Why We Love: 5 Must-Read Books on the Psychology of Love
It’s often said that every song, every poem, every novel, every painting ever created is in some way “about” love. What this really means is that love is a central theme, an underlying preoccupation, in humanity’s greatest works. But what exactly is love? How does its mechanism spur such poeticism, and how does it lodge itself in our minds, hearts and souls so completely, so stubbornly, as to permeate every aspect of the human imagination? Today, we turn to 5 essential books that are “about” love in a different way — they turn an inquisitive lens towards this grand phenomenon and try to understand where it comes from, how it works, and what it means for the human condition. No superlative is an exaggeration of Alain de Botton‘s humble brilliance spanning everything from philosophy to architecture. Every fall into love involves [to adapt Oscar Wilde] the triumph of hope over self-knowledge. Sample her work with this fantastic TED talk on the brain in love: Is love really blind?
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D.: Resolving Relationship Problems by Letting Go of Problem-Solving
"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session. "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting. It doesn't really matter what it is about -- it always ends up the same. Is this normal? Aren't couples supposed to be able to solve problems?" "Kaylee, who usually initiates problem-solving talks?" "I do." "When you ask Hayden to talk with you about a problem, how does he usually react?" "He usually rolls his eyes, but he sits down with me." "Do you have any idea why he rolls his eyes?" "Yeah. "So when you ask him to sit down with you to solve a problem, he knows that what you are really after is getting him to change, is that right?" "Yeah, I guess so." "And then what happens?" "Well, I tell him what is not working for me and what I think we should do about it and then we end up arguing." "So, your intent in talking is to solve the problem by getting him to change, is that right?" "Well, yeah! "I'm not sure how this will work. "I don't think so!
20 Ways to Say I Love You | Tivate.com - StumbleUpon
First time visiting Tivate? Then make sure you subscribe to the RSS feed before you leave. Thanks for visiting! [article] There’s more ways to say I love you without actually saying it. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. NOTE: If you enjoyed this post check out the follow-up 20 “Real Life” ways to say I Love You and 20 ways to Propose. [SU::darrylheron] [sources] “Those three words,” – ashleyRosex on Flickr [Online Images] “sweetheart” – youngdoo on Flickr [Online Images] “Love on Pier 14″ – Red Giraffe on Flickr [Online Images] “a hearty sandwich” – Rakka on Flickr [Online Images] “the healing touch” – drumtoo on Flickr [Online Images] “Lucy wins monopoly” – all the good names have gone on Flickr [Online Images] “Above Pacific” – a3rO on Flickr [Online Images] “19:00″ – Fanny Lafontaine on Flickr [Online Images] “190108″ – vaquerito on Flickr [Online Images] “elderly couples” – tin-zo on Flickr [Online Images] “your present” – youngdoo on Flickr [Online Images]
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Top Ten Reasons Sex is Good for You - EmpowHER.com - StumbleUpon
Okay, we know that sex is fun, but guess what? It’s good for you too! The top ten healthy benefits of good sex are even backed up by experts, researchers and scientists: 1. Sex can lower blood pressure and reduce stress. 2. Good sexual health can mean better physical health. 3. Thirty minutes of sex burns around 85 calories. 4. Women who have more sex tend to have higher levels of estrogen, which protects against heart disease. 5. Researchers at the University of Texas found that a self-esteem boost was one of 237 reasons people have sex. 6. Orgasm and having sex increases levels of oxytocin, the so-called love hormone. 7. As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase and pain decreases. 8. Bring on the Kegels! 9. According to researchers, oxytocin released during orgasm also helps you catch more z’s.
How To Treat Others: 5 Lessons From an Unknown Author
Five Lessons About How To Treat People -- Author Unknown 1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady" During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. "Absolutely," said the professor. I've never forgotten that lesson. 2. One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. A special note was attached. Sincerely, Mrs. 3. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. 4.
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7 Vital Choices for Happy Relationships | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In - StumbleUpon
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu Ten years ago I thought I was going to marry my college sweetheart and become a young bride, which made it all the more devastating when happily ever after didn’t pan out. When we broke up, I felt literally like I lost a limb, complete with phantom sensations of his hand in mine. It didn’t take long for a dark guilt to bubble up—a constant festering reminder of all the mistakes I’d made. In the ruins of that romance, I didn’t know what scared me more: that someone else might hurt me again or that I might hurt them enough first to deserve it. I simultaneously felt an aching need to fill in the hole where he’d been and an overwhelming sense of nausea at the thought of being with someone else. In each case, I either burdened the guy with a body bag full of my fears and insecurities, or dragged it around myself wondering why dating felt so exhausting. 1. Take it off the page: 2. 3. 4. 5.
