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How Not to Be Offended

How Not to Be Offended
There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date. In other words, the majority of people in our world say and do what they do from their own set of fears, conclusions, defenses and attempts to survive. Most of it, even when aimed directly at us, has nothing to do with us. Yes, this is psychodynamic. All of that said, almost nothing is personal. This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us. This is also not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of.

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