Revenge of the Introvert There are as many introverts as extraverts, but you'd never know it by looking around. Introverts would rather be entertained by what's going on in their heads than in seeking happiness. Their big challenge is not to feel like outsiders in their own culture. by Laurie Helgoe, Ph.D. After ten years as a psychologist practicing psychodynamic psychotherapy , I reclined on the couch of my own analyst feeling burdened by my chosen work. Then I heard myself say: "I don't like being a therapist." Suddenly I felt free, loosed from expectations that never fit. As a card-carrying introvert , I am one of the many people whose personality confers on them a preference for the inner world of their own mind rather than the outer world of sociability. Over the past two decades, scientists have whittled down to five those clusters of cognitions, emotions, motivations, and behaviors that we mean by "personality" factors. Although there is no precise dividing line, there are plenty of introverts around.
John Lennon's 20 Best Quotes In Celebration Of His 72nd Birthday October 9th is a big day for one of the first families of music. Not only is it the 37th birthday of John and Yoko's only son, Sean Lennon, John Lennon would have turned the ripe old age of 72 today. The late Beatles legend, who passed away at the age of 40, wrote some of the band's most famous songs and had an uncanny ability of speaking in timeless quips. Today, on John's birthday we're pouring some out and offering him one of his best, “Count your age by friends, not years. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. CORRECTION: An earlier version of this post stated that Sean Lennon was 36. Photos courtesy of Robert Whitaker on behalf of LIFE Books Loading Slideshow Beatles Christmas Show in 1964, PgCaptured Moment From 1965 Christmas Special, PgsChiswick Park, PgFarringdon Studio in London, PgsHELP! Also on HuffPost:
The 20 Greatest Motivational Quotes Of All Time | A Daring Adventure - StumbleUpon If you like the following post, you can get an expanded version with 50 quotes as an ebook by signing up for my newsletter in the box on the right. Not only that, but you’ll get the heads up on forthcoming free books and Life Coaching specials as as well as my ebook that takes an in-depth look at goal setting. The 20 Greatest Motivational Quotes Of All Time I was playing about on Twitter the other day when I noticed an exchange about Life Coaching between two people I vaguely know. As you can imagine I had to have my say and I was told by the person in question that they managed to learn all they needed to learn about self development from reading blogs and furthermore nobody needed to hire a Life Coach. This exchange had me thinking for the millionth time, “There is no how it is, only how it is for you” It seems shameless to quote my own quote, but it is really at the core of what I do and also what I believe. 1. Apparently it’s statesmanlike to stand firm and not change your mind. 2. 3.
TED Quotes: Facts, insight and humor from TEDTalks — in shareable bites TED Quotes are made possible by Allianz SE Facts, insight and humor —in shareable bites TED Quotes brings you salient bits of TEDTalks, on everything from activism to storytelling, from chemistry to curiosity. Have thoughts about TED Quotes? Want to suggest a quote? Follow us on Twitter: @TEDQuote About Allianz SE Allianz provides singular insight and expertise to help people manage new risks and opportunities. Learn more about Allianz SE. Top 10 Thinking Traps Exposed Our minds set up many traps for us. Unless we’re aware of them, these traps can seriously hinder our ability to think rationally, leading us to bad reasoning and making stupid decisions. Features of our minds that are meant to help us may, eventually, get us into trouble. Here are the first 5 of the most harmful of these traps and how to avoid each one of them. 1. “Is the population of Turkey greater than 35 million? Lesson: Your starting point can heavily bias your thinking: initial impressions, ideas, estimates or data “anchor” subsequent thoughts. This trap is particularly dangerous as it’s deliberately used in many occasions, such as by experienced salesmen, who will show you a higher-priced item first, “anchoring” that price in your mind, for example. What can you do about it? Always view a problem from different perspectives. 2. In one experiment a group of people were randomly given one of two gifts — half received a decorated mug, the other half a large Swiss chocolate bar. 3. 4.
Alternative Sleep Cycles: You Don’t Really Need 6-8 Hours! Most people only think that there is one way to sleep: Go to sleep at night for 6-8 hours, wake up in the morning, stay awake for 16-18 hours and then repeat. Actually, that is called a monophasic sleep cycle, which is only 1 of 5 major sleep cycles that have been used successfully throughout history. The other 4 are considered polyphasic sleep cycles due to the multiple number of naps they require each day. How is this possible? How is this healthy? Well the most important of every sleep cycle is the Stage 4 REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, which has been shown to provide the benefits of sleep to the brain above all other stages of sleep. This way, you still get the benefits of 8 hours of sleep without wasting all of the time it takes to get to REM cycles, resulting in a much more efficient sleep cycle. Uberman Cycle: 20 to 30 minute naps every 4 hours, resulting in 6 naps each day. Everyman Cycle: One longer “core” nap that is supplemented with several 20-30 minute naps. Dymaxion Cycle:
10 things science (and Buddhism) says will make you happy | Wildmind Buddhist Meditation - StumbleUpon I’m a science geek as well as a Buddhist geek, and recently when I was leading a retreat on how to bring more joy into our lives I found myself making a lot of references to an article published in Yes magazine, which touched on ten things that have been shown by science to make us happier. It seemed natural to draw upon the article because so much of the research that was described resonated with Buddhist teachings. So I thought it would be interesting to take the main points of the article and flesh them out with a little Buddhism. 1. Be generous“Make altruism and giving part of your life, and be purposeful about it,” Yes magazine says. And in fact Buddhism has always emphasized the practice of dana, or giving. “And which are the three factors of the donor? 2. This of course is an example of another fundamental Buddhist practice — mindfulness. They sorrow not for what is past, They have no longing for the future, The present is sufficient for them: Hence it is they appear so radiant.
Philosopher Bios Dead Philosophers in Heaven null What Does Your Body Language Say About You? How To Read Signs and Recognize Gestures - Jinxi Boo - Jinxi Boo Art by LaetitziaAs we all know, communication is essential in society. Advancements in technology have transformed the way that we correspond with others in the modern world. Because of the constant buzz in our technological world, it's easy to forget how important communicating face-to-face is. When conversing old-school style, it's not only speech we verbalize that matters, but what our nonverbal gestures articulate as well. Body language is truly a language of its own. We all have quirks and habits that are uniquely our own. 10% from what the person actually says40% from the tone and speed of voice50% is from their body language. Lowering one's head can signal a lack of confidence. Pushing back one's shoulders can demonstrate power and courageOpen arms means one is comfortable with being approached and willing to talk/communicate
5 No-BS Ways to Become Awesome in 5 Minutes You’re at college and working two jobs. You have a date in 15 minutes. You’re a single parent with a long commute and 5 hours of sleep per day. Whatever your situation, tools that can turbo-charge your life fast are handy. The bad news is, long-term change requires time and effort. The good news is, self-improvement techniques and exercises can be very time-efficient. 1. In a recent study, subjects who wrote down their goals were 42% more likely to achieve them than the ones who didn’t. That’s right: a pen, a piece of paper and a few minutes are all you need to near-double your chance of success. 2. Your innermost thoughts are a self-fulfilling prophecy; believing in yourself is crucial to success. Here’s how you can stay positive day in, day out. Get a notebook and write down 3 awesome things you did in the past 24 hours every evening. You’ll be amazed at how much better focusing on your positive achievements makes you feel! 3. 4. 5. This is similar.
25 new great quotes! Here’s a new collection of great quotes by some of the most inspirational men and women that ever walked this earth. If you do like them and find them inspirational or helpful in some way, check out the links below for similar posts. We have created over 20+ of these galleries, so there is lots more to be seen. More popular posts with great quotes – Inspirational Quotes – Famous quotes to ponder upon Check out all of our galleries with great quotes here: Think Like a Shrink Yes, you too can see through the defenses people hide behind. To guide you, just consult the handy primer below. Put together by psychiatrist Emanuel H. Rosen, it distills years of Freudian analytical training into a few simple principles that make sense of our psyches. I have always thought it horribly unfortunate that there is such a tremendous gap between psychiatry and popular culture. To some degree, we've gotten just what we deserve. Most patients come to psychiatrists because they recognize that, to some degree, their perceptions contain some distortions. In my practice, I've engaged in a kind of educational psychotherapy, explaining simply to patients what they are doing and why they are doing it. Ideas and principles can be introduced directly without the jargon psychiatrists normally hide behind in professional discussions. The core of what we do as psychotherapists is strip away people's protective strategies. 1. There are at least three key things you want to know: 2. 3. 4.