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How Not to Be Offended

How Not to Be Offended
Editor’s note: This post was written by Shemsi Prinzivalli. There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date. Yes, this is psychodynamic. All of that said, almost nothing is personal. This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us. This is also not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of. The great challenge of our world is to live a life of contentment, regardless of what other people do, say, think or believe. Source: “The Art of Not Being Offended,” from shemsi-prinzivalli.blogspot.gr

Ten Lies You’ll Hear Before Pursuing Your Dream (photo: salty_soul) Unfortunately, just before you take your first step on the righteous journey to pursue your dreams, people around you, even the ones who deeply care for you, will give you awful advice. It’s not because they have evil intentions. So they try to protect you by shielding you from the possibility of failure, which, in effect, also shields you from the possibility of making your dreams a reality. As our friend Steve Jobs says: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Here are ten ill-advised tips (lies) people will likely tell you when you decide to pursue your dreams and the reasons why they are dreadfully mistaken: 1. Someday? 2. Wrong! 3. Sure, I suppose. 4. It’s only impossible if you never do anything about it. 5. That’s because those lucky few got off their rear ends and did something about it! 6. Failures are simply stepping stones to success. 7. 8. You don’t need more money. 9. You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.

List of unsolved problems in philosophy This is a list of some of the major unsolved problems in philosophy. Clearly, unsolved philosophical problems exist in the lay sense (e.g. "What is the meaning of life?", "Where did we come from?" Aesthetics[edit] Essentialism[edit] In art, essentialism is the idea that each medium has its own particular strengths and weaknesses, contingent on its mode of communication. Art objects[edit] This problem originally arose from the practice rather than theory of art. While it is easy to dismiss these assertions, further investigation[who?] Epistemology[edit] Epistemological problems are concerned with the nature, scope and limitations of knowledge. Gettier problem[edit] In 1963, however, Edmund Gettier published an article in the periodical Analysis entitled "Is Justified True Belief Knowledge?" In response to Gettier's article, numerous philosophers have offered modified criteria for "knowledge." Infinite regression[edit] Molyneux problem[edit] Münchhausen trilemma[edit] Qualia[edit] Ethics[edit]

21 Brilliant Productivity Tools Every College Student Must Use | Get Degrees If you ask a college student about productivity, he won't have much to say. And you really can't blame him. He leads a dynamic life where academics and fun go hand in hand, with the latter becoming a more important activity most of the times. However, with the advent of internet and web 2.0, a college student now has access to so many amazing tools that he could finish up his work as well as enjoy life to the fullest without the guilt. The following list mentions 21 such tools which could skyrocket the productivity of college students when it comes to doing research, communicating with fellow students and dealing with assignments. Research and Taking Notes 1.Questia Questia is an excellent online research tool which features a huge web based library of magazines, books, journals, papers, articles and much more. Although you need to pay about $19.95 per month for its membership, you could save on books and magazines you buy if you subscribe to it. 2.Free Book Notes 3.Wikipedia 4.Notely 7.

Dealing with Covertly Aggressive Personalities Two Basic Types of Aggression There are two basic types of aggression: overt-aggression and covert-aggression. When you’re determined to have something and you’re open, direct and obvious in your manner of fighting, your behavior is best labeled overtly aggressive. When you’re out to “win,” dominate or control, but are subtle, underhanded or deceptive enough to hide your true intentions, your behavior is most appropriately labeled covertly aggressive. Now, avoiding any overt display of aggression while simultaneously intimidating others into giving you what you want is a powerfully manipulative maneuver. That’s why covert-aggression is most often the vehicle for interpersonal manipulation. Acts of Covert-Aggression vs. Most of us have engaged in some sort of covertly aggressive behavior from time to time. The tactics of deceit, manipulation and control are a steady diet for covert-aggressive personality. The Process of Victimization 1. 2. 3. 4. Recognizing Aggressive Agendas

Alternative Sleep Cycles: You Don’t Really Need 6-8 Hours! Most people only think that there is one way to sleep: Go to sleep at night for 6-8 hours, wake up in the morning, stay awake for 16-18 hours and then repeat. Actually, that is called a monophasic sleep cycle, which is only 1 of 5 major sleep cycles that have been used successfully throughout history. The other 4 are considered polyphasic sleep cycles due to the multiple number of naps they require each day. How is this possible? Well the most important of every sleep cycle is the Stage 4 REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, which has been shown to provide the benefits of sleep to the brain above all other stages of sleep. This way, you still get the benefits of 8 hours of sleep without wasting all of the time it takes to get to REM cycles, resulting in a much more efficient sleep cycle. Uberman Cycle: 20 to 30 minute naps every 4 hours, resulting in 6 naps each day. Everyman Cycle: One longer “core” nap that is supplemented with several 20-30 minute naps. Dymaxion Cycle: Biphasic/Siesta Cycle:

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The Art of Influence Secrets to complaining effectively, motivating loved ones, and getting what you want without being a jerk. Illustrations by Lou Brooks Babies and psychopaths have one thing in common: They're excellent at getting what they want. But for some, grabbing the brass ring is a constant source of stress and confusion. Were it uniformly advantageous to be aggressive, timid, positive, or negative in pursuit of one's goal, evolution would have selected for only such types. Complain to Win —Not to Feel Worse Kvetch, Bitcher, Debbie Downer: No one likes a chronic complainer, and we've got multiple derogatory terms to prove it. Complaining at inappropriate times (when other people are in the spotlight, for example, or when they are focused on issues bigger than yours) can make you look selfish and could further prevent you from being heard. The first step to effective complaining, then, is deciding if you truly want a concrete result or if you just need emotional validation. 6 Persuasive Buzzwords

Image is Everything: The Secrets of Body Language Share this infographic on your site! <a href=” src=” alt=”Body Language” width=”500″ border=”0″ /></a><br />Source: <a href=” Image is Everything: The Secrets of Body Language At work, at home, at play, famous, or infamous, your body language tells the world all about you. How We Communicate: 93% of what we communicate is non-verbal Gestures 55% Voice 38% Words 7% A majority of what we communicate is through gestures and how we physically position our bodies. The Face: 7 Universal Expressions: Happiness Sadness Anger Fear Surprise Contempt Disgust There are over 3000 emotional expressions that we react to… And over 10,000 that we register. The Body: Open your body to face your audience. Sit up straight. (= in control of your emotions) vs. Crossing legs presents a “closed” view of yourself.

John Lennon's 20 Best Quotes In Celebration Of His 72nd Birthday October 9th is a big day for one of the first families of music. Not only is it the 37th birthday of John and Yoko's only son, Sean Lennon, John Lennon would have turned the ripe old age of 72 today. The late Beatles legend, who passed away at the age of 40, wrote some of the band's most famous songs and had an uncanny ability of speaking in timeless quips. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. 16. 17. 18. 19. 20. CORRECTION: An earlier version of this post stated that Sean Lennon was 36. Photos courtesy of Robert Whitaker on behalf of LIFE Books Loading Slideshow Beatles Christmas Show in 1964, PgCaptured Moment From 1965 Christmas Special, PgsChiswick Park, PgFarringdon Studio in London, PgsHELP! Also on HuffPost:

Camus' "The Myth of Sisyphus Look, so, nothing matters, right? Shit's fucking weird. We all want to know how the universe ultimately works or who's running the show or whatever, and it turns out - TRICK. FUCKING. QUESTION. No one's running the show, and the world is unreasonable. So what do we do? Sisyphus, same thing. So, to embrace the absurd, you have to acknowledge that life is absurd and live it anyway. Fuel Calculators » Fuel-Economy.co.uk Ever wondered how much that trip to the shop really costs you? How much fuel you're going to need to get to your relatives miles and miles away? Or maybe you are just curious to see how litres per 100km really compares to the good old fashioned MPG? Well wonder now more! Journey Cost To calculate how much a journey will actually cost in fuel, please provide the miles covered, the estimated MPG for your vehicle, and the price of your petrol in pence. If you found this useful, why not try our new petrol calculator at Petrol-Calculator.co.uk? Required Fuel To calculate how much fuel you'll need for a given journey, please provide the distance in miles you will be covering on your journey, and the estimated MPG of your vehicle. Real-Life Miles Per Gallon To work out what MPG you are really getting, please provide the cost of the fuel, how much you spent on the fuel, and how far it took you. Litres/100KM & Miles Per Gallon

5 No-BS Ways to Become Awesome in 5 Minutes You’re at college and working two jobs. You have a date in 15 minutes. You’re a single parent with a long commute and 5 hours of sleep per day. Or maybe you’re just not ready to make a huge time commitment. Whatever your situation, tools that can turbo-charge your life fast are handy. The bad news is, long-term change requires time and effort. The good news is, self-improvement techniques and exercises can be very time-efficient. 1. In a recent study, subjects who wrote down their goals were 42% more likely to achieve them than the ones who didn’t. That’s right: a pen, a piece of paper and a few minutes are all you need to near-double your chance of success. 2. Your innermost thoughts are a self-fulfilling prophecy; believing in yourself is crucial to success. Here’s how you can stay positive day in, day out. Get a notebook and write down 3 awesome things you did in the past 24 hours every evening. You’ll be amazed at how much better focusing on your positive achievements makes you feel!

Reading - Harvard Views of Readers, Readership, and Reading History Robert DarntonCarl H. Pforzheimer University Professorand Director of the University Library Reading: Harvard Views of Readers, Readership, and Reading History is an online exploration of the intellectual, cultural, and political history of reading as reflected in the historical holdings of the Harvard Libraries. For Internet users worldwide, Reading provides unparalleled digital access to a significant selection of unique source materials: For researchers, teachers, and students who may not have ready access to extensive historical collections, Reading provides an inspired opportunity to participate more fully in this rapidly expanding research area. Reading is made possible with generous support from Arcadia.

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