6 Tips to Deal When You Feel Out of Control in Life: When Your World’s All Shook Up “Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown I celebrated an anniversary recently. My husband and I had retired for the evening as usual—said our goodnights and went to sleep. Our attempts to escape the upper level were hampered by the violent shaking. Skirting around the shards of broken stemware, we fumbled with the house keys and made our escape to the front porch. We were fortunate that our home did not collapse on top of us, that in our community there was no loss of life, and the tsunami that we were warned about never materialized. Although we were lucky and it only lasted sixty seconds, I put earthquakes at the top of my list of things I never want to experience again. So why celebrate the anniversary of such an event? One minute your life is normal. You have no control over the event specific to you, but you do have the power to decide how to deal with it. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Photos here and here.
40 Ways to Feel More Alive “I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive.” ~Joseph Campbell As I write this, I am two hours away from my first weekly acting class in Los Angeles. I’ve been here for almost two years now, and though I loved Community Theater as a kid, I never so much as researched acting classes until a couple weeks back. I frequently said I wanted to do it, along with painting classes, which I’m starting next week, but I always made excuses not to start either. I was too busy. The list went on and on, but I realized the last two were the big ones for me. Also, I hesitate to give large amounts of time to hobbies I have no intention of pursuing professionally. I realized last month, however, that I want to prioritize more of the things that make me feel passionate and excited—and not just occasionally, but regularly. I don’t know if these classes are “leading” anywhere. Say Something You’ve Been Meaning to Say 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
10 Signs You Are a 'Good Girl' & 10 Tips for Discovering Your 'Good Woman.' Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice? Eh…I’ll Pass. I’m noticing more and more these days that we women (my perfectionist, Virgo self included) have a hard time letting go of being a ‘good girl.’ You know, the one all in pink who sits quietly in church, never tells a lie and is the apple of daddy’s eye? No, you don’t, because she doesn’t exist. But that’s all in the past, right? Well, not exactly. Our bodies may have matured, but the way that we interact with the world has changed very little from when we were four years old. To break out of the ‘good girl’ mold, you don’t have to become Lady Gaga (one is enough, thank you). I’m not going to sugar coat it: change hurts. 10 Signs You Are a ‘Good Girl’ (and 10 Tips for Discovering Your ‘Good Woman’) 1. A good girl doesn’t want to rock the boat. 2. “Oh, no thank you, I’m full.” We’ve all heard the catchphrase of women still caught in ‘good girl’ mentality. 3. 4. 5. 6. Good girls don’t get angry. 7. 8. 9. 10. Editor: Brianna Bemel
You Can Only Control 7 Things in Your Life You Might Like The 7 Questions I Asked That Seriously Changed My Life READ In my experience, life can be pretty complicated. Happiness and success (however you define either one) have a lot to do with each other. We make millions of little decisions all the time, and the result of each one is either net positive, net negative, or neutral. Net negative decisions, such as filling up on food that doesn’t make you feel good, skipping the nightly teeth-brushing, letting that downer friend cramp your style, or forgoing the gym—make it difficult to reach your goals because your decisions don't make you feel good, empowered, or confident. Let go of all the stuff you can't control and start using your time to master what you can control. While the healthier choice may seem harder, it pays off bigger. 1. Most people don't even think about their breathing (I myself used to talk for many seconds at a time and forget to breathe!). 2. We all have a voice in our heads. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 1. 2. 3.
Hundred Goals | Inspiration to Live Your Dream 101 Ways To Live Your Life To The Fullest “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. How do you feel about your life today? If your answer to any of the above is a no, maybe or not sure, that means you’re not living your life to the fullest. This is a list of 101 timeless principles I use to live my best life, and I hope they’ll help you to do so too. Here are 101 ways to live your life to the fullest:
your permission slip I’ve got the Goddess of Permission on speed dial and she was thrilled to oblige with this sweeping list of acts of self expression and liberation. We can draw on it whenever we need. Come back often. you have permission to : not finish reading books that you’re not really enjoying. : walk out of movies that suck (and hey, if you leave in the first twenty minutes, you can get your money back.) : let it go to voicemail (especially during dinner, or snuggling, or watching So You Think You Can Dance?) : give birthday gifts anytime of the year (which means you can be late or early and you can give yourself time to find just the right gift.) : talk shit about WalMart (even if they do have the economic power of a small country.) : cut the obligations cords that are driven by guilt : pursue your own agenda. : own next to nothing, live on a mattress, read and write and make love all day with no other responsibilities*** : leave your current business model so you can go do something bigger than you***
30 Thought-Provoking Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Day Thought-provoking questions are deep inquiries that shine a light on the essence of living and awaken our full potential as human beings. Voltaire, the writer, historian, and philosopher of the French Enlightenment era, admonishes us to judge a man by his questions rather than his answers: you’ll get to know someone better by asking them the right questions. In the same way, you know yourself better by asking yourself the right questions. People who continually ask themselves questions that provoke introspection will, in effect, create a foundation for a happier life full of purpose and meaning. The Law of Cause and Effect states that if you put out good thoughts accompanied by good actions, you will receive good things. If you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection, ask yourself questions that provoke your mind and force you to reconsider the way you live and the way you look at the world. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. 21. 22.
More Wisdom Prefer to give gifts out of no obligation, on no occasion, and with deep knowledge of and compassion for the receiver. No book contains all wisdom. Remember to play and have fun. Live long, and die quick. Living involves suffering, but considerably less suffering if you understand that fact. If you do someone a favor unasked, do not demand a show of their gratitude— you may get it, but you will also earn their contempt. Receiving something unasked-for in no way obligates the receiver to reciprocate. Avoid the false dichotomy of “selfishness” and “selflessness”: receiving happens as a direct and simultaneous consequence of giving freely. Quantify your progress towards your goals by taking regular, objective measurements of your position. Don’t lust for results— continue to do the right things to achieve your aims, and remain objective and detached from the events along the way. Apply the highest skill you possess to whatever you do. Everyone has many good ideas.
31 Questions That Will Change Your Life Who said that there had to be an absolute answer for each and every question? Sometimes the ability to ask yourself questions’ an act to challenge yourself and help you to be a better person. Try the following questions that may change your life. Are you doing what you truly want to do?Do you have a dream to follow? Are there any questions which changed your life but not mentioned here? Plus, stop worrying so much if you want a better life: 20 Things Life is too Short to Worry About Featured photo credit: Concept of business break through via Shutterstock
Life Moves 25 Great Motivational Quotes You've Never Heard Of inShare66 63Probably my most read post ever was the 20 Greatest Motivational Quotes of All Time. So much so that I expanded the post and wrote a book with the 50 greatest quotes in that is now sent free to my new newsletter subscribers. Sign up in the box on the left if you want a copy. As I was trawling some quotes the other day it struck me how many amazing ones there were that I’d never heard before and I thought it would be cool to collate the best for your perusal. Now of course I realize that you may well have heard of one or two, but I genuinely hadn’t (except one), so please don’t give me a hard time or point out that you knew 18 out of 20 and thus I’m a philistine and deserve a damn good thrashing. 1. Too many people when coming under attack crumble when instead they could view that attack/criticism as a way to grow and mature and come back stronger. 2. You know that, right? 3. This may almost seem anti-motivational, but it really isn’t. 3b. Yes, yes and thrice I say yes. 4. 5. 6.