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Hallmarks of Bad Parenting that are Actually good for kids.

Hallmarks of Bad Parenting that are Actually good for kids.
Anyone who grew up in the '80s knows that parenting used to be a whole other ball of wax. Allergies were rare, kids roamed the suburbs in roving bicycle gangs and unsupervised adventures were around every corner. Kids who grew up in the '90s couldn't leave the house without a speech on stranger danger and an extra dose of Flintstones vitamins, just in case. But it turns out there are some things that lazy/negligent parents kind of got right. #5. "Because I said so!" Every parent winds up saying this, whether they like it or not. No, in these situations it's best to quickly put your foot down and make it clear who's the boss. Getty"You lost, kid. The Surprising Benefit: Actually, science says that those fights provide excellent opportunities for your children to practice their reasoning, discussion and negotiation skills. GettyAlthough raising a wuss means you can force them to wear stupid costumes and dance for you. Getty"OK, since it's your roulette gun, I'll take the first three turns." Related:  Hallmarks of Bad Parenting that are Actually Good For Kids...

Mr. Handsomeface Blog » Caturday: Furball Street Songs: The Hits of Sesame Street The following is an article from Uncle John's 24-Karat Gold Bathroom Reader. For generations of kids, the songs on Sesame Street were the first pop songs they ever heard. Here are the stories behind some favorite ones. (YouTube link) In 1971 Sesame Street mastermind Jim Henson, puppeteer Jerry Juhl, head writer Jeff Moss, and chief songwriter Joe Raposo decided to write a sketch for every letter of the alphabet. (YouTube link) This song is more famous from The Muppet Show. (YouTube link) The 1970 producer Jon Stone asked Joe Raposo to "write a song for the frog," meaning Kermit, and gave him educational guidelines for the lyrics, a common practice on the show. (YouTube link) Jon Stone wanted the show's theme to build momentum and excitement -exactly what an opening song should do. (YouTube link) This Raposo ballad, about trying to do things even if you're afraid you aren't good at them, was written for the show in 1970 and was sung on the show in English, Spanish, and even sign language.

The Eight Toughest Babies in the World We tend to think of newborns as being helpless and needy, unable to survive on their own for a day, let alone a few days. But they are surprisingly resilient and you’d be surprised what some babes can make it through. Here are 8 stories of amazing things babies have actually managed to survive through, in most of the cases, completely unscathed. Be warned: While the following stories are miraculous stories of survival, many of the tales are also quite depressing, particularly those not involving natural disasters. If you are at all sensitive to violence against children, do not continue reading. Illustrative image via j2dread [Flickr] A Bullet in the Chest When one couple in Argentina decided the world was going to end due to global warming, they decided the best thing they could do to protect their children from such a terrible fate was to end their lives. Source A Seven-Story Fall Source A Ten-Story Fall Source Struck By An SUV Source A Raging Tornado Source A Rod Through the Brain Source Source

Parents' expectations, styles can harm college students' self-esteem (8/18/2008) Student anxieties often based on exaggerated perceptions of what parents expect, UCF study finds Mom and Dad are going to flip out over my 3.3 GPA and failure to land a top internship. Such anxieties, common among college students, can harm self-esteem and make it more difficult to adjust to school. But a new University of Central Florida study has found that students' anxieties often are based on exaggerated perceptions of what their parents expect. The problem, UCF psychologist Kimberly Renk says, is that many parents and students hold different perceptions of what the parents' expectations are. Students often are trying to meet goals far tougher than the ideals their parents have in mind. The study, which involved surveys of 174 students and 230 of their parents, is published online in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence and is scheduled for the September edition. Several studies by Renk and other researchers have shown the benefits of authoritative parenting for younger children.

The Natural Parenting Label Welcome to the November Carnival of Natural Parenting: What is natural parenting? This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our Carnival coincides with the launch of Natural Parents Network, a community of parents and parents-to-be who practice or are interested in attachment parenting and natural family living. Join us at Natural Parents Network to be informed, empowered, and inspired! Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants. The internet is full of words and phrases that I’d never heard of until I discovered some folks on a forum, blog or email list chatting away about that particular thing. Natural Parenting is more a lifestyle or mindset than a checklist of acronyms that represent various parenting choices. What is Natural Parenting all about? Natural Parenting is primarily about respect. Does this choice respect my child as an individual? Natural Learning

Parenting Styles - Strong Bonds - Building Family Connections An authoritarian parent has all the power. Decisions are made for the child, without discussion or explanation. Authoritarian parenting is cold and firm. Indulgent parents allow children to have a lot of power. Boundaries are not set or enforced. Indulgent parenting is warm and soft. An indifferent parent may not show much interest in the child's needs. In authoritative parenting, parents set clear boundaries and children are allowed some power within those boundaries. Abusive parents hurt their children. Parents in a family often have different parenting styles. However, it is important for parents to work together, even when their styles are different. Even when parents have trouble getting along with each other, they should try to talk to each other and come to an agreement about parenting. Parents who have separated still need to work together to parent their children appropriately. As far as possible, the rules in each home need to be consistent. Emotional abuse is mainly verbal.

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Mothers' influence is decisive in tots' first year [B]Study says parenting style and baby's temperament predict challenging behavior in later childhood[/B] The way mothers interact with their babies in the first year of life is strongly related to how children behave later on. Both a mother's parenting style and an infant's temperament reliably predict challenging behavior in later childhood, according to Benjamin Lahey and his team from the University of Chicago in the US. Their findings (1) have just been published online in Springer's Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology. The researchers looked at whether an infant's temperament and his mother's parenting skills during the first year of life might predict behavioral problems, in just over 1,800 children aged 4-13 years. The results indicate that both maternal ratings of their infants' temperament and parenting styles during the first year are surprisingly good predictors of maternal ratings of child conduct problems through age 13 years. Source: Springer

Infant Vision Development By Gary Heiting, OD One of the greatest moments when having a child is the first time your newborn daughter or son opens their eyes and makes eye contact with you. But don't be concerned if that doesn't happen right away. The visual system of a newborn infant takes some time to develop. It takes several months for your child's vision to develop fully. Infant Vision Development Starts During Pregnancy Your child's vision development begins before birth. Be sure to follow the instructions your OB/GYN doctor gives you regarding proper nutrition, including supplements, and the proper amount of rest you need during your pregnancy. Smoking is particularly hazardous during pregnancy, as cigarette smoke contains an estimated 3,000 different chemicals that can potentially harm humans — including carbon monoxide, a known fetal toxin. Even taking common medications like aspirin can be dangerous to your baby when you are pregnant, increasing the risk of low birth weight and problems during delivery.

No TV for Children Under 2, Doctors' Group Urges In the past few years, a new kind of specialty TV channel has been inserted in regular programming: TV for toddlers. Networks such as BabyTV air shows that were devised for and aimed to children under two. Most parents who have watched these strange, hypnotic shows are amazed by how their babies are mesmerized by them. But one cannot help but ask: Is it healthy to place a baby, who is barely aware of its surroundings, in front of an 51″ plasma TV with CGI cartoon characters bouncing around in high definition and chanting strange things? Are these shows “educational” or mind-numbing hypnosis sessions scientifically devised to subliminally capture babies’ attention? No matter what’s the answer, a group of doctors agree that TV is simply not good for babies.

The Nursery Reveal | Domestic Adventure {View all nursery related posts here} After I was up at least five times Friday night to use the bathroom, Chris and I were both wide awake at 5 a.m. on Saturday morning. I sent him out in the dark 9-degree weather to get bacon and ice cream while I made waffles. Our nursery also took about 9 months to finish, but seeing how we started with down-to-the-studs walls, we’ll give ourselves a break. Here is the view from the door: And then the view of the opposite side of the room. Do you love it? It is all the yellow and gray goodness that I had hoped for when I set out to design our nursery scheme back in August. Shall we get into some of the details? Our crib is centered on the back wall and framed by an on-clearance mirror that we originally scored at Lowe’s and then stole from the guest room (sorry, guests). Our larger-than-life mobile is made of some fun poms from PomLove on Etsy and some of the fantastic star lanterns that my sister Holly made for our wedding. Source list: