complexity Solution: Simplify Continue reading below... Schooled in Buddhist monasteries since childhood, Thupten Jinpa, PhD, knows a thing or two about the benefits of simplicity. Happiness Barrier No. 2: A Breakneck Pace

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